Can you date someone using drugs

[MalakingTiti]

If the guy even "dabbles" with cocaine, run for the hills. There is nothing worse than a piece if shit coke head. I hate them with a passion. They jabber on with no direction just before they steal from you and then lie about it. They'd sell their mother for an 8 ball. If I were king of the world I would give them one chance to clean up, and if they didn't, I'd exterminate them the way Mao did in China with the opium addicts.

I realize this might sound harsh and devoid of passion, and thats because it is. I have no sympathy for a coke/crack head. They are worthless.

 

[Bob Ross]

You can do ANYTHING using drugs...You just have to live with the consequences the next morning

 

[DenverCumAddict]

It hard for the guy who doesn't use. If you've been spared having any kind of addiction in your life. You will never be able to understand why he uses. With the truly addicted the drug comes first. If you're in love, the best thing you can do for yourself is move on. Life is too short to be miserable.

 

[Novaboy]

It hard for the guy who doesn't use. If you've been spared having any kind of addiction in your life. You will never be able to understand why he uses. With the truly addicted the drug comes first. If you're in love, the best thing you can do for yourself is move on. Life is too short to be miserable.

Hi DenverCumAddict, Welcome to the group. I see you have been taking a look around the site. Just a not, always make sure you check the dates of the post in older threads. Your post here is the first one since 2010. Often the members in the post are gone, the links no longer work and the thread is sometimes irrelevant. There is lots to read on here that's for sure!

 

[bkmuscledad]

Hi DenverCumAddict, Welcome to the group. I see you have been taking a look around the site. Just a not, always make sure you check the dates of the post in older threads. Your post here is the first one since 2010. Often the members in the post are gone, the links no longer work and the thread is sometimes irrelevant. There is lots to read on here that's for sure!

Good point, @Novaboy . I often do the same thing as @DenverCumAddict did, especially if the thread or the comment speaks to me in some way, because I'm caught up in my thoughts about the subject, and I'm not paying attention to the posting dates. This subject in particular has some meaning to me, and I've been thinking of a good way to express myself, so I'm glad if it has been re-awakened.

 

[Novaboy]

Good point, @Novaboy . I often do the same thing as @DenverCumAddict did, especially if the thread or the comment speaks to me in some way, because I'm caught up in my thoughts about the subject, and I'm not paying attention to the posting dates. This subject in particular has some meaning to me, and I've been thinking of a good way to express myself, so I'm glad if it has been re-awakened.

We've all revived the dead threads on occasion. I don't think I even noticed the dates when I first joined. I agree that this is an important issue. I know someone who has all but destroyed their life with a meth addiction that began in their late 4O's. He's done re-hab and is trying but the toll it took has been tremendous. He's not the same person anymore. They say that the success rate for getting off meth is extremely low. I heard 5 percent but I really don't know it that's the case.

 

[bkmuscledad]

We've all revived the dead threads on occasion. I don't think I even noticed the dates when I first joined. I agree that this is an important issue. I know someone who has all but destroyed their life with a meth addiction that began in their late 4O's. He's done re-hab and is trying but the toll it took has been tremendous. He's not the same person anymore. They say that the success rate for getting off meth is extremely low. I heard 5 percent but I really don't know it that's the case.

I'd believe that. My experience with people I've known is more with people who use cocaine and heroin, but I've known only one person who turned his life around from those drugs, and only after a very painful process. The rest have always relapsed, if they even tried at all, and they've all affected the lives of their loved ones in negative ways.

 

[Novaboy]

I'd believe that. My experience with people I've known is more with people who use cocaine and heroin, but I've known only one person who turned his life around from those drugs, and only after a very painful process. The rest have always relapsed, if they even tried at all, and they've all affected the lives of their loved ones in negative ways.

I'm always amazed that so many people never learn from the examples of others. They just want to "see what it's like" and just use "occasionally". It rarely works out that way. I'm always amazed at the number of celebrates and musicians that never seem to realize that they won't be any different than the ones before them who ruined their lives or died from their addictions.

 

[bkmuscledad]

I'm always amazed that so many people never learn from the examples of others. They just want to "see what it's like" and just use "occasionally". It rarely works out that way. I'm always amazed at the number of celebrates and musicians that never seem to realize that they won't be any different than the ones before them who ruined their lives or died from their addictions.

It seems that when they start, they're still in relative control of themselves and figure I can always stop whenever they want, and don't realize when they've slid far past that point where self control is gone. Also, the chemicals in the brain have changed by then, making it harder to have the fortitude and wherewithal to climb out of the hole they're in.

 

[1IamSmall123]

No I can't date someone on drugs. Depending on the drug, I can fuck them though.

Let me tell you two crystal meth stories I know --

A guy was kissing another guy at a circuit party and suddenly felt rocks in his mouth. Rocks?? He spit them out and it was the other guy's teeth!! Several of them fell out when they were kissing and wound up in his mouth. Gross. Apparently LT meth use does that.

^^^^^^^ This is NOT true.
The truth is that stimulants such as meth, amphetamines etc tend to reduce saliva and cause dry mouth.
The dry mouth is the problem as cavities and gum disease are much more susceptible.
Also, drug addicts often have poor hygiene and ignore health/dental issues.

Now, those are the facts...not street rumors.

Just saying.

 

[MisterB]

My sister, 9 years my junior, got into all kinds of drugs. Probably 30 years or so ago.

My sister is an alcoholic. She's also was a Meth-head for several years. It took a severe toll. She ground her teeth down to nubs. She had the facial sores. Thin as a rail. And you couldn't tell here anything, except NO when she called for money. Which I did.

However, she sucked from my late-parents financial teets for many years. My Mother, who knew better, always fell for her latest sob story. And gave her money so her kids could eat. They didn't. But she got high. Again and again. Hell, my Mother even paid for her false teeth!

When my Mother passed away, the bank closed. My brother got himself put on my Father's checking account, which meant she couldn't get squat without my brother's approval. That forced her to get clean. Have no idea how, and don't really care, except she did. Kudos to her for that.

But it changed the essence of her being. She's my sister, but I don't know this person. Somehow her three kids made it; in large part to her useless husband's Aunt, who took the kids in and got them through school. Her eldest is an Assistant DA in southern Florida. Her son is a career Army weapons specialist. Her youngest works in the accounting field.

And sadly, today, her kids barely tolerate her. Because they can't forget. Her youngest just had her first child. My sister sent me a picture of herself holding the baby. I showed it to my husband. He asked me who it was. He did not recognize her. When I told him, he was shocked. Because my sister looks 10 years older than me. She's been rode that hard and put away that wet.

So yeah, hard drugs, especially Meth, are evil IMO. Cuz I've seen firsthand what it does to otherwise good people.

 

[deleted1168963]

I dated a gal for about six months. She was a cute Italian gal. We met on party boat and hit it off immediately. She seemed a real shy catholic gal until we had some margaritas. Then she turned into a wild woman that night. We fucked in my condominium’s pool in the on a lounge trail. As weeks went on she swung from a quiet reserved woman to a sexy maniac. She even hid my clothes so when I had to use the head I had to walk naked in front of her mom (she had shown me off to her mom while I was passed out). We would go out to bars she would wear no panties while wearing a dress giving me instant access to her pussy. Then I found out why the two personalities: she loved Valium and when she drank this sexual maniac would come out. I confronted her and she flipped out and denied that it was a problem. We broke up a minth later when she refused to stop popping the pills. The wild swings in behavior were too much to take though the sex was awesome!

 

[halcyondays]

Recreational users yes, addicts no.

 

[palakaorion]

I've seen too many relationships fall apart because one partner loved their habit more than they loved their partner.

 

[palakaorion]

If the person I was in love with developed a habit, I'd likely stay and try to help them get away from it.

But if someone I was only casually familiar with had a habit, I likely wouldn't move the relationship towards romance.

 

[someperson]

my brother is addicted to gambling. he went from having almost $30,000 in the bank to having $80,000 in debit in a few months..

he even sold all my childhood video games to a pawn shop

luckily they let me get them back at the price they paid him after I threatened the pawnshop with legal action.. criminal and civil action . since they stole it from me...

 

[KindlyJedi]

Depends.

You can't compare a pot head to a heroin addict.

I convinced my SO to quit drinking....maybe you can convince your friend to quit their bad habit if it is affecting your relationship negatively.

Hope it works out for ya

 

[technogeek]

Absolutely not. I've lost friends and loved ones to addiction alcoholic and drug use.
Like others said, if it's a new relationship run and don't look back. If it's someone you love, help them. AA, NA. Alinon. Don't get fooled by lies. Support their recovery and talk about it.

 

[Infernal]

I can tolerate someone who smokes a joint once in a while, or to help with medical issues. I've got no use for it myself, but I see it can sometimes make people better human beings. I have a hard time with delicate flowers who use it as a crutch because they can't deal with life from one day to the next. Everything else is a hard no for me.

 

[1342602]

He uses crystal meth , He uses it like 3 times a day. He keeps saying he wants to quite and become normal. I don't use drug myself and will never touch the stuff. However i am in love with this guy and really want to try , Is their any Good / lasting dating experiences out their.

As a person whom has been both the addict and the one with the addict id say dont do it tell them to come back and see if you're still around when they are clean 12 months. Cause you could waste years of you're life and it will damage you and ruin future relationships from the wall you created to protect yourself and you will carry the toxic stuff from that relationship into the next starting a cycle of pain for you and everyone around you.