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hungone: I always wish I could cum while receiving head - yet it just doesn't work. With all of us saying that we can't - kinda makes you wonder how those porn stars do it!?!?
 
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two_fister: It seems to me that even the porn stars have a hard time cumming from b/j's, most of the time they end up jerking themselves off.
 

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[quote author=two_fister link=board=health;num=1037570629;start=15#21 date=12/02/02 at 12:25:47]It seems to me that even the porn stars have a hard time cumming from b/j's, most of the time they end up jerking themselves off.[/quote]

Porn producers call the external orgasm, such as by jerking off, the "money shot."  The porn industry, both gay and straight, seems to believe that audiences prefer to see the cum shoot, rather than have it squirted inside.  
 
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aquaman875: [quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=health;num=1037570629;start=15#19 date=11/27/02 at 12:09:45]

That's like saying, "I don't like condiments; I prefer mustard instead." Clue: a blowjob is sex ... that's why it's called ORAL SEX. Remember Bill Clinton claiming he never had sex with Monica Lewinsky because his cock was in her mouth instead of in her vagina? He found out how wrong that was!
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Yes, and the american public seemed to have a bigger problem with Clinton's use of semantics (depends on what your definition of "is" is.) than what he did with Monica.

In other words, you know what I meant - a great blowjob is better than intercourse.
 

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@ericbear:
It's b/c you can fake an orgasm, but you can't fake the shot itself. With enough willpower, I can hold back the moaning, or fake an orgasm if need be, but I can't cum on command.

@aquaman:
Most ppl hate postmodernism, which is basically the essence of Clinton's defense. I personally wish they hadn't put it on the news; I can just see parents trying to contextualize it. "...and sometimes a woman will put the man's penis in her mouth. That is known as fellatio. And sometimes a woman will mount a man facing the opposite direction so that his penis will be in her mouth and her vagina will be near his mouth. This is called sixty-nine." LOL
 
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brad2002: For those who have a hard time cumming while getting head, a finger up the ass and rubbing the prostate always does it for me. Ask you partner, boy or girl, to do it and watch the cum fly.
 
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Dickprint: there has been 3 times i came while receiving head "only" (no hands, nothing but mouth action) so i know its possible for me. its just too dam infrequent. i am on a constant search for someone who can make me shoot my load each head session. its all in the technique, b/c this lady who was a friend of my aunts, gave me head twice on different days & situations and both times i came unassisted and in less than 10 minutes. wow what a feeling. nevermind that it came from someone who i wasn't even turned on by. now i would walk in public, holding hands if i could be reunited with her. she was a size queen for sure, the first time she blew me, she told me rather bluntly that she bet that i had a big dick, i laughed nervously & tried to keep cool. then i say what makes u say that, she replied b/c of the shape of your fingers. mind u i know thats total bull, but i just keep acting shy. so she asks if she can c it, i stall a little, just relishing in the moment, then i pull it out still acting shy. finally its out & she takes a good look and says i didn't know u were that big, instantly i become rock hard, her next move was straight to my dick, she held it, slapped it aroung a little, the she put it on the side of her face, next thing i know i was receiving the best head ever
 
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duzyamuthano: i reckon i could count on the fingers of one hand the number of times i've cum just from getting a blow job. it's all down to my partner's technique, and how turned-on i am. yes, it's rare, but i have to say i don't regret not cumming from being sucked off most of the time: every experience is different, and there are so many other ways to stimulate and be stimulated, if i aimed always for oral perfection i'd be missing out on a huge range of pleasure. and i'm absolutely with dmw when he says that oral sex is sex ... as is everything else we do together. this might just be a gay man's perspective, but i find the word 'foreplay' kind of odd: the two parts fore (meaning something else must follow) and play (meaning that it's not the most important element) really seem to downgrade the kind of activities that can be -- for me at least -- just as satisfying and pleasurable as penetrative sex. which ain't top of my list, and isn't always on the menu.

oh, and by the way, those few times i have bust a nut from being blown: A-W-E-S-O-M-E-!-!-!
 
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meathose10: Wow , this thread is a big surprise for me . I'm with DMW on this one. I've even splashed her lips after a few slurps. I have to pull out of her mouth frequently or I'll pump down her throat too soon. A BJ excites me more than vaginal sex. If you guys have trouble popping off ,try easing back in a nice chair in front of a big mirror and watch her nurse. And try holding her neck so you feel yourself hosing down in there...I promise you'll shoot.
 
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felipe: I wonder what women would say here of their inabilities to give good head...how many of them would complain about their partner's inability to give them good oral?
 
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Shaolin: I've had the poor fortune of finding women who give poor BJs. I've only found one that was great, and I still couldn't come, but I shook like a motel bed. I think it was psychological, because she was a little nuts, and I feared she would...like, scoop it up and put it in a journal or something.
 
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drdirt:
because she was a little nuts, and I feared she would...like, scoop it up and put it in a journal or something.
Yeah, I know her.

I actually dread the first time a woman goes down on me. Tactfully changing positions to good ol' rutting can sometimes be difficult.

I lived with one who managed to get me there about 3 times in a year and half. Yet, in 26 years since my first - I've cum maybe 6 or 7 times from oral sex. My wife and I tried and tried.

When one girl (really wonderful sex otherwise) quit giving me head, her TMJ cleared up. She swore that was it and claimed her D.O. and DDS agreed...I'm not sure I want to know anything more about those consultations!

I'm not long, but the width causes some of them to give up easily. What is really frustrating is if they haven't slept with other guys with width before. I may not get much vaginal time either. I remember back in high school - boy did I get frustrated.

I vote for slobber. And a hand to keep some pacing while she takes a break. Some of the other tips I'll have to try - If I could just poll a few hundred women to find one or two that take thick and don't mind a middle-aged widower! (I mean can take thick and act like they enjoy it, not just say they like it.)

BTW: Thanks for the tips...
 
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SpeedoGuy: Well, heh heh heh

I've never had a BJ I thought was poor...

Seriously, though. Like some others, I almost always have trouble cumming during a BJ. Its not the partner's fault...its just something to do with me. To finish up I have to go over to straight ahead sex.
 
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kyle: This is interesting. I never knew there was any man (much less many men) who didn't cum from fellatio.

Personally, I prefer no hands at all, and I have perfect control of when I cum. If it's good head I'll make it last a good long time. If it's not so good I'll cum right away. I'm fortunate to be paired with an excellent lover and couldn't be happier.
 
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ChgoBigDikLuvr: As a gay man who loves to perform oral sex on well-endowed men for extended, marathon suck sessions, I encourage the man I'm sucking to just kick back, relax, and enjoy the pleasure instead of trying to cum. I reassure him that the means (the cocksucking) is as, if not more, pleasurable than the end (the orgasm). This often takes the pressure off of him to try to ejaculate, and the orgasm comes much more spontaneously. If only more guys would appreciate the process, and not just the outcome.
 
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meathose10: Ditto Dee....nothing better than a cocksucker enjoying their work. If anything I keep having to ease my cock out of the mouth for a while and let it rest , or I'll disappoint the fan working on me by pumping cum too soon.....I get very excited watching my meat hosing down a throat - and if her eyes are looking up at me , forget it....I can pop in 5 minutes! So I let my nurser take a breather and try to see if I can get the warm juice to settle back down some. It really surprises me that so many of you guys have trouble reaching orgasm. I could USE a little trouble!
 
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dalton321: Hell, I always give my guy a mouthful of hot sticky jizz when he gives head.

I'm still in the opinion, guys just give better head than women ;)