Can't use condoms.... single life and STDs

[Lito]

So it finally happened.

I can not, for the life of me, use condoms. I feel no pleasure at all, despite whatever specialists have to say. I've tried a lot of condoms, a lot of sizes... but to no avail.

Make no mistake, I can "function" within a condom... but I feel no pleasure from the act, to the point where I have turned down sex when condoms where imperative. I was completly into the girl and next minute I was like: "whatever, let's watch a movie". (this is no blaming on the girls... they are more than right in demanding a condom).

Well... it turns out I had to spend some quality time in a hospital last week. Got some intensive care, plus some medicines for ovr a week. Luckily, I got no serious STD (like HIV) and I'm all clean now.

It's a sad fact, however, that I still can not deal with condoms. As it stands, I have a few options on my book:
1) Get a steady gf (not in a mood right now)
2) Stop having sex altogether... or get some paid sex for foreplay and oral only (still not 100% safe)
3) Go on risking my luck.

This is not a thread where I'm asking for advice... I'm well educated enough to know where I stand right now. It's more of a need to share my pain with this wonderful community. So there...

Pax all.

 

[visceraltuning]

How about some sex with a condom then finishing up with oral?

I'm sure a chick probably wouldn't mind as long as you gave her a really satisfying fuck.

 

[DC_DEEP]

Sorry to hear about your difficulties, Lito.

I just hope you don't choose option 3.

 

[nudeyorker]

I hated them when we first started using them in the early 80's after a couple years of forplay and practice...You'll get used to them!
Good luck!

 

[RideRocket]

I hate that whole "gets AIDS and die thing". It's sooo 80s.

 

[Big Dreamer]

If you have no intentions on settling down and having kids then get a vasistomy or however its spelled so that you will be sterile and can have sex w/o a condom.

The major, life-saving reason for the condom is to avoid transmitting diseases, Durbman. Stopping the baby-batter from finding purchase inside the girl is also of extreme importance, but secondary to staying alive I would think.

 

[MuscleBound]

bro - i hear ya. even magnums were so tight that i couldn't feel a thing. my gf's loved it cause i could pump hard for as long as they could take it but i couldn't feel much of anything. always ended up (1) jerkin off on them, (2) titty fucking them, (3) getting head - which i know isn't 100% but is much, much safer than intercourse. finally met the ONE for me and got married. it actually was cool because it was really the first pussy i'd had in years, so it was really special and something like being a virgin.

i'll bet i had sex way more than 100 times with a magnum on, and never felt anything until i took it off, and like you said i could stay harder than than hell, but didn't feel anything.

 

[tiggerpoo]

I share your experience. A condom destroys the sensation. It ruins sex for me. I don't use them. But I don't sleep around.