Cash for a Friend's Wedding Present?

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  1. lwd

    lwd New Member

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    I have a good friend who is Vietnamese American. I can’t attend his wedding in Vietnam but he is having an engagement party here soon.

    I asked him want he wanted, since there is no wedding registry in his culture, and he said don’t worry about. I pestered him and he said most people give cash.

    I have always been to family weddings where there is a registry. How much do I give? Do I slip it in an envelope with a card?

    Thanks.
     
  2. MrToolhung

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    I can't really give you an amount but I have given cash in lieu of a gift. It was put into a card and if memory serves me correctly it was $50.00. That was the amount I decided upon because that is how much I was going to spend a gift for them.
     
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    be creative. you don't have to stick to standards or customs. obviously he's not gonna freak out because you give him $1. the fact you thought to give him something would more than likely be enough!
     
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    I would think you'd be best give him a card with cash at the engagement party. Tell him you want to give him the cash to help out with the wedding/honeymoon and apologize for not being able to attend the ceremony in Vietnam. And of course it depends on how good of a friend he is and how much you can afford, but i would think $100 is a good amount.
     
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    we do this all the time over here in New Zealand as a gift usually in a card (congrats)
    there's heaps to choose from, how ever you do it I'm sure he will apreciate it none the less. with a few simple words in a card slip your $$$$ or gift card or both you choose they will love it..............:)
     
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    I hate when they ask for cash at weddings. It seems so unromantic. I would put a fiver in the envelop and write 'keep the change!'
     
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    I have always been to family weddings where there is a registry. How much do I give? Do I slip it in an envelope with a card?

    Yep you sure do,its a sensible and practical gift,give the receiver some credit to purchase there own preffered item or whatever
    as manplay said, its common here in NZ, i always do it.
    Maybe you would like to check if the Vietnamese like the Chinese, prefer such a gift, in a Red Envelope (denotes Good Luck)
    Also with NZ Maori its often referred to as a Koha, attended a funeral today and we koha'd 250-00$ to assist the Whanau (family) with expenses
    always appreciated, give an amount that reflects your means, receiving a supposedly small amount? only the foolish/selfish unapreciative would baulk at the amount received.
    enz
     
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    I've always given the same gift to good friends...Steuben Olive Dish. For others I have used the gift register as a guide.
    If I were asked for cash I would give the amount I would have spent otherwise.
    There are cards for weddings that are designed to hold cash or a cheque.
     
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    That is absolutely GORGEOUS!

    Unfortunately it also costs almost as much money as I receive in a fortnight :biggrin1:
     
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    Tell me about it. I've been giving that as a gift for quite a while now. The cost has gone up substantially over the years. Luckily almost everyone I know is married.
     
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    ROFL :biggrin1:.
     
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    Nice piece....looks like you could break the handle off and use as a dildo!
     
  13. lwd

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    Interesting cultural education....looks like cash is king in NZ.
     
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    Thanks to all for the input. He is a good friend and my budget is flexible. It will probably be $100 - $150 a nice card to tuck the cash in.

    And a nude photo of myself for kicks!
     
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    Any suitable present is acceptable.Wedding gifts should be regarded as a pleasant bonus to a wedding and not the 'be all and end all.' Cash is a definate no-no!
     
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    In the present day Oriental world, it is common to give cash at a wedding. You mentioned your friend is getting married in Vietnam, I do not now if your friend is Vietnamese. If your friend is Vietnamese, then cash is quite the norm.
     
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    Taken from the Wiki entry for Traditional Vietnamese Wedding

    Hope that helps.
     
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