If ‘soulmates’ exist, I reckon I might’ve found mine, and assuming Australian governments can rein in their overinflated egos and get their fucking jobs done, I’ll be marrying her later this year.
We’re best mates in just about every sense. We talk about everything, we have daggy in-jokes that nobody else understands, we rely on each other emotionally to the almost complete exclusion of anyone else, and we sleep in the same bed every night. But we don’t have sex, and the lack of sex is almost completely because of me.
My sex drive is healthy, and working from home means regular tugbreaks, so it’s not as though I’m sexually frustrated. But there’s a deeper problem.
My partner is beautiful to me, but the problem is I can’t fuck people I love. Tension and anxiety aside, hookups are totally fine to me. There’s no emotional involvement in a hookup, it’s just friction and grind and pump and release and there goes the semen. And then it’s a shower, a handshake/hug/kiss and ‘see you next time’ or ‘have a nice life’.
I’m bisexual, and my partner has known this since day one (I’m not a fan of keeping secrets). She’s largely OK with me hooking up with guys (she knows I have a grindr profile etc), and this is probably because I’ve said to her that I could never imagine being in a relationship with a dude. But if I fucked another woman, shit would probably go down, and I’m absolutely not willing to go there anyway.
I’ve seen a sex therapist to try to understand why I can only have sex with people I don’t really know, and I still don’t think I really know why I’m wired this way. I *have* fucked people I love in the past. I’ve been in two longterm hetero relationships where I was 100% faithful both times. There *was* sex in both of these relationships, and sometimes it was awesome but it wasn’t always great, and to be honest I’d prefer to enjoy all the non-sex benefits of a relationship while fucking my hand on the side.
I can give my partner – my future wife – everything under the sun, except my dick.
I just can’t fuck people I love. I wish I could, and I don’t know why I can’t. I can only have sex with hookups, or with myself. This feels unusual, and I would seriously love to hear what others think.
We’re best mates in just about every sense. We talk about everything, we have daggy in-jokes that nobody else understands, we rely on each other emotionally to the almost complete exclusion of anyone else, and we sleep in the same bed every night. But we don’t have sex, and the lack of sex is almost completely because of me.
My sex drive is healthy, and working from home means regular tugbreaks, so it’s not as though I’m sexually frustrated. But there’s a deeper problem.
My partner is beautiful to me, but the problem is I can’t fuck people I love. Tension and anxiety aside, hookups are totally fine to me. There’s no emotional involvement in a hookup, it’s just friction and grind and pump and release and there goes the semen. And then it’s a shower, a handshake/hug/kiss and ‘see you next time’ or ‘have a nice life’.
I’m bisexual, and my partner has known this since day one (I’m not a fan of keeping secrets). She’s largely OK with me hooking up with guys (she knows I have a grindr profile etc), and this is probably because I’ve said to her that I could never imagine being in a relationship with a dude. But if I fucked another woman, shit would probably go down, and I’m absolutely not willing to go there anyway.
I’ve seen a sex therapist to try to understand why I can only have sex with people I don’t really know, and I still don’t think I really know why I’m wired this way. I *have* fucked people I love in the past. I’ve been in two longterm hetero relationships where I was 100% faithful both times. There *was* sex in both of these relationships, and sometimes it was awesome but it wasn’t always great, and to be honest I’d prefer to enjoy all the non-sex benefits of a relationship while fucking my hand on the side.
I can give my partner – my future wife – everything under the sun, except my dick.
I just can’t fuck people I love. I wish I could, and I don’t know why I can’t. I can only have sex with hookups, or with myself. This feels unusual, and I would seriously love to hear what others think.
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