Let me with a short biographical sketch. I'm 23. I've just lost about a hundred pounds and finally got a handle on the depression that helped me to gain them. I've been cut off for a few years, from people and from intimacy, and I'm having a hard time diving back in. I'm absolutely petrified of a relationship, but I'm a normal horny person, and I want sex. But I also want something that doesn't feel transactional. I'm not very experienced. I feel like I need someone to teach me or at least help. I'm attracted to men and women, but feel afraid at the idea of being inexperienced with a woman. What would you do? Where would you look for that sort of companionship? Or am I just being a bit of coward about the whole thing? Any advice appreciated. Thanks.