caring for your introvert (atlantic monthly article)....

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by concupisys, Dec 22, 2011.

  1. concupisys

    concupisys Active Member

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2007
    Messages:
    843
    Likes Received:
    95
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    toronto
    some of you may have read this article when it was first released in 2003, but i figured i would post it here and see if anyone can relate.... what are your thoughts? read the article and let's start a dialogue!

    Caring for Your Introvert - Magazine - The Atlantic
     
  2. willow78

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2008
    Messages:
    5,848
    Albums:
    4
    Likes Received:
    123
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Australia
    Thank you so much for this! As a long-time introvert myself, I should print this out and give to my family and friends.









    Well, I would do that.....if I wasn't so introverted, LOL.
     
  3. concupisys

    concupisys Active Member

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2007
    Messages:
    843
    Likes Received:
    95
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    toronto
    LOL! just send them a link to the article on the net.... that would be the introverted thing to do....
     
  4. Serial Kisser

    Serial Kisser Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2009
    Messages:
    3,480
    Likes Received:
    357
    Location:
    South of Sanity
    From a fellow introvert, this is great. Thank you for posting
     
  5. hypoc8

    hypoc8 Member

    Joined:
    Apr 12, 2007
    Messages:
    718
    Likes Received:
    5
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    SC
    Hit the nail on the head with this one.
     
  6. concupisys

    concupisys Active Member

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2007
    Messages:
    843
    Likes Received:
    95
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    toronto
    totally.... until i read this article, i always viewed being an introvert as a bad thing.... but it's not.... the world just doesn't know how to handle us, and is too busy vying for attention to do anything.... it will definitely help me in my future decision making about work, love, family and friends, and even complete strangers.... i breathed a quiet, unassuming sigh of relief....
     
  7. aninnymouse

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 13, 2006
    Messages:
    3,063
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    In My Own World
    Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.
     
  8. B_Hickboy

    B_Hickboy New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2005
    Messages:
    10,730
    Likes Received:
    5
    Location:
    That twinge in your intestines
    Fuck off.
     
  9. hypoc8

    hypoc8 Member

    Joined:
    Apr 12, 2007
    Messages:
    718
    Likes Received:
    5
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    SC
    I've never viewed it as a bad thing, just never understood why some people act like it's a disease.

    I do get quite irritated when people ask over and over what's wrong, why aren't you talking, why are you so quiet and so on.

    I've never asked an extroverted person if they ever shut up.
     
  10. exwhyzee

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jun 5, 2005
    Messages:
    4,578
    Likes Received:
    36
    Gender:
    Male
    I'm an INTJ on the Myers Briggs scale (the I is for introversion) so I've long recognized the introvert in me. Its true that people consider me a misanthrope, a loner, aloof, and all the other names they associate with introverts. The only trouble I have with who I am is when I start believing what everyone else says about me. The perspective the article gave about feeling exhausted after a public function is totally true for me. I feel wiped out after a party. At the end of a long day in my extroverted job...all I want to do is sit on the computer and lurk. Not good for meeting people or having a social life...but a price I've got to pay.
     
  11. aninnymouse

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 13, 2006
    Messages:
    3,063
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    In My Own World
    Why Hickie I di'n' know y'karedt.....
     
  12. Serial Kisser

    Serial Kisser Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Feb 18, 2009
    Messages:
    3,480
    Likes Received:
    357
    Location:
    South of Sanity
    Twinsies
     
  13. aninnymouse

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Dec 13, 2006
    Messages:
    3,063
    Likes Received:
    4
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    In My Own World
    Triplets, even.
     
  14. nudeyorker

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 6, 2006
    Messages:
    42,918
    Likes Received:
    37
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    NYC/Honolulu
    That was a wonderful article thank you for posting it. I am not an introvert but sometimes I spend the majority of a day performing the dog and pony show and need quiet time to myself to recharge and regroup. I sometimes feel the same way after certain parties because I know I was invited to keep the conversation flowing in an upbeat yet subtle manner... (Someone needs to do an article on how wearing it can be at times to be an extrovert)
     
  15. B_Hickboy

    B_Hickboy New Member

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2005
    Messages:
    10,730
    Likes Received:
    5
    Location:
    That twinge in your intestines
    Quads.
     
  16. concupisys

    concupisys Active Member

    Joined:
    Jan 31, 2007
    Messages:
    843
    Likes Received:
    95
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    toronto
  17. august86

    august86 Member

    Joined:
    Sep 2, 2010
    Messages:
    287
    Albums:
    7
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Ask...
    Quints then.

    Hi, I'm Prince Auggie and I'm an introvert and INTJ. :wink:

    Thanks for posting this article. So many things rang true that it's quite scary- especially wrt small talk and being labelled as shy or nervous when you just don't feel the need to fill the silence with talk.

    In my defence, I have made strides in accommodating extroverts by perpetuating conversation.
     
  18. willow78

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2008
    Messages:
    5,848
    Albums:
    4
    Likes Received:
    123
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Australia
    My parents are elderly so they can't be bothered with the 'net.....or even computers for that matter.

    Maybe I'll just print it out and 'casually' leave it laying on their kitchen table or something - but I think that's more 'passive-aggressive' than 'introvert', lol.
     
  19. gymfresh

    Verified Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 8, 2008
    Messages:
    1,659
    Albums:
    3
    Likes Received:
    16
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Rodinia
    Verified:
    Photo
    My partner of 7 years is a classic introvert. Sometimes I feel he thinks I don't understand or appreciate the differences between us, but I do. He also has it in his head that I'm the classic extrovert, which is really not true at all. I'm a "made" extrovert, someone whose career and family pressures more or less demanded that I live my life beyond the comfort zone I would have chosen for myself. I'm not saying I regret it -- I learned social skills I otherwise would totally have forsaken -- but it might not be who I "am". Actually, I'm as uncomfortable with the classic introvert mold as with the classic extrovert mold. Neither fits.
     
  20. D_Dick_S_Lapp

    D_Dick_S_Lapp Account Disabled

    Joined:
    Dec 4, 2011
    Messages:
    961
    Likes Received:
    0
    I feel the same, not exactly one or the other. Though, i do prefer introversion. Much less complicated.
     
Draft saved Draft deleted