cant cum from oral..

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I had my first blow job tonight, and it wasn't exactly like I expected it might be. For the first minute it felt incredible, and if i just let go I would probably cum within the first few seconds.

I kissed her and she let up a bit and then no matter how much she played with the head I couldn't cum. Stroking felt better but after 10 minutes or so of her jacking me off and sucking the head I still wasn't close. It felt like the more she played with the head the more sensitive it got to where it almost hurt to be sucked on it was too intense.

Ultimately I had to finish up with the stroking myself as she swallowed my load. We both had fun but being my first time I can't help but wondering if this is normal for the first time? I'm a virgin and she's somewhat experienced.
 

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Normal. Just give yourself some more time and experience and I'm sure you'll be able to cum from oral fine. Sometimes the head of the dick can become over-sensitized and then you have to give yourself a break before starting in again.
 

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Many times the "sucker" is the problem. Communicate with her on what feels good and what doesn't. There are some excellent threads in here on technique that you both could benefit from. I have found some partners to be much better at it than others.
 

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I wouldn't worry about that, I think that's pretty normal no matter what your experience level. I've noticed in a lot of porn the guy pulls out of her mouth and j/o on his own for a bit before shooting on her face, boobs, etc.
 

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Tell her she need to practice and start workin' that jaw.:tongue: Only kidding. The first time isnt allways the best. It will get better as time goes on. Im sure of this. Good luck to you..
 

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Well I tell you from experience, not all woman know how to give a good blow job. Maybe out of 10 you would be lucky to get 2 who would suck you like a human vacuum...so have fun, experience sex with more then one woman and you will soon see my point...
 

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Try to have her twist her hand up and down you while she sucks, making sure your cock stays wet so that it happens nice and fluidly. That gets me off every time. It might also have been nerves that prohibited you from coming, so just ease up and let it happen, because it will one of these times.
 

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I think it's normal too. I didn't cum at all my first time, and over the years only certain guys have been able to make me cum with oral. One of my best friends, a guy who turns me on like crazy and I've known him for 20 years, still can't get me to cum that way unless I jerk off myself. But I also remember thinking something was wrong when I couldn't cum the first couple times I tried. Just try to relax with the knowledge that it's normal for that to happen.
 

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I have never cum from just oral sex and I have alot of experience with blow jobs. I have to jerk it to cum. It just means you have alot of sexual stamina. That will come in handy when you are fucking someone till they reach orgasm.
 

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I've never cum from a blow job from anyone else. The head of my dick is just too sensitive, and the overstimulation makes me squirm and pull away. It's like being tickled - it's fine if you're doing it to yourself, but someone else touching you the same way has a different effect.
 

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Performance anxiety's a real thing. Sometimes there's just too much anticipation during oral to just let go.
 

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I had my first blow job tonight, and it wasn't exactly like I expected it might be. For the first minute it felt incredible, and if i just let go I would probably cum within the first few seconds.

I kissed her and she let up a bit and then no matter how much she played with the head I couldn't cum. Stroking felt better but after 10 minutes or so of her jacking me off and sucking the head I still wasn't close. It felt like the more she played with the head the more sensitive it got to where it almost hurt to be sucked on it was too intense.

Ultimately I had to finish up with the stroking myself as she swallowed my load. We both had fun but being my first time I can't help but wondering if this is normal for the first time? I'm a virgin and she's somewhat experienced.

Hi,

About 30% of men (apparently) experience the same problem in tipping themselves over the edge whilst being given head.



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