Cant hold a conversation?

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It's only a turn off if he can't hold a conversation at all. He could be talking about something I previously found uninteresting but he could supply detail that makes me curious.

At the very least it gives me the opportunity to see how his mind works.

I'm more likely to be turned off discussing things we do have in common and being disgusted by his views.
 

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Definitely! And I try to be as adaptable as I can. I'll change the subject two or three times just fishing for something we can connect with.

So rather than trying to figure out of he's pathologically shy or bored I'll cut my losses and move on.
 

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Oh don't get me wrong, I'll listen to someone talk about something with which we have nothing in common if it's interesting. I have a very open mind, but if you're going to talk about anime for two hours then I'm out.
 

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I've actually never really had that issue with a guy I'm interested in. I'm usually right on board with what they find 'interesting' conversation.

I suppose I'd get annoyed if that's all he ever wanted to talk about, stuff that's important to him but not so much to me.. and if he wasn't willing to listen to me talk about things that I value that he may not.

If he's willing to listen to me ramble about things that bore him as much as I would for him, I'm fine with it.
 

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Is this usually a turn off if he cant hold a conversation of things that your interested in.

It's not just a turn-off, it's a dealbreaker. I have a pretty wide range of interests and I don't mind learning about what others are into too, but if we can't have a conversation why bother spending time together? Although sometimes I think having shared interests is overrated, I've had great conversations with people I didn't have that with. But you still have to be able to have a conversation.
 

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Exactly! I have a lot of interests so I'll change the subject to find something we connect on. No connection at all? See ya!

Definitely! And I try to be as adaptable as I can. I'll change the subject two or three times just fishing for something we can connect with.

So rather than trying to figure out of he's pathologically shy or bored I'll cut my losses and move on.
 

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Is this usually a turn off if he cant hold a conversation of things that your interested in.

I wouldn't necessarily say it's a "turn off" but more of a decline in our interaction together. I love to listen to men talk about their lives. To me it means they trust me.

But if I'm talking about something that I like or interests me and he's looking at traffic, I'll ask if he's bored with the topic LOL Just me and how I am. Point blank. But I'm adaptable and will talk about anything. No problems.
 
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It's only a turn off if he can't hold a conversation at all. He could be talking about something I previously found uninteresting but he could supply detail that makes me curious.

At the very least it gives me the opportunity to see how his mind works.

I'm more likely to be turned off discussing things we do have in common and being disgusted by his views.

Definitely! And I try to be as adaptable as I can. I'll change the subject two or three times just fishing for something we can connect with.

So rather than trying to figure out of he's pathologically shy or bored I'll cut my losses and move on.

I would say both of these things are true for me. I don't think we need to have much in common but I have to be able to figure out a little about how he thinks or his values.
 

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I would say both of these things are true for me. I don't think we need to have much in common but I have to be able to figure out a little about how he thinks or his values.

Yeah this is what I was trying to get at. I don't think it's so much about having common interests as it is about having good conversational skills.