Is this usually a turn off if he cant hold a conversation of things that your interested in.
Definitely! And I try to be as adaptable as I can. I'll change the subject two or three times just fishing for something we can connect with.
So rather than trying to figure out of he's pathologically shy or bored I'll cut my losses and move on.
Is this usually a turn off if he cant hold a conversation of things that your interested in.
It's only a turn off if he can't hold a conversation at all. He could be talking about something I previously found uninteresting but he could supply detail that makes me curious.
At the very least it gives me the opportunity to see how his mind works.
I'm more likely to be turned off discussing things we do have in common and being disgusted by his views.
Definitely! And I try to be as adaptable as I can. I'll change the subject two or three times just fishing for something we can connect with.
So rather than trying to figure out of he's pathologically shy or bored I'll cut my losses and move on.
I would say both of these things are true for me. I don't think we need to have much in common but I have to be able to figure out a little about how he thinks or his values.