Can't Cum!

Discussion in 'The Healthy Penis' started by opheicleide, Sep 11, 2009.

  1. opheicleide

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    Hey, I really hope someone can help.
    I have a new b.f, and when we have sex he can precum his big uncut cock like the best, but he never gets to the point of being able to cum.

    Can someone help me to get him to cum. Is there something wrong with his cock, or is he just holding back.

    Please help.
     
  2. nakedwally

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    I do not mean this to insult you in any way but maybe he is not aroused by you to the point where he can have orgasm
    or maybe a medical condition, could be any number of reasons, maybe he might be on some medication that stops him from cumming, this happened to me a while back and I was unable to cum for 2 weeks cause of some stupid pills.
     
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    Yup - I know anti-deressants can inhibit orgasm.

    Or maybe he's just way too accustomed to the talents of his right hand. That hapens to guys who get reliant on jerking off.

    If you want to fix this problem it's going to take some plain talk and a little effort. Like if he doesn't cum, he needs to not fix the problem by stroking off. And then he needs to apply your mouth again. And if he doesn't cum the next time you need to repeat.

    Won't be easy. Will require communication that's tough amd lots of reassurane from you that he's desiresble - who wants to admit his sexual functioning is less that perfectly studly? But it will be well worth it.
     
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    Is your boyfriend upset abut this, or is it jut bothering you? It's very hard to make me cum during the actual sex act-- we usually try to take care of this later. I don't really mind that I don't cum, but enjoy seeing my partner get off. But I have noticed that some guys get upset when they can't make me cum, or I way outlast them. I just explain that it's OK, and I enjoy sex even if i don't cum. Perhaps it's the same with your boyfriend?
     
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    I use to have this problem.

    Kind of like being pee shy; but cum shy.

    I grew out of it.
     
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    I still have this problem. I am looking for a way to re-sensitize the penis.
    I had a "grip of death" when masturbating.
     
  7. opheicleide

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    Hey, thanks for your advice. But, I know he feels guilty cos he doesn't cum
     
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    Like someone else said, he could be on meds that prohibit him from cumming. I've got a friend that works me over and still isn't able to cum. Yet he's able to when he's jacking off solo. Could be like another user mentioned...cum shy. Maybe he feels pressured to cum. Does he get off when he jacks off?
     
  9. FuzzyKen

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    There are a number of things that can cause ejaculation problems. I have a question? Does he get hard and just to the edge of orgasm or ejaculation, or does it never get that far?

    Surprisingly one thing that abasolutely screwed with my ability to ejaculate was Viagra. If I took enough of it I could get hard, but it interfered with my ability to ejaculate. I would go to the edge and then become frustrated when things sort of did not happen. I cannot explain the feelings it was just weird. I would even leak pre, but the "main event" just would not happen. There are things that can help too if it is medical.

    The best thing you can do is to show this fellow great understanding and be supportive. The more supportive you are of his efforts in that direction the more he will feel comfortable in confiding in you.

    Good Luck. . .
     
  10. Dave NoCal

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    To sort of echo FuzzyKen, it might help to reassure him that you are not bothered. That sex with hism is great. That he turns you on extremely, Etc...
    However, if he is on a selective serotonin inhibitor (antidepressant) such as Paxil, they are notorious for this side effect. Buproprion (Welbutrin) does not cause these problems and had been shown to actually improve sexual function in men, even those who aren't depressed.
    If he's into it, a bit of prostate play might help.
    Good luck in this.
    Dave
     
  11. uberhund

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    I used to have this problem, and, assuming that there's nothing terribly wrong with the relationship and it's not a drug issue (as suggested above) the standard 'cure' is for the other person to hold you while you masturbate, possibly after previoiusly having had some mutual fun. This gets rid of the 'pee shy' type of experience. It sometimes takes a few goes, but when you get used to having an orgasm in the company of another person like that, the whole situation becomes more relaxed.

    In any case, I would say that a certain number of guys often like to 'finish' this way (we used to call it a 'porn star finish' as lots of porn ends up with the guy finishing himself off for the camera), sometimes with an assist (stroking balls, perineum etc.) and it seems as good a way of cumming as any...
     
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    Perhaps you could have a sexy night where you stroke him, suck him, ride his dick, and then let him finish by watching him stroke his dick? It's possible he likes a certain grip, a certain motion?
     
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