Can you be aroused without being attracted?

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by stephanf, Nov 22, 2009.

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Can you be aroused without being attracted?

  1. Totally impossible

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  2. Never happened, but it could

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  3. Yes, but It would be tough

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  4. Easy for me

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  5. (I'm a man and shoudn't vote here)

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  1. stephanf

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    Ladies,

    Can you become aroused with a male partner even though you are not attracted to him?
     
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    I've learned as a fact that it is a possibility to become aroused - mainly from the situation and knowing what will happen - but not beeing either physically nor emotionally attracted to that person.

    And eventhough that might be handy for shooting a porno, in real life I don't really see a reason to fuck someone I didn't precieve to be attractive in the first place!
     
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    Interesting question =) I think you'll find that most could, but most wouldn't see the point, unless like Katt said, it was for some reason other than love/lust.
     
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    How about a simple yes vote with no explanation necessary?
    Sometimes in rape cases the body may respond to the act which would cause horrible guilt
    in a rape victim.
    C.B.:saevil:
     
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    I don't have a personal experience with this one...
    ours bodies can react to pheromones in ways we never thought...
    and to other sensations...
    more on an interesting note...
    there are a couple of rape cases going around with this subject...
    but mainly men who felt raped by women...
    one man was suing his school because he was aroused during slide shows of vaginas in a feminist class...
    but the professor was a total bitch to him to...
    so I think the rape chargers were to embarrass her more then anything...
    but there have been men who were taken advantage of by women when under the influence...
    some even file rape against girls who had oral sex with them during intoxication...
    so I think its the body's natural reaction to stimuli is to be aroused...
    no matter if you are attracted or not...
    it just happens...
     
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    Happens frequently. In fact, many times I don't even understand why I'm aroused but it just happens even when I'm not attracted to the person.
     
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    for me i said totally impossible.
     
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    why is this only for woman. This seems like a valid question for any sex of any age.
     
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    In my experience, arousal has always accompanied attraction. The attraction is not necessarily physical.
     
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    It's in the Womens Issues section of the forum.
     
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    And that's probably because the asker wanted to know from women only, regardless who else might believe they have relevant answers.
     
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