Cancer: Insight and Support?

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  1. eddyabs

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    My Dad was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkins Diffuse B-Lymphoma Stomach cancer about 5 months ago....I've never posted about this as it felt too raw and personal firsthand, and it has taken some time for the initial shock to wear off. Now I feel comfortable in asking questions, I'm hoping others with experience of the same or similar cancer may feel forward in giving their insight/experience of this.

    I can't honestly recall Dad ever complaining about feeling unwell, but about 8 months ago we all noticed that he was a wee bit grumpy (grumpier than usual lol), and feeling tired. After much pestering we got him to see the doctor, and to our shock we received the dreaded Cancer diagnosis. He has now received 5 chemo treatments, and will start his last (the 6th) in about 3 weeks time. The tumour had shrunk from the size of an egg to about the size of a bottle top after 3 treatments, so we know he is responding quite well. If the tumour has not disappeared after the 6th chemo treatment, we are in the dark as to the next steps.

    He was lucky in the fact that he was caught with stage 1 of this cancer, and it is only present in his stomach.

    I was hoping that there may be some others who have had experience with this form of cancer, who may have some words to offer as to recovery, appropriate diet etc, etc?

    I can look up all I want on the internet, but nothing compares to hearing of personal experience firsthand.....that's if of course anyone who has this experience feels willing. :fingersx:
     
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    My mother passed away from cancer about a year and a half ago. She didn't have the same kind, though. In fact, they had no idea what kind she had. All I can say is that the best thing you can do is be there for him and support him. My mom tried EVERYTHING. From weird "magic" type treatments, to herbal treatments, to chemo, to spiritual everything.... and she still passed away. But, not knowing what kind of cancer she had may have made a difference. I can't say if there is anything in particular you should be doing for that exact type of cancer. Just provide lots of laughs. Laughter is the best medicine. :smile: I wish you the best of luck and strength in the future.
     
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    I don't know what to tell you eddyabs other than my heart goes out to you and your father. Horrible, horrible, disease. Science can't find a cure fast enough.
     
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    Thanks for being so open there TMM, and can I offer you my sincerest condolences on the loss of your Mum? I was so sad to read that she passed away.

    You're absolutely right there, I go and see Dad a couple of times a week, he's always grumpy and moaning about politics, Gordon Brown, the weather etc etc, but after a few minutes I have him beaming, and I'll drag him out to the garden where we'll do some weeding (if he's up for it), make him plentiful cups of tea, maybe take in a walk in the forest if he's up for it.

    Next week, I'm taking him to RAF Duxford to see the Spitfires and Hurricanes and other Second World War Memorabilia. If that don't cheer him up......................!!!!

    Thanks again for taking the time to post on such a personal subject.
     
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    Thankyou Jason, and I agree wholeheartedly.
     
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    I don't have experience with the type of illness your father has, eddyabs, but I wish you the best in all outcomes.


    I have had experience with two uncles and an aunt dying from cancer of different types. The really elderly ones were not in good enough health to undergo the trauma of surgery and radio/chemo treatrments so they opted to wait for death. They suffered but had access to morphine when things got really dire.

    Your father is fortunate that he has the option to battle it.

    My younger uncle battled the disease and took on all of the treatments (twice) and still succumbed in the end.

    My younger sister had a mastectomy and took on all of the treatments and is back to work and has had good health for the past three years. Yeah! She has a nasty type of the disease that is statistically more likely to strike again, so she is going to be vigilant all odf her life with check-ups.

    My 26 yr. old neice has battled leukemia and had bone marrow transplants and all of the treatments and now has had 2 years of of good check-ups. She had her eggs frozen prior to treatment and has since married and we continue to be optimistic that she will have a full life.

    Optimism, strength and support are really what we have to offer. Be kind to each other. tell each other everything that matters
     
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    eddy -
    I am sorry to hear of your dad's news.
    My mother was diagnosed with an inoperable, malignant brain tumor three years ago with a short life span. I reeled from that given that she was but 51. With specialists from New York treatments were done and she has been all right since. The cancer may return but for the moment she is well.
    Stage 1 is the best time to catch cancer! Today is a day of giving thanks so I am thankful that your dad's cancer was caught in the first stage. He will be well and healthy without doubt.
    It is shocking to know that one's parent may be in peril. Your dad will come through in good fashion. I believe it and will think it so.
    You keep on being there, being supportive and positive for your old man. We will all be here being supportive of and for you in this tough time. Keep us posted, will you?
     
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    Just an update, and a big thankyou to all those who contacted me with support and help. Dad has been told he is in full remission with a 75% chance of the cancer never coming back. This is such great news, I went round there yesterday and Dad was baking bread and looking so well. They were both (Mum and Dad) bouncing around the house, and so obviously thrilled to bits.
    It was great as I left, I was given a freshly baked loaf and then they were both waving crazily from the window, you could just see how joyous they were to be given such a reprieve. It has been a hard time for them and all of us, and to see them happy and well is the best gift we could ever receive. Amen!
     
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    WOW! Congratulations! That's incredibly good news. I wish your father the best!
     
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    My heart goes out to you eddy, I to have been touched by cancer, both parents and myself at age 15
     
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    Thanks for sharing the good news, eddyabs! I am glad for you and the family.
     
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    My heart goes out to you both and to the others on this thread who've shared your brushes with that killer disease.

    NCbear (whose father's prostate cancer was halted, thankfully, two years ago, with no recurrence since)
     
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    Eddyabs, I am so happy to hear about your dad, I cried when I read your
    good news, my dad passed away 36 days ago
    I got to be with him every day since the day he was diagnosed with brain
    cancer, June 10th, till the night he drew his last breath on January 2nd and every minute I got to be with him was a gift. He was strong and couragous
    and funny and such a beautiful man, Momma and I miss him terribly.
    It taught me to take nothing for granted and that love and family are
    all that truely matters. The rest is just stuff. Enjoy every minute you
    all have together and always try to find the humor in every situation
    no matter how difficult or grim. Thank you so much for sharing your good news. k
     
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    Excellent news Eddy!

    The great thing about Stage 1 Lymphoma is in most cases it is treatable. Just make sure you guys are keeping watch on his health regularly. Lymphoma has a high reccurence rate if I recall correctly.

    Like Meg, I lost my mom to cancer and it always makes me happy to hear someone beating the disease. I think my mom smiles down on us whenever someone beats the disease she could not.
     
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    Great news eddy.
     
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    I just stumbled on to this thread and I am very, very happy that your father is in remission.

    Please don't take any signs of a recurrence lightly. My mother went from initial diagnosis to remission to recurence to remission to metastation to death within a span of 3 years. I hope and pray that your father never has a recurrence.
     
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    Hey Eddyabs

    Im so pleased that your Dad is in remission!! I certainly know what you´ve been going through.

    I had a large growth removed from my thyroid last April on my 40th birthday which turned out to be cancerous so i had to have another operation to remove the whole thyroid 2 weeks later!!

    Took about 9 months to get back my voice and body to normal and when i spoke i sounded like Prof Stephen Hawkins voice machine!

    Ive had one load of radiotherapy and have another one soon,. so far im in remission too and thanks to the support of my partner and respective families its been an easier road to tread.

    Now permanantly on thyroxin (artificial thyroid hormone) which takes a while to get used to but benefits are I can eat what I want and lose weight!

    The best thing you can do is keep positive, even on your lowest ebb, cos believe me.....us cancer survivors appreciate and understand how our close family members are feeling..........its called unconditional love.

    This disease is the only thing in life thats non discriminatory........decides who it wants and when it wants to strike.

    You are not alone, although it may seem like it at times and from the fantastic heartfelt responses you´ve had from the members of this site, you now know you have many people to talk with and get reassurance from.

    Long may your dad´s recovery continue and many congratulations on the positive news

     
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    I just want to thank all of you,

    Thanks Meg, that's really appreciated.

    Thanks mate, happy days, and I hope all is well with you and your family now healthwise,

    Cheers SP, he's very stubborn (runs in the family), but if you charm him he'll take anything onboard! So I'll keep on at him.

    Again, thanks mate,

    That's great news and I hope that we both won't be hearing any bad news for a long long time.

    I feel for you. The rest is just stuff, and that's the wisest phrase I've heard in quite some time. I wish you strength and light in the coming months. Thankyou for your honesty.

    I'm bloody glad to hear that your Mum will be beaming down.....and I'd say she sure is. Thankyou Osiris,

    No better, thanks mate.

    I am sad to hear about you Mum, but I hear you, and we will keep a very close eye trust me.

    I am wishing you all the best in the coming months, keep fighting, don't ever give up. Thank you for being so open and honest about your condition, all of you, with your experiences and openness. If this thread helps someone else in some way, well, that's a fantastic thing. This isn't about me, it's about all of us. Amen.
     
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    HI,

    I would always stay in touch with the resources of NIH -even though you live in England. The following will get you started with the National Institute of Health:
    NIH - Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma

    The main point to encourage your doc to continue to explore any new protocol or treatment medication that is being tested.

    Then the discussion of is this appropriate.

    Now...that's the physiological side...the emotional & spiritual side is vastly different. As in the Rule of St Benedict of 560ad: try to see each day as your last day. What would be the nice things you would say and do if today was the last time you hugged or talked with your pop.

    Don't forget to remind him of how glad you were that HE is "your" Dad...and I see from your pics that he gave you a nice "endowment" as well. That's probably hard to talk about: but, its equivalent in personality, intelligence, love -is not.
    Go for it: love him, hug him, pray for him, enjoy him and tell him how proud you are that he's yours!

    texasbuddy@gmail.com
     
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