Can't Get Off From Sex

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This is an issue I've had ever since I started having sex, but it's only become a problem (in my mind) with my LTR that I can't seem to have an orgasm during sex. It feels great, and there's passion and love and all that, but my physical pleasure always seems to plateau well before getting anywhere close to orgasm. Has anyone else ever had this problem, and if you did how did you overcome it?
 

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Lots and lots of people have this problem. Common issues:

Are you on antidepressants or any other medications/substance (prescription or not) that have sexual side effects?

Do you masturbate with a kung-fu grip? That can make it difficult to get off without that much friction.
 

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too much jacking off? maybe you are used to cumming in a certain position from too mich masterbation?
i went on a hotstreak of not stop jacking off. i couldnt cum unless the girl was on top because i was so used to laying down on my back and cumming.
if thats the case.... more sex, and less jacking off. it will eventually go away
 

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Are you on antidepressants or any other medications/substance (prescription or not) that have sexual side effects?

Yes but this problem predates my prozac subscription. I think though I've overcome the SSRI side-effects, at least with myself.

too much jacking off? maybe you are used to cumming in a certain position from too mich masterbation?
i went on a hotstreak of not stop jacking off. i couldnt cum unless the girl was on top because i was so used to laying down on my back and

I have a feeling this may be it. I don't j/o as much as I used to but it is usually lying down. Thanks for the help!
 

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I had this issue with many SSRIs, and moved to different anti-depressants quickly. I found wellbutrin great for sexual side effects, but mediocre as an anti-depressant, and of the SNRIs, effexor led to elevated suicidal ideation, but the almost chemically identical pristiq kept me in fine shape for a couple of years, with the orgasms that I missed with Zoloft. ultimately it comes down to how much you need to not be depressed vs your need for an orgasm.

I enjoy orgasm, but recognise the need to stop trying to kill myself.
 

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I'm on cylexa right now and I've had the same issues the past couple months(been on it for 4 months) it feels great and everything I just tend to give up and later jack off which sucks cause my gf really likes it when I pull out and cum all over her. Ive been blaming the pills but the more I think about it it doesn't make sense