If you don't like a man...you don't like him. But that doesn't mean that the guy isn't worthy of getting sex and love from someone. I am not telling you to mercy fuck a man. But I will say that the same criteria you use to judge...they can judge you with different or the same criteria with equal scrutiny. Respect is a two-way street.
I like a man who is gonna be honest with me. If he doesn't respect me because I disappoint him. I don't want to be involved with him. I am not Superman. I am not a genie in a bottle that you rub and you get three wishes for a better life either.
But he isn't gonna continue disrespecting me because I am a disappointment in his eyes. And I am not going to be his friend either. Some can't respect you as a lover but want to be a friend afterwards. I don't bother with any of that. He can fuck off in all respects.
I'm under no illusions...and more often than not - it is my experience that men hold women to a higher standard of beahavior than they do for themselves.
My question about respect isn't about lying or cheating. It can be something as simple as not looking out for your best interests aside of his own...or if you look out for his, but he doesn't swing for the fences with regard to yours.
That point when you recognize that there might be love or attraction, but you don't respect him. Or the alternate, you don't respect someone on the onset because of his behavior but given opportunity - you'd "suck his balls in a Burger King parking lot."
I'm not talking betrayal, but rather when you have lost respect or admiration... or you simply feel a spark, can you act on that and treat it as sex, nothing more.
For myself, I'm not capable of it on the onset, yet I've stayed in a relationship, to be long-suffering - to hang in there it will get better, etc. when in my gut I've violated my own rules and resent him. You may have sex but it feels like a transaction. You split up. You're horny later...do you go there?
I have once and it was a disaster. I can't go back there and I don't think I can fuck a man I don't respect, b/c I know I'd walk all over him - not out of spite, but for my own self-preservation. Maybe it would be clearer if I said I cannot respect a passive man, no matter how sweet he might be, if he is a pushover, I just can't go there. Alternatively I can't respect a man that puts himself first all the time and no matter how horny I am, I can't go there.
Yet I think women will put up with a lot when sex is there. So I ask the question, can you fuck someone that you don't respect?
