Can't Stay Hard/Slow Cumming

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  1. Caterpillar

    Caterpillar New Member

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    I've finally come to realize I think I have a problem. After 5 sexual partners (females) I have trouble staying hard. If I try to finger the girl, say during a handjob, and concentrate more on that, then what she's doing to me, I will start to loose my erection.

    I have had sex pleanty of times but I still get nervous. I think I try to hard to make sure the girl is getting everything she wants, it makes it hard for me to cum. Is there anything I can do to speed myself up?

    Thank you.
     
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    Many solutions. Do you go down on her?

    Does she go down on you for good oral stimulation?

    What attitude did you receive from your parents regarding sexual intercourse?

    All of this will have an impact on your performance.

    I would not allow yourself to worry about this.

    Life takes practice.

    Enjoy life.

    Sorry this is a reply that is sent twice, but I hit an incorrect key.
     
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    Relax! There's the key. It's easy to worry yourself soft.

    Stop worrying so much about your partner, too. Yes, it's good to want her to have a good time. But not to the exclusion of you having a good time - try being a bit selfish. It's OK.

    And maybe you're not getting what you want. Time to broaden your horizons, maybe.
     
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    I take it you have no problems masturbating but this is only with women?
     
  5. D_Evinia Saggyudders

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    Sounds like you need to take more time to enjoy it for yourself and not worry so much about what she wants. It's great that you care so much about her pleasure, trust me, more men should be like you!!! :wink:

    When she is trying to make you feel good...let yourself go and enjoy it. Sex is not all about one partner!
     
  6. Caterpillar

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    Thank you all for the support. Masturbating is not a problem, and i do not do it (what i would consider) often. 2 times a week. Somtimes 3.

    I think everyone thinks Im more neverous then I really am/implied. Im not self concious or anything. More nervous about her enjoyment. I do go down on her, my parents have been relatively quiet about sex talks.

    She does go down on me but like i said, I have to concentrate more on keeping it hard, then enjoying it.

    Again, a serious thank you to everyone.
     
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