Hey there....my wife and I have been together a total of 6 years. Overall, a great relationship in and out of bed but she always manages to surprise and confuse me along the way....the biggest confusion usually results from her submissiveness in bed. She's not real vocal about what she wants so that usually leaves it to me to lead or in many cases, experiment with something new....here are a few examples: 1) by experimenting and being playful, I found out that she really enjoys being spanked during sex - she never communicated this to me before and this happened more than 2 years into our relationship...we now do it often in bed 2) found out that her best sex outside of our relationship was also with the biggest cock that she had....asked her if it was the size but she would only say that it was a "better fit" than other boyfriends.....isn't this really just saying that the bigger cock felt the best? I pressed her on this but she would never admit to liking the bigger cock, based on size alone..... With all of this said, she is very open when it comes to trying new things....toys, role play, positions, etc. Is she a true submissive....she says no and I say yes. I do not want her to get a hang up about this but I would like to have her initiate more rather than me coming up with the ideas or always leading. I feel like I will be depriving her of some things she likes but she leaves it to me to lead....Any ideas or suggestions?