If there is anyone out there that has found a way to just be "friends" with an ex-lover or someone that you've had a deep crush on? I need advice. How do you handle all those pent up sexual feelings when you meet with the ex as friends? How can a relationship which revolved around sex turn into a friendship with no sex?
I've always found this to be damn near impossible so I usually have clean breaks. Usually I need to no longer feel any sexual attraction to be friends. What has your experience been?
ok... scenario 1
- my best friend of 6 years came out about being gay... two years and a month ago.. and I had wanted him soooo badly, and in the worst sexual way.. he kept saying no, like for years... after he came out... I think I told him once I still felt horrible for wanting him still... anyhow fastforward two years... to my grad night.... we are both high out of our trees... we have sex..... unprotected I might add... no birth control.. nothing.. the next few days he stops calling, and we stop talking, when I do call him after awhile, he starts saying I'm being clingy, and whatnot... we have sex again in november... and we still like hate each other... worst decision I ever made... but yet I still want him... horrible....
scenario 2...
- my best girl friends 21 year old cousin.... I talk to him for 3 years online... a year and a half in.. I turn the tables on him, he is single, and I'm playing right up to it... he lives accross canada from me, for 11.5 months of the year... we meet up last summer and fuck like animals.. we talk for a few weeks after... and thats it.. I hear from him once every few months...
Either it's me, or its just the way it works out, I've lost every friend I've lusted after and fucked....
I usually just plan impossible schemes in my head about the things I want to do to them....
I don't think from my experiance that relationships can go back to friendships... unless well i dont even know...