Can you tell if a person is gonna be a good lover before the sex?

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  1. earllogjam

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    I prefer having sensual sex as opposed to piggy genital only sex (which is what most gay men have). I was wondering if there is a way of telling if a person is going to be most likely sensual in bed. Any professions, physical anatomy, hobbies, demeanor, interests that might lend clues?
     
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    No. Sadly, sometimes my ass writes a cheque it has to cash. I prefer someone who is really sensual in bed, and isn't all about gymnastics and sometimes I've been surprised who those people have been.
     
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    I can tell if there's good chemistry, or if the person will be dom or sub, to which profession, demeanor, or hobbies might offer clues. But, Ime, there's no way to gauge technique or skill - you just kind of jump in and adjust when/if needed.
     
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    I don't know. When I was younger I had girls tell me I was probably good in bed because I was a good dancer, but I don't think that really makes a difference.
     
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    Touch. Touch is and always will be an indicator, for me anyways. Someone not just anyone, need just to give your arm a gentle caress even just for a moment and it can give you a tingle.
     
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    Does she kiss well? That has (sometimes) been a decent indicator...
     
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    What do you like them to do, as opposed to just ramming you and/or slapping your ass saying "Who's your Daddy?"? :tongue:
     
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    Yeah, I would have suspected the way he or she kisses to be a good indicator. Maybe not, though.
     
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    I think you can get a general feel for what the make-up of the person is sexually through conversation. But with regards to how they will actually be during those intimate moments is a coin toss to some extent.
     
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    It is impossible to tell. I have had at least one ex who talked a good game and turned out to be as unimaginative, inept, and clumsy a lover as I could only wish upon my worst enemy. She bragged about her oral skills for months before we actually met, and turned out to be totally clueless. Turns out her bragging was based on her performance with a partner who had premature ejaculation problems. I swear I'd rather cut a hole in a pumpkin and fuck it than to ever stick my cock in this woman's mouth again. What an utter waste of time and protoplasm she was.

    My current and future partner, on the other hand, has skills that were beyond my feeble imaginings. I had an inkling, but I knew I'd met my match. She's the best.
     
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    how they touch/handle objects in their environment.
    how willing they are to laugh/enjoy themselves.
    oddment - how they smell.. is something that clicks all primal like when you smell them. is a guarantee of a good time.

    bragging - i bring enough skill/enthusiasm for two... so bad sex is not an option :13:
     
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    No.

    But, if I have found any correlation at all it would be that shorter women are better in bed than taller ones.
     
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    i think yes, someone said it earlier, its a chemistry thing. you just know.
     
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    Can you tell if a person is gonna be a good lover before the sex?

    Probaby not, then again i imagine i would be more than satisfied because i would be looking at someone who appealed to me, had all the physical attributes that attracted me to him, therefore no matter how he performed would be OK with me
    besides
    i could be absolute shit by his standards anyway ha
     
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    everyone's experiences are different. best sex i ever had was with a gal 5'9" (way taller than average) and she loved to wear 3-4" heels, smallish breasts and dancer's legs and ass. she was amazing.

    and yes we both knew early on that when we eventually had sex it was going to be epic.

    i also had some amazingly hot exploits with gals under 5'2"
     
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    Primal smelling!! Is that like when dogs or cats meet each other? First thing nose in the ass. :eek:
     
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    well, not first thing.

    maybe after a couple of drinks. a few social niceties. :tongue:

    for true, i meant the closeness that comes when boundaries of personal space starts to breakdown. leaned in close, close enough to catch the natural scent rising off their skin... as bodies start to get warmer and happy.
     
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    You just turned me on. :redface:
     
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    I always think of this passage every time I come across a person like this....

    He is direct and dirty and you know he knows how-I mean really how. Every woman on the bus knows that. One look at him and every woman crosses her legs. You can hear the sound of nylons. There is this trouble being around him. He wets his lips, too. Just to drive me crazy. He doesn't seem to be doing it on purpose. It's just how he is. Made for sex. Oh god look how he does it to these woman. Keeps his eyes moving so cool from about breast level to crotch and up again-but not like a creep. He is only trouble for me --- Perdido by Jill Robinson

    I always base my opinion of sexability based on this passage.
     
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    I picture Stanley in Streetcar Named Desire.
     
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