Can you masturbate someone else?

[raquetball1980]

The verb "masturbate" is generally defined as to stimulate one's own genitals, yet there seems to be some common usage of the verb to also describe manually stimulating another person's genitals. I always thought it was kind of a contradiction in terms to talk about masturbating someone else, but I'm curious now about the common usage. Shouldn't we say something like "manual stimulation" when talking about stimulating someone else?

 

[sudcalifornio]

Does fingering my gf counts?

 

[submit452]

I have (a guy) and I loved it

 

[palakaorion]

I was usually having too good a time to be concerned with the proper terminology for whatever action was going on.

 

[brinzaulsschwul]

The verb "masturbate" is generally defined as to stimulate one's own genitals, yet there seems to be some common usage of the verb to also describe manually stimulating another person's genitals. I always thought it was kind of a contradiction in terms to talk about masturbating someone else, but I'm curious now about the common usage. Shouldn't we say something like "manual stimulation" when talking about stimulating someone else?

No it's not. See www.oxforddictionaries.com: masturbate - definition of masturbate in English from the Oxford dictionary

 

[lapdog2001]

No it's not. See www.oxforddictionaries.com: masturbate - definition of masturbate in English from the Oxford dictionary

I counter with these!
www.merriam-webster.com: Definition of MASTURBATE
www.merriam-webster.com: Definition of MASTURBATION

Personally if another person is involved, it is a hand job, or fingering, as the case may be.

 

[brinzaulsschwul]

I'll stick to the Oxford English Dictionary definitions because the Oxford is the definitive dictionary for the English language. As a matter of interest you can see the same definition in the Cambridge English Dictionary.

I can give myself a hand job, I don't need anyone else to do that for me. I can also give and receive a hand job.

 

[raquetball1980]

So, if the usage includes stimulating another person, then I guess masturbation has to be counted as sex, then.

 

[ManchesterTom]

Masturbation is to stimulate the sexual organ to achieve pleasure and possibly orgasm, this is achieved without intercourse. Could be a hand or any other object which causes sexual arousal / pleasure / orgasm

 

[bwhip1011]

Hand job has always worked just fine for me.

 

[sykray]

Languages and words evolve and the connotations shift faster than the denotations. I think most people would understand and use "masturbation" to describe the manual stimulation of another person, as well as oneself.
The rather archaic "manustrupation" (hand + debauch) may be a more exact word. "Masturbation" has an uncertain derivation beyond the Latin "masturbari". The latter part refers to disturb but it is not certain if the "ma" is a contraction of manu (hand) - if so, then the too words are more truly interchangeable. Let's not get pedantic - we know what we mean.

 

[blakebrent]

I am not concerned with the verbiage or the definition of the word " is " is.
I masturbate , you masturbate , we all masturbate.
Call it what you want.

 

[Russ311]

I prefer to call it wank off when it's someone else, masturbate for myself!

 

[raquetball1980]

I just find it interesting linguistically; "masturbate" primarily brings to mind sexually stimulating one's self (a reflexive verb, "I masturbate" means "I masturbate myself") -a solitary activity. But at the same time it can also have the meaning of sexually stimulating someone else, yet not denoting sex, because the stimulus is generally manual. I guess you could, however, masturbate someone with your feet, other body parts, or some tool. So we end up with this somewhat strange definition of masturbation as sexually stimulating one's self (primarily), or another person, but only so long as the stimulation of another person is done manually, with a tool, or some other body part that is not the anus, mouth, vagina or other orifice. Perhaps the meaning of masturbation is more about the pleasure of one party as opposed to the pleasure of all parties involved -regardless of the number involved. Or put differently, the "one way direction" of pleasure; thus one can masturbate 2 people at once by manually stimulating them, but other sexually activities would be defined as group sex. (Congratulations to anyone who actually read the entire post)