Can your male partner pleasure himself alone to his own fantasies?

[Growing123]

I'm wondering how women might react if your male partners are comfortable enough to tell you that they want/need to jerk off in bed when horny and you are asleep. It is maybe obvious that they are having a fantasy that doesn't involve you. Are you cool with that?

If not do you think it's fair (or not) that you don't allow your partner to pleasure himself hands solo?
I am curious if most guys are given permission by their female partners to knock one out if they need to - especially in the marital bed. Would you lose the plot knowing he's jerking off to his own fantasies which don't involve you? Has he confessed his solo (mis)deeds to you or is he too scared of your disproportionately negative reaction?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Seems to me, it’ll depend on how you two communicate.

I have a decent idea of my love’s inner/solo interests. I’m fine with whatever he does, but I do hope? Expect? Assume? That such activity doesn’t take away from coupled activity.

I’m also not into what he’s watching solo. He is, and that’s a great way for him to get off.
(He’s not into what I read for solo tension release, either. Neither of us wishes to fetter the other)

 

[EllieP]

If he's pleasuring himself by himself it's not cheating.

My husband was on tour with his band, and one night on the phone he confessed that he's wanked in just about every four star hotel in Asia. You gotta be comfortable in a relationship to say something like that. LOL!

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

We encourage each other to jerk off.

In bed while I'm asleep? Maybe not. He can go to another room so he doesn't wake me up. If he does wake me up, he better make me cum too.

I know he has fantasies that don't involve me. That's normal as fuck. Same goes for me. That's why we're not monogamous.

We want each other to feel truly fulfilled in life. If that means he beats his cock or even fucks another person, as long as he's safe about it and doesn't lie to me I'm happy for him.

Life is short. I want us both to have as much happiness as possible before we turn into fertilizer.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

We encourage each other to jerk off.

In bed while I'm asleep? Maybe not. He can go to another room so he doesn't wake me up. If he does wake me up, he better make me cum too.

I know he has fantasies that don't involve me. That's normal as fuck. Same goes for me. That's why we're not monogamous.

We want each other to feel truly fulfilled in life. If that means he beats his cock or even fucks another person, as long as he's safe about it and doesn't lie to me I'm happy for him.

Life is short. I want us both to have as much happiness as possible before we turn into fertilizer.

I agree couples should wake the other for solo time.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I agree couples should wake the other for solo time.

NOT wake the other…. Damn, Scarlet, ya got weed brain

 

[GapedSizeQueen]

My husband usually needs a release at once during the night. We have his mount setup to where he can use that and he ends up waking me up about half the time but I try to help if I do wake up.