Can You Trust Someone Who Doesn’t Like Music?

[LaFemme]

I grew up with music. Country and classical, mostly. I hid a radio in my room so I could listen to rock. I was a musician for years. I sing all the time. My iPod has everything on it from David Cassidy to Dolly Parton to Rob Zombie to Queens of the Stone Age. My family says my headstone will say, “Life is a musical”.

We have three or four threads on music here, and I love listening to what other people are listening to - it tells me a little bit about who you are. Or does it? What about people who don’t like music? Can they be trusted?

 

[MickeyLee]

Nope. People who don't like music or dogs can not be trusted. Avoid them at all costs.

 

[MickeyLee]

Even psychopaths like music. I mean not necessarily good music.

 

[693987]

Doesn't like any music at all? No. They must be some fucked up non-friendly alien species.

I've been a music lover my entire life. First it was the classic rock my parents seemed to favor, then it was classical music and opera when I started playing piano. I branched out to rag time and jazz. A cousin introduced me to pop and what was current/modern rock at the time. Friends introduced me to techno/electronica/etc and metal. My love of music has just grown from there. I like to look up lyrics for music I like, too.

Just about the only genre I overall dislike is country. Other than that, game on.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Music is the language of the soul.

If you don't speak it, you aren't gonna be able to truly communicate with me..

If it's not fucking LOUD, I don't wanna hear it.

 

[Enid]

Who the fuck doesn't like music?! I'm sorry, can't get on board with that. I also can't get on board with people who say stuff like "I like everything except rap and country." OR people who don't like instrumental music or world music that is in languages they don't understand.

I can understand not wanting (or being used to) music in the car while driving, because I spent the last 9 years or so with an old car without a working stereo. Now I have a new used car and it has a working radio. I pretty much never turn it on. I'm almost always in the car by myself, and I'd rather just talk to myself like I'm used to than have music playing in the background. It kinda stresses me out. Weird but I guess it's what I'm used to now.

 

[LaFemme]

Nope. People who don't like music or dogs can not be trusted. Avoid them at all costs.

You shoulda told me the music thing ten years ago. The guy I got involved with did not like music. Like, wtf?! How is that even possible? Turns out he was an idiot who broke my heart in a thousand pieces. Think he was a sociopath.

 

[Nudistpig]

Doesn't like any music at all? No. They must be some fucked up non-friendly alien species.

I've been a music lover my entire life. First it was the classic rock my parents seemed to favor, then it was classical music and opera when I started playing piano. I branched out to rag time and jazz. A cousin introduced me to pop and what was current/modern rock at the time. Friends introduced me to techno/electronica/etc and metal. My love of music has just grown from there. I like to look up lyrics for music I like, too.

Just about the only genre I overall dislike is country. Other than that, game on.

I used to feel that way about country and then I got into Pasty Cline, Johnny Cash (check out his version of NIN's "Hurt"), always loved KD Lang, then it just kinda went from there.

 

[englad]

No, I couldn't trust someone who doesn't like any music.

Music is what got me through school, it can take me off into my own little world, one which I enjoy. I love having it play in the background, it connects memories. I can't imagine never listening to it, where's the emotional connection to any art if you can't like music? It seems really odd to me.

I'm completely fine with someone having a very different taste in music, but no music at all. Nope, that's too strange for me.

 

[Nudistpig]

I hired a kid once who didn't like music. I say kid, he was maybe 22. But he swore he didn't like music.

I asked if he listened to metal or punk. No. Rap? Nuh uh. So nothing? Talk radio. Uh oh.

I told him my husband was a musician. He asked "so what does he do for a living?"

Some of the staff complained about him. They said he was just weird. OK, everyone is weird in some way, but he truly was weird like staring at people or standing stock still waiting to be told to do something.

I had assumed he might be on the autism spectrum, and he may well have been, but he wasn't typical of anything at all. He could hold a conversation quite well, and he would hug me back. We're big huggers here. He was one of two men working in the office. He would sometimes join in on discussions, but rarely voiced his preference on a topic.

I always have music playing in my office, but I used to turn it way down when he came in. He wouldn't talk if it was on. According to him he thought I was listening to the music and not him, so he wouldn't talk.

Finally, I asked him if he was happy working here. He said not really. So I told him that he was free to leave if he wanted to. And he did. And I never saw him since.

Did I ever trust him? I cannot say that I ever did.

Quick little note. ASD here, recent diagnosis, but life with it as a kid was pretty hellish. I loved music. It was a huge part of my life. For people on the spectrum who don't, it's nothing to do with music. It's sound period. The sensory intensity of much sound is overwhelming for some ASD folx (nausea, panic, existential dread, dizziness). It could be a pipe organ, tympani, or the garbage truck dropping a dumpster, it has nothing to do with music. Sounds.

We deal with a lot of issues in this community, one is diagnosis from non-ASD folx whether we have it or not, and the other is no diagnosis or support from professionals. It's helpful not to make that assumption about someone (no prejudice, I don't know what you do as a job), and especially not related to trust. We are no more or less trustworthy than anyone else, and just as diverse. I was called weird, stupid, ugly and a whole host of other things as a "kid".

We perceive the world differently. No one was there to tell me the things I saw in the room with me when some music played were real for me (synaesthesia), just to tell me they were not. So I shut up about it, and learned to repress what is in fact a gift. The ability to see sound is a gift, although not everyone experiences it that way, and it's not that for everyone. Textures (like polyester) set me on edge, still do, always have, although not like they used to.

I want to stress that I'm not upset with you (and I hope you don't take offense as we don't know each other here very well), just wanted to share my perspective on this issue, as it's important.

 

[EllieP]

Quick little note. ASD here, recent diagnosis, but life with it as a kid was pretty hellish. I loved music. It was a huge part of my life. For people on the spectrum who don't, it's nothing to do with music. It's sound period. The sensory intensity of much sound is overwhelming for some ASD folx (nausea, panic, existential dread, dizziness). It could be a pipe organ, tympani, or the garbage truck dropping a dumpster, it has nothing to do with music. Sounds.

We deal with a lot of issues in this community, one is diagnosis from non-ASD folx whether we have it or not, and the other is no diagnosis or support from professionals. It's helpful not to make that assumption about someone (no prejudice, I don't know what you do as a job), and especially not related to trust. We are no more or less trustworthy than anyone else, and just as diverse. I was called weird, stupid, ugly and a whole host of other things as a "kid".

We perceive the world differently. No one was there to tell me the things I saw in the room with me when some music played were real for me (synaesthesia), just to tell me they were not. So I shut up about it, and learned to repress what is in fact a gift. The ability to see sound is a gift, although not everyone experiences it that way, and it's not that for everyone. Textures (like polyester) set me on edge, still do, always have, although not like they used to.

I want to stress that I'm not upset with you (and I hope you don't take offense as we don't know each other here very well), just wanted to share my perspective on this issue, as it's important.

First, I want to thank you for that information. I did not mean to denigrate a syndrome or illness. I simply could not place this young man, but I did not want to try too hard. I wanted what was best for him.

And as just an FYI, the not liking music thing was minor. There were a few other episodes involving him, which kept some of the staff on edge. I would never attempt to "straighten" him out or even counsel him on how he should conduct himself outside of work. But there are expectations in an office and warehouse environment that must be met. Unfortunately, he was not able to meet the minimum.

Not trusting him for not liking music? That would make me very superficial.

 

[LaFemme]

Someone who doesn't like music is weird and shouldn't be trusted, I've been playing alto sax since I was 13 and music is a large part of my life. There is a photo of both my horns View attachment 2651861

Why did you pollute this thread with a dick pic?! Anyone who posts an unsolicited dick pic shouldn’t be trusted.

 

[MickeyLee]

Oh dear. Then who the hell was I involved with?!

Whatever it was it probably wears a MAGA cap and committed vote fraud in the states. That level of fucked up.

 

[LaFemme]

I've never met anyone who doesn't like music.
How's it even possible to not like music? I mean, there's gotta be some song they like. "Happy Birthday?" "Jingle Bells?" Something by Stravinsky?

Nope. I think I’ve met two people who didn’t like music. They “didn’t get it”. The guy I was involved with, I’d want to send him songs that reminded me of him, or expressed how I felt, but that was a no-go. Lyrics were lost on him. Music didn’t transport him places. So weird.

I wonder if it’s a brain thing. Or trauma. Or trauma to the brain. Someone should do a study.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I used to feel that way about country and then I got into Pasty Cline, Johnny Cash (check out his version of NIN's "Hurt"), always loved KD Lang, then it just kinda went from there.

I don't know what it is, but I can't do country. Actually I know exactly what it is. Just the general sound, it makes me grind my teeth.

I support what country originally stood for and I respect the genre, I just can't stand listening to it. Even the old shit, my man loves Johnny Cash, but I can't get into it. That song you posted is one of my dad's favorites... But I just get it stuck in my head and I just can't stand it.

A lot of people feel the same way about my taste in music though, I like Horror-Core and Death Metal. Lots of folks I know find everything I enjoy to be complete trash music, but I fucking love it.

To each their own.

 

[MickeyLee]

I like Busker music. It's a combo of folk, blue grass a some ragtime. It's my current favorite genre. But I like everything from Jacques Brel to Ministry

 

[Squirrel1]

I used to feel that way about country and then I got into Pasty Cline, Johnny Cash (check out his version of NIN's "Hurt"), always loved KD Lang, then it just kinda went from there.

Cash's version of Hurt is enough to take your breath away.

 

[Squirrel1]

I don't know what it is, but I can't do country. Actually I know exactly what it is. Just the general sound, it makes me grind my teeth.

I support what country originally stood for and I respect the genre, I just can't stand listening to it. Even the old shit, my man loves Johnny Cash, but I can't get into it. That song you posted is one of my dad's favorites... But I just get it stuck in my head and I just can't stand it.

A lot of people feel the same way about my taste in music though, I like Horror-Core and Death Metal. Lots of folks I know find everything I enjoy to be complete trash music, but I fucking love it.

To each their own.

I'm not a super big fan of country...some if it I do like. What surprised me, though, is that my 20ish sons told me some of their friends listen to it.
What I can't do is rap and hip hop. Does nothing for me.

 

[deleted924715]

There are people who don't like music?

This might be worse than the people not wiping their ass shocker. I never thought I'd say that.

 

[1357125]

I was teached at school that music is a 'language' for all people, regardless of first language.