Can you meet some one at a bar that could develop into a long term relationship?

[HiddenLacey]

My neighborhood bar. Tiny hole in the wall place, never advertised, known only to the regulars. One of two bars I drank in when I turned 21, the other one being a local gay bar. I moved a few blocks from it and it was on my regular jogging route, just before I went past the museum and over the bridge going over the river, wave high at friends standing around outside and on the balcony, drop by at 11pm four nights a week to watch The Daily Show upstairs with friends, a fun regular ritual. I think of bars as places where you're surrounded by strangers. That place was like a friend's living room, so when I think "bar" I just don't twig on that as fitting the bill.

Ok see I wouldn't think of that place as a bar either. We used to hang out at a local pool hall in my little town. We knew everyone there. Confusion! I guess you can meet people anywhere

 

[petite]

Ok see I wouldn't think of that place as a bar either. We used to hang out at a local pool hall in my little town. We knew everyone there. Confusion! I guess you can meet people anywhere

I have these jogging pants that are extremely flattering on me, from the rear I mean, and I wore them all the time when I jogged passed that bar. I'm convinced those pants are largely responsible for how often I got asked out. I'm no fool. :biggrin1:

God I hate living in the suburbs. I miss that kind of life, where everything you want and need is on just a few blocks and you don't need a car. You can just pop down the street to watch 30 minutes of comedy news with your friends before going to bed.

 

[Gecko4lif]

Can you. Yes

Will you. Doubt it.

 

[HiddenLacey]

I have these jogging pants that are extremely flattering on me, from the rear I mean, and I wore them all the time when I jogged passed that bar. I'm convinced those pants are largely responsible for how often I got asked out. I'm no fool. :biggrin1:

God I hate living in the suburbs. I miss that kind of life, where everything you want and need is on just a few blocks and you don't need a car. You can just pop down the street to watch 30 minutes of comedy news with your friends before going to bed.

LOL you and I are night and day! I want to live in the middle of nowhere with nothing around but nature! I love it! I only have one neighbor now. I grew up like that. I feel trapped and anxious in the city. Like I can't wait to get out of there. I can spend all day walking through the woods or going camping or riding. I just love it, I feel so free! Sorry thread stealing back to the bar!

 

[petite]

LOL you and I are night and day! I want to live in the middle of nowhere with nothing around but nature! I love it! I only have one neighbor now. I grew up like that. I feel trapped and anxious in the city. Like I can't wait to get out of there. I can spend all day walking through the woods or going camping or riding. I just love it, I feel so free! Sorry thread stealing back to the bar!

See, I'd rather have the country or the city, but not the 'burbs. One you have the advantage of true privacy and nature, lots of space. I love those things. The city you have the advantage of lots of action and things close by, I love that too. In the burbs, you still have to drive to get anywhere, but there's no nature or privacy or any of the advantages of being far from the city, except that housing is cheaper.

Anyway, this is unrelated to meeting people in bars, so I'll stop hijacking! I was just remembering how much more fun my daily life was before I had to drive to get anywhere. And how much better my bum looked. :frown1:

/hijack

 

[sbat]

LOL you and I are night and day! I want to live in the middle of nowhere with nothing around but nature! I love it! I only have one neighbor now. I grew up like that. I feel trapped and anxious in the city. Like I can't wait to get out of there. I can spend all day walking through the woods or going camping or riding. I just love it, I feel so free! Sorry thread stealing back to the bar!

Whaaaat? I bet you have tons of neighbors. Hello, cows? They're good ones too. They don't keep you up when they decide to come crashing home at 3am and proceed to have loud drunken sex for another hour. And, you can eat them when you don't like them anymore.

 

[HiddenLacey]

:nutkick:

There are no cows outside of my home. Horses, mules and a few other creatures, yes.

Moo-cows do not have wild drunken sex.

Obviously you have been misinformed about what cows do, this is your lession.

You know what happens when they shake during wild sex?

Milk shakes:tongue: So they have to be responsible none of this wild drunken stuff!

Thank you and have a nice day!

Whaaaat? I bet you have tons of neighbors. Hello, cows? They're good ones too. They don't keep you up when they decide to come crashing home at 3am and proceed to have loud drunken sex for another hour. And, you can eat them when you don't like them anymore.

 

[thetramp]

Of course not, only freaks hang out in bars, we all know that.

I actually like meeting someone in a bar, because you get a much better chance to talk than in a nightclub. Yes there usually is music, but it ain't that loud.
And i feel by talking to someone i am much more able to judge whether it is worth pursuing it further or not when i am looking for a relationship. So i have dated girls i met in bars, nothing developed into a real LTR tho, but then again i can say the same about any place you can meet someone.

 

[Stretch]

In answer to the OP...yes,of course. There's no formula to meeting the "right" person. You're just as likely to meet that person in a bar as in any thousands of other locations or scenarios. Whether it's a plutonic friendship, your future best friend, one night stand or the love of your life, nobody can know where they will meet someone that actually develops into a relationship. It happens in it's own way naturally or not. It's not even something I would ever think about looking for.

 

[bthurmer]

Met my partner in a bar 27 years ago, still together, and he is still the love of my life. We don't really hang out in bars much any more, out grew that.

 

[MonsterUncut]

I managed a couple bars for many years, met my current partner there, and have been together for the last 17 years. So yes, it can happen. On the other hand, I've seen some really bad bad relationships over the years, airing their dirty laundry in public. Not pretty. On a side note, I've never really been a drinker, that's probably why I did so well, now it's very rare that I frequent any bars gay or straight.

Peace

 

[B_625girth]

most of the women I fucked, I met in a bar. I even married one of them, 32 yrs ago!!!

 

[AlteredEgo]

I think it could have just as easily happened that way for me. I met the best FWB I ever had online. It turned out we had three bars in common, and just never went to them on the same nights.