Can you ever be friends with your ex?

[zombyalive]

since you two are still seeing each other at all, at this point, i'd try to keep it that way. it can be easy to scare her away if you get emotional.

but anyway i'd also say that 2-3 months is not enough time. it took me many years to get over this one ex in specific, and i still think about her. after not speaking for at least a year or two, i can talk to her with some civility.

 

[mako shark]

My ex and I were married 23yrs and after the divorce (a year ago), I found out about her multiple affairs. If it wasn't for our grown daughter graduating from college this year and possible marriage/grandchildren, I would never talk to that her again.

 

[B_Nick8]

I've always been best friends with my exes. Once I no longer cared who they sleep with and I remember why I loved them in the first place.

 

[SpiceFromIndia]

Not me... once your an ex your history. See ya, don't call, don't write and don't let the door hit you in the ass on your way out.

I agree ... it alway creates complications .... so answer is plain no ... leave him/her alone or prepare to have drama and also she/he is with some one there would be jelousy and drama both ...

 

[molotovmuffin]

Oh thank GOD! Someone who thinks like me. :smile::tongue:

Now that's a scary thought! lmao

 

[MissPretty]

Sure...why not? It would depend on the situation but i'm friends with guys i've been with. Some of them you dump and forget about but others might be fun to see occasionally.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

to me, the circumstances of the break-up vary and depend on whether it was on good terms or bad terms.

for example, i managed to stay friends with my high school BF, although we didn't talk for a few years after we broke up. things are patched up b/t us now and it's as if we had never even dated, lol!

however, my BF after him... forget it! i'd rather eat hot coals stirred in dog shit. that fucker can burn in the fiery pits of hell and i wouldn't care. i would just sit back and eat popcorn and laugh my ass off while his head bursts into a zillion bloody pieces!

 

[D_Jared Padalicki]

to me, the circumstances of the break-up vary and depend on whether it was on good terms or bad terms.

for example, i managed to stay friends with my high school BF, although we didn't talk for a few years after we broke up. things are patched up b/t us now and it's as if we had never even dated, lol!

however, my BF after him... forget it! i'd rather eat hot coals stirred in dog shit. that fucker can burn in the fiery pits of hell and i wouldn't care. i would just sit back and eat popcorn and laugh my ass off while his head bursts into a zillion bloody pieces!

You are quite charming Stacy :wink:

 

[Mrmaxwell]

I'm sure this has been said plenty of times here -- it really depends on the reason for breaking-up and the person up broke up with.

Currently, me and my new ex cannot be friends after I agreed to, because I'm refusing to help her with anything. Now she's angry, and won't talk to me. I'll be a friend to talk to, but I'd be damned if I help her by using my energy of money.

 

[nudeyorker]

I said in another thread that I don't think it's a good idea to reconcile with and Ex although I think there are exceptions. I think you can eventually become friends when you work past the anger and hurt that goes hand in hand with a breakup. When you step back and consider the things that you have in common rather than the issues of the breakup, often there is a foundation for friendship providing you both have come to terms with the past and can recognize the potential for friendship.

 

[drac]

Depends on who you are, and if you hold grudges with what they did or vice versa. I am still great friends with my ex, we still love each other, and were together for 5 years, break up was brutal, but mainly over difference of personalities. I couldn't imagine not talking with her or my previous ex. But got some older gf's that want nothing to do with me. So it's all different. One thing though, you can do it, but NOT if you both still want to get with each other for sex, or if one does and pesters about it.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

You are quite charming Stacy :wink:

ohhh why thank you, pieter :biggrin1:

 

[Pendlum]

Well I've only ever had two horribly fast and failed relationships, and neither of them wanted to be friends after wards, even though I tried.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

Well I've only ever had two horribly fast and failed relationships, and neither of them wanted to be friends after wards, even though I tried.

you gave it your best shot and if it wasn't meant to happen, then it wasn't meant to happen. don't feel bad.

 

[Pendlum]

you gave it your best shot and if it wasn't meant to happen, then it wasn't meant to happen. don't feel bad.

I don't know about that. When I say fast, I mean fast. 2-3 days.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

I don't know about that. When I say fast, I mean fast. 2-3 days.

hehehe, 2-3 days doesn't count :tongue:

 

[Pendlum]

I guess I've had no relationships then. :tongue:

 

[D_Andreas Sukov]

why pieter? shave, haircut and new hobby lol?

 

[Principessa]

Well I've only ever had two horribly fast and failed relationships, and neither of them wanted to be friends after wards, even though I tried.

:yikes: What on earth did you do wrong?

Now that's a scary thought! lmao

How so? :irked:

 

[Pendlum]

:yikes: What on earth did you do wrong?

I don't know. I don't even think I had time to do anything. If I did something wrong, nobody told me what. I will say that the first one was still nice to me afterwards, but we weren't friends. And every time she would address me, it would be by my full name in some weird coyish way. So we were still on speaking terms, sort of, but just not friends.

And for the second one, she would try to avoid me, even though after she broke up with me (for a silly reason that had nothing to do with me, IF she wasn't lying). Well, I assumed she wasn't lying so I basically resumed how are friendship was beforehand, but that didn't fly so I just dropped it. Even after that though she would avoid me. I'm pretty sure her friends didn't like me for some reason, even though I never met any of them. Not counting mutual friends of course, all of which stayed friends with me through high school. I've heard now that she has had a string of boyfriends, pretty much all of which cheat on her. I feel sorry for her, since I wouldn't be surprised if she sort of brought it on herself, and her 'friends' probably don't help much. She was pretty timid and meek. I saw her not too long ago at Pizza Hut. I'm not sure if she noticed me, but she still walks the same, short fast steps with her shoulders sort of in, and with her head down.