Can You Trust Gay Guys?

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Just wanted to ask, can any of you trust gay gays?

If your in the closet (like me) and are chatting or meeting guys do you find it hard to trust gay guys ? I don't want to be outted as I am pretty happy in the closet, but I always find it hard to trust gay guys. Anybody else?
 
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I'm gay and would never out someone. I don't see why anyone would. I don't think you need to have a general defense up for all gays. Just simply say you're discreet and not out.
i agree. I've been with plenty of discreet married men and i would never think of outing them. Simply put a little into the vetting and i don't think you'll have a problem.
 
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I have found that MANY people trust people to do as they would do and feel betrayed when that person does as they always have...
I have found that youll be way more happy never putting yourself in a position where you depend on anyones word or actions...If they are loyal ,respect it and give it back...


But an open and uncloseted gay man has shown in many cases that he wont be a secret...but some could say he has shown he wont keep them either...
A lot of Bi guys are married...If you want to toss labels around, the married closeted bi guy would tend to be the one to pull my subdoncious prejudgment if any, simply because he is in a constant lie. Not saying he is a bad person. Just saying he has told the one he loved the most anything but truth.

I think the gay man with a purposeful lisp and posture to fit the stereotype of a comic book gay man may be a bit full of shit ... but so I am I for telling him his sunless tanner looked natural...

Point is ,society has made it lucrative to be full of shit...
and if you buy into it, its the lies you tell yourself that will bite you harder than others...

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Yes, you can trust us, lol. Just use your best judgment and be wary of any guy who seems to want something material from you in return.

There's a saying about how everyone has a public life, a private life, and a secret life. Whether you agree with it or not people are entitled to have a part of their life that is known by very few (something some people struggle with because tabloids and social media have made us feel entitled to know everything about everyone).

And honestly it can be a bit of a thrill to be a guy's lifetime confidante and "protector" of their secret life. I've never been the kiss-and-tell type because it keeps the messiness to a minimum. I think most gay guys generally feel the same also
 
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Trust is deeper than sexuality. Being in the closet doesn’t automatically make you a decent human being worthy of having his secret undisclosed. I’ve exposed men who I felt were trash with no fucks given. Don’t try to be a bastard with such a huge secret hanging over your head.

I remember this one older closeted married guy was trying hard to hook up with me. I wasn’t interested at all and turned it down. He was nice so I didn’t see a need to be messy and tell his wife, plus maybe his wife already knew. Can’t say I’ve done the same for guys who got on my nerves in the past.
 
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It takes time to trust anyone,and even then sometimes people betray your trust.Life aint easy.
 
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It has nothing to do with being gay. You trust someone or you don’t. Trustworthy gay men are plenty and some or not. Trustworthy straight or bi-men: same story. It’s about the person, not the orientation.

I was never saying it was ! I was just wondering how other guys felt
 
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Trust is deeper than sexuality. Being in the closet doesn’t automatically make you a decent human being worthy of having his secret undisclosed. I’ve exposed men who I felt were trash with no fucks given. Don’t try to be a bastard with such a huge secret hanging over your head.

I remember this one older closeted married guy was trying hard to hook up with me. I wasn’t interested at all and turned it down. He was nice so I didn’t see a need to be messy and tell his wife, plus maybe his wife already knew. Can’t say I’ve done the same for guys who got on my nerves in the past.


So you outted guys who pissed you off ? Why ?
 

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Uh, it's not the sexuality but the person. I mean, that doesn't make sense. Sure you can find some gay guys and girls on here saying they are ready to out people like some sort of activism, but there are Bi and Straight people all the same, that would do the same.

I wish I could tell you to just save yourself the trouble and come out, but that is showing the privilege and bubble of where I'm from. I remember when I was a kid/teen I was in the closet for a while only because I didn't want to look like a LGBTQ ally only because I was a part of that community, and I had started supporting that stuff and making my support public before I guess you could say my fruit fully dropped (lol, so to speak), and back then it was pretty unpopular at my school to really support the LGBTQ (or be friends with any of those people) unless you were. It was a different time, but also I feel like in the middle of public perception changing and I felt like I was helping it change. (But it wasn't really all that altruistic either, I was a selfish teenager, the only reason why I really supported LGBTQ issues was because I could relate to the hate of prejudism, as well as not wanting to no longer be friends with someone because they came out as "gay". I thought that was dumb, but I've always been stupidly loyal)

Still, there are a lot of places/countries today where it's not safe to come out, and even in the US, you still have your bigoted parts of the country... being more bigoted than ever thanks to our cheeto in chief (and well the general political climate). It kind of feels hypocritical for me to want to even suggest people come out, but I will say, the more people out, the more normal it feels for everyone.
 

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Just wanted to ask, can any of you trust gay gays?

If your in the closet (like me) and are chatting or meeting guys do you find it hard to trust gay guys ? I don't want to be outted as I am pretty happy in the closet, but I always find it hard to trust gay guys. Anybody else?
Be selective! Gays Queens love drama...
 

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I have found that MANY people trust people to do as they would do and feel betrayed when that person does as they always have...
I have found that youll be way more happy never putting yourself in a position where you depend on anyones word or actions...If they are loyal ,respect it and give it back...


But an open and uncloseted gay man has shown in many cases that he wont be a secret...but some could say he has shown he wont keep them either...
A lot of Bi guys are married...If you want to toss labels around, the married closeted bi guy would tend to be the one to pull my subdoncious prejudgment if any, simply because he is in a constant lie. Not saying he is a bad person. Just saying he has told the one he loved the most anything but truth.

I think the gay man with a purposeful lisp and posture to fit the stereotype of a comic book gay man may be a bit full of shit ... but so I am I for telling him his sunless tanner looked natural...

Point is ,society has made it lucrative to be full of shit...
and if you buy into it, its the lies you tell yourself that will bite you harder than others...

Heres Tom with the local weather....
Strange post. I'm the most discreet person you'll ever meet, I pride myself on the fact that I keep all my friends' secrets. I would never betray any of them. And yet I'm a bi man in a straight partnership. I'm truthful to my partner but nobody else deserves my truth.
I'm offended by your post. Truly and deeply.
 
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