Can we be friends?
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I can. guys whose personality I like but can't fathom sex with are put in the Friends Zone. I have since come to terms that this rarely works. So I have fewer male friends and I work on keeping them as shallow as possible.
the_reverend
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not really...but i CAN be really good friends with them even if i want to have sex with them. lol!
SilverTrain
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I definitely have had many female friends.
If I am more than a little sexually attracted to them, then it gets more complicated.
SilverTrain
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Hmm, "100% straight", the original post, and the quoted portion ^^^^^^^^ don't seem to jibe.
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I have plenty of girl friends that I don't want to have sex with. Sure I've thought about it but thats as far as it goes. It might just be me but for most of my girl friends I value their friendship more than having what would most likely be a one time thing.
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Depends on the male friend... I mean... some I'm totally not feeling in that way.... like the thought makes me want to hurl. Basically, just cause you have a penis, doesn't mean I want to fuck you.
Yes, but finding women who we (guys) never want to have sex with, but at the same time want to be good friends with, is much tougher. :biggrin1:
Why must we never think of a platonic friend sexually? I do not understand the need to deny the impulse. I certainly think it is possible to have a friendship with a woman without (even subconsciously) seeking a sexual relationship with her. I have female friends who are both lovely people and so utterly unattractive as to never cross my mind as sexual partners. I have female friends who are lovely people and hot as hell but the friendships were still completely platonic. That doesn't mean wanting to fuck their brains out doesn't cross my mind from time to time but if they're not interested, so be it. I don't buy the notion that an acknowledgement of their sexuality somehow forever "taints" our future friendship. I, and they, have more self control than that.
Yes - if you know that they have some STD, if you know that they are jealous as fuck or have other psychological issues, if they are ugly and in every other way incompatible.
Some people are really good fun to be with but unless you seek problems, intimacy is best avoided.
Cap and I have discussed this many, many oh so many times before. We are just wired completely different. That's all there is to it.
I have many male friends that I would never ever entertain the thought of having sex with them. It's just not in the realm of possibilities.
Cap has already confessed years ago to thinking my own Mum is sexy. He said if something ever happened when me and my Dad were out of the picture... well. I think it's icky, but she is a very attractive woman.
I think given the opportunity he would revert to his old ways and "do" every female that came across his path. I've fantasized mostly about unattainable people like stars and such. My friends are my friends. There's no "taking it to another level." That, to me is another world, and they couldn't breathe in that atmosphere. Makes sense? To me it does.
I have many male friends that I would never ever entertain the thought of having sex with them. It's just not in the realm of possibilities.
Cap has already confessed years ago to thinking my own Mum is sexy. He said if something ever happened when me and my Dad were out of the picture... well. I think it's icky, but she is a very attractive woman.
I think given the opportunity he would revert to his old ways and "do" every female that came across his path. I've fantasized mostly about unattainable people like stars and such. My friends are my friends. There's no "taking it to another level." That, to me is another world, and they couldn't breathe in that atmosphere. Makes sense? To me it does.
If they have an STD - well, the desire will still persist. As for the other conditions, if we were that incompatible, we wouldn't bother being good friends. Or even acquaintances.
Yes. I have a male friend that I ballroom dance with unbelievably well, but have absolutely no attraction to him whatsoever. None. Zilch. Uh-uh. Ain't never gonna happen, baby.
Then I have the male friends who are undeniably sexy, sweet guys I adore. And yes there are moments when we might stand a little too close when we are a little too drunk and the thought flits through my head, "We could so have sex right now." but we don't act on it.
And then there is SilverTrain. Hmm...
