Can you date someone using drugs
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It's completely possible seeing as many people are drug users, the most common drug being alcohol, and that also being one of the actually more harmful and addictive substances so yes it's possible. Legality alone isn't a good indicator.
I would suggest trying to avoid situations where people deal in addictive substances or substances that have long-lasting effects or can cause permanent brain damage, but beyond that it's generally safe as long as everyone understands the limit.
I would suggest trying to avoid situations where people deal in addictive substances or substances that have long-lasting effects or can cause permanent brain damage, but beyond that it's generally safe as long as everyone understands the limit.
LOL luka, i heard your nickname was Fag ash Lil hehe, good point though.
i would say no. run do not walk for the nearest exit. like someone else said, maybe i could deal with weed a few times a week, but this is over the top. the only experiences i have with anyone who did this was that they constantly asked for money. and have seen others where their teeth fall out. this is an ugly drug.
There are a great number of problems with dating a person involved in chemical dependency. I want to note that I am not using the word uses drugs. I am using the words chemical dependency.
First we have to classify what is going on. Are we talking about steroids, are we talking about meth, are we talking about pot? Are we talking about a guy who buys generic viagra off the internet. First it is a matter of definition.
If we are talking things like coke, meth, opiates, Rx pain killers, etc. those can be horrific dependencies and not only place the life of the person using these substances recreationally in jeopardy, the jeopardize your life as well.
The same can be said for a practicing alcoholic.
In the years I lived in Palm Springs as it became a "disease factory" I watched numerous men I knew become intoxicated via different substances. Those who had addiction problems to chemical substances almost universally were sero-converted from negative to positive status before the end of the first year. Nobody was deliberately bad, what happened was that people's brains were influenced or clouded by the chemicals and they willingly exposed themselves to infection in such a manner as to become infected.
Personally, a practicing chemical abuser is a "wild-card" and neither you nor that person truly know what is going on at all times in their life. It is common when a "chemhead" wants sex or anything else that they depend on for them to obtain that using sex as a reward to the individual or individuals who obtained or secured what they wanted.
I watched this more than once. It would be just to dangerous in my eyes.
First we have to classify what is going on. Are we talking about steroids, are we talking about meth, are we talking about pot? Are we talking about a guy who buys generic viagra off the internet. First it is a matter of definition.
If we are talking things like coke, meth, opiates, Rx pain killers, etc. those can be horrific dependencies and not only place the life of the person using these substances recreationally in jeopardy, the jeopardize your life as well.
The same can be said for a practicing alcoholic.
In the years I lived in Palm Springs as it became a "disease factory" I watched numerous men I knew become intoxicated via different substances. Those who had addiction problems to chemical substances almost universally were sero-converted from negative to positive status before the end of the first year. Nobody was deliberately bad, what happened was that people's brains were influenced or clouded by the chemicals and they willingly exposed themselves to infection in such a manner as to become infected.
Personally, a practicing chemical abuser is a "wild-card" and neither you nor that person truly know what is going on at all times in their life. It is common when a "chemhead" wants sex or anything else that they depend on for them to obtain that using sex as a reward to the individual or individuals who obtained or secured what they wanted.
I watched this more than once. It would be just to dangerous in my eyes.
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Oh yeah, coke -- I know of a guy who had several restaurants. They all went up his nose.
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I think it REALLY would depend what drug, how often etc. Drinking is seeminly acceptable, but it's still a "drug". My guy and me drink a fair bit sometimes and we're OK usually unless we argue when drunk really (happened sometimes). I haven't had experience with a partner who did anything really, so don't know.
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The key word is dependency.
I've been known to use/abuse many kinds (no injection though), but the only one that I *have* to have is nicotine (working on that!).
In fact so far this year the only substances (legal or otherwise) I have indulged in have been the cancer sticks and alcohol.
So to answer the original question, yes I could date someone using some things, but not if they were dependant.
I've been known to use/abuse many kinds (no injection though), but the only one that I *have* to have is nicotine (working on that!).
In fact so far this year the only substances (legal or otherwise) I have indulged in have been the cancer sticks and alcohol.
So to answer the original question, yes I could date someone using some things, but not if they were dependant.
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I am happy to hear this. Please tell him all your reasons, and don't let him sway you until he is in rehab.
Trust me, there is no way you can have a healthy relationship with someone on drugs. Love can totally blind you and you find yourself doing things that you normally wouldn't do. And forget the long lasting part. Not until the person gets can you even beging to think about a relationship of any sort.
If he's using meth three times a day, you don't know who he is. You know only who he is on meth. A meth addiction, sorry to say, usually ends up catastrophic. It's the saddest. Very,very, sad.
Edit: I think drug users can have healthy relationship, even with non drug users. But regular meth use...that's quite an extreme of drug addiction.
Edit: I think drug users can have healthy relationship, even with non drug users. But regular meth use...that's quite an extreme of drug addiction.
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I am concern for his health , he seems to think that he has it under control but on two occasions during the last two weeks, he saw a fire in the middle of the night on the side of the road , which i never saw , but he swears to it and the other week he saw a chicken next to the road again in the middle of nowhere. I was thinking if he moves in with me i could at least take care of him , He is currently living alone, Is it not healthier for him to live with a friend? I don't have the heart to deny him a place to stay?
no, it is not better for him!
it will stop him seeking proper help.
you'll enable him to carry on this way.
...and what about when it's not just a fire or a chicken? what about when it's demons? what about when he hallucinates you trying to hurt him and attacks you?
you think i'm being over dramatic? i'm not!
you don't know it will stay benign.
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You are not a professional. You can't take care of him the way he needs. He must seek real help, not yours. That is the kindest thing for him. Don't fool yourself that your love is some sort of magic. It's nourishing but not a cure for every thing wrong.
He is wise to seek for a true friend, but you need to be his true friend and get him into rehab!
He is wise to seek for a true friend, but you need to be his true friend and get him into rehab!
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