Can women adjust to a smaller penis after a big one?

[joeyjoe123]

Hi, i am a brand new member, pardon the pun! I have an average penis size though quite long, 7 inches in length(pushed to the pubic bone around 7 and three quarters) and the girth at the base of my penis is about 5.3 inches so i am not Mandingo.
For a long time i have always wondered if a woman who i start dating has had sex with bigger men, this has made me hold back my feelings for women and i usually end what we have. I have never been told i am small and i exposed myself to pornography for many years so maybe my insecurities come from that.

If a guy is smaller than a womans previous partners can we bridge the gap? Is it a lot to do with touch and passion etc? and is it a huge difference to have sex with a bigger penis?(maybe thats for the women to answer).

It really is a mental thing with me but i cant get round it. Any advice good or bad will be appreciated.

Regards
Joe

 

[D_CountVonBhigBohner]

I believe that once a women experiences a thicker or longer cock, she never forgets. I've been in situations a few times where I was told I was much bigger or thicker than her ex, bf, husband, etc.

 

[joeyjoe123]

I wonder how much of a deal breaker it is? and could you make up with oral etc. Would a woman dump a man with a big penis for someone smaller? it does confuse me the world of sex!

 

[D_Tam_Ponds]

Uh, dude. You are WELL above average, and furthermore, right smack in the 'ideal' range. All else being equal, most women would prefer sex with your size cock than with any other - smaller or bigger.

Point is, quit being so paranoid about it - they are with you, right? If the huge one was the be-all end-all, they would still be there - but instead they are with you. Just remember, actions speak louder than words.

 

[joeyjoe123]

Thanks for that darwinlily, may i call you lily? ha. It is taking my life over, i am 33 now and always jump ship because i get mad paranoid and depressed. I have always been obsessional about things and this has been an obsession for years. I really dont know were it really stemmed from and maybe i need a kind of counselling, Can you get counselling for this sort of problem?.

Uh, dude. You are WELL above average, and furthermore, right smack in the 'ideal' range. All else being equal, most women would prefer sex with your size cock than with any other - smaller or bigger.

Point is, quit being so paranoid about it - they are with you, right? If the huge one was the be-all end-all, they would still be there - but instead they are with you. Just remember, actions speak louder than words.

 

[BlackGirl]

Men need to realize that for many women sex is emotional as well as physical. I have been with guys who were big, but if their personality began to turn me off, the sex began to feel not so good. Now, unless you are 2 or 3 inches, I don't think you have anything to worry about. You have a nice size to boot.

 

[joeyjoe123]

Thanks for your reply, i know i need to get my head round this problem and just relax. Thankyou for the compliment too :smile: Didnt think this site would be too friendly but i'm impressed.

Men need to realize that for many women sex is emotional as well as physical. I have been with guys who were big, but if their personality began to turn me off, the sex began to feel not so good. Now, unless you are 2 or 3 inches, I don't think you have anything to worry about. You have a nice size to boot.

 

[ShannonH]

Thanks for that darwinlily, may i call you lily? ha. It is taking my life over, i am 33 now and always jump ship because i get mad paranoid and depressed. I have always been obsessional about things and this has been an obsession for years. I really dont know were it really stemmed from and maybe i need a kind of counselling, Can you get counselling for this sort of problem?.

Just search around for a psychologist if you really believe it's an issue, since if you're ending relationships that are still good for both of you then it's impacting your life.

You've got a big one, but sometimes I think bigger guys worry about it more. I'd been measuring mine since I was 13 and comparing it against charts, so in a lot of ways my initial sexual development was very focused on my own dick. Now that I'm older and (slightly) wiser I've learned that sex is complicated, and there are so many more factors to it that penis size (apart from uncomfortable extremes on one end or the other) pales in comparison.

 

[joeyjoe123]

Interesting take, i also compared mine to charts etc since maybe 16 years old. I was extremely focused on my penis growing up and i can quite confidently say i think about this subject every day! Its the first thing i really talk about with new gf's and i have realised women dont like being questioned about ex's! Thanks for your take on this.

Just search around for a psychologist if you really believe it's an issue, since if you're ending relationships that are still good for both of you then it's impacting your life.

You've got a big one, but sometimes I think bigger guys worry about it more. I'd been measuring mine since I was 13 and comparing it against charts, so in a lot of ways my initial sexual development was very focused on my own dick. Now that I'm older and (slightly) wiser I've learned that sex is complicated, and there are so many more factors to it that penis size (apart from uncomfortable extremes on one end or the other) pales in comparison.

 

[helgaleena]

This business of 'adjusting' to a penis is a matter of muscle tone. Think of how stretched out a woman gets from pushing a baby through there! Yet the muscles tighten up again. Those who enjoy fisting often are able to 'snap back' to tight and even be crushingly tight.

It's all a matter of how fit a woman chooses to maintain herself down there, barring trauma. Sometimes birth will cause tears beyond fixing, but that is not the norm.

 

[Riven650]

This business of 'adjusting' to a penis is a matter of muscle tone. Think of how stretched out a woman gets from pushing a baby through there! Yet the muscles tighten up again. Those who enjoy fisting often are able to 'snap back' to tight and even be crushingly tight.

It's all a matter of how fit a woman chooses to maintain herself down there, barring trauma. Sometimes birth will cause tears beyond fixing, but that is not the norm.

Very true helgaleena, very true

 

[MercyfulFate]

Yes, a girl I know dated a guy with a 10 1/2 inch dick for 4 years and now dates a guy that's 6 inches.

 

[Intrigue]

This business of 'adjusting' to a penis is a matter of muscle tone. Think of how stretched out a woman gets from pushing a baby through there! Yet the muscles tighten up again. Those who enjoy fisting often are able to 'snap back' to tight and even be crushingly tight.

It's all a matter of how fit a woman chooses to maintain herself down there, barring trauma. Sometimes birth will cause tears beyond fixing, but that is not the norm.

Wise are you in the ways of the vag. *sage nod*

 

[Intrigue]

Yes, a girl I know dated a guy with a 10 1/2 inch dick for 4 years and now dates a guy that's 6 inches.

and probably still having rocking orgasms... size is nice but it aint everything.

 

[Bunny]

I think some others have probably put your mind to rest but women's bodies are very unique and can adjust back to previous states fairly easily - but as others have said, its what you do with it that counts...sex isn't all about the physical.

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

There is way much more to sex and LOVE...(there I said the word).... than the size of the dick. Listen to the ladies' advice here.. They are wise...and have given you some good advice.

Sex is DIFFERENT with a large cock, but not better! Just different.
I've had sex with men who were 5, 7, 8, 9 inches... and always go back to my 5 inch... the difference? I LOVE HIM.. and he knows what to do to rock my world...Oh, and yes, I can feel still feel him. I laughingly say, "my rubber band just snaps back in place"

You are what most women would describe as perfect in size and shape. You, my friend, have nothing to worry about. Get that self-confidence back in check and don't back out of the next one because of some self-inflicted fears.

 

[LPSGeezer]

If you've been obsessive for most of your life to the point that it takes over and makes you dump perfectly good relationships you might want to consider OCD or some other disorder that keeps you fixated on the negative. Other than that it sounds like you have a decent dick, so just use it or lose it and give yourself and someone a chance instead of running away and from what???

 

[Al7inchs_n_thick86]

What they all said^.

You are worried about other guys with bigger dicks; while most men are worrying about guys with dicks like YOURS (ideal; and bigger than average).

If you really want to hedge your bets... Giving women amazing (squirting) G and Deep Spot orgasms and great oral will not hurt your cause any.

But I would also like to re-iterate what was written before me. If you have studied the charts, know you are above average, and still have this (somewhat) crippling lack of confidence; perhaps there are some underlying, unresolved issues at hand that must be addressed before a meaningful relationship can be established (IE: Problem may not be your dick size or thoughts of dick size but some deeper trauma regarding relationships/worthiness... Dick size being only the scapegoat.)

But hey; I'm no doctor. Just some dude banging on a keyboard.

I wish you the best.

Blessings.

 

[dolfette]

i have never dumped a guy for having a small dick.
i have however dumped a guy for being so fucking obsessively angsty about his dick size, despite my reassurances, that it sapped all the fun out of sex.

boys, can you ever be happy with a girl who doesn't have the tightest vag you've ever fucked?

 

[dude_007]

Men are far, far more concerned about dick size than women.

Far more concerned. Especially the hung men. Far more concerned.

In fact, I would argue, the main reason women even get concerned is because they know that's what men are concerned about.