Casual Sex

[MidwestGal]

I have the opportunity today to be with someone that I have been writing to and chatting with for 8 months. I just can't do it! I'm not sure why but I just can't get into the casual sex thing. I want more and always have. I'm sure it would be fun, that isn't the question.

Are there several others out there that feel this way? I also have two guys i am really interested in and i wouldn't want to hurt my chances with either one.

 

[Wonderboy]

One night stands I can't really do (when out drinking etc)

But on Saturday I went to a girl's house who I've been talking to for a while. I was nervous about going, whether she would like me or not etc or if there would be awkward silences...but it was great.

It probably classes as casual sex...or a one night stand but it was great and we both wanted it (well, me more than her since she had a cold!). But we're seeing each other often now and it would appear we both really like each other :smile:

But its up to you, each situation and each person is different. If he lives quite far away then it might not be worth it, to go so far away to have casual sex...when you have to guys you're into (and want to be into you...oh the pun ) right there.

If you don't want to do it...don't do it is all that can be said. It's entirely up to you.

 

[Yorkie]

Different strokes for different folks,if you just can't do it that's all there is to it.Don't feel bad about it.
Reading that back it looks like I'm about to turn into a rapper! :biggrin1:

 

[Lito]

It never, NEVER has a happy (happy meaning I can go in, then out and never look back) end for me.

No matter how many times I try to do it, I always get involved.

I keep trying though, it's not like getting involved is always a bad thing.

 

[jeff black]

I have the opportunity today to be with someone that I have been writing to and chatting with for 8 months. I just can't do it! I'm not sure why but I just can't get into the casual sex thing. I want more and always have. I'm sure it would be fun, that isn't the question.

Are there several others out there that feel this way? I also have two guys i am really interested in and i wouldn't want to hurt my chances with either one.

I have had a few offers as well, Thatgal. I just can't accept them. There IS something about casual sex that turns me off. Perhaps I am just old fashioned, but there needs to be more than just sex.. i want the feelings and emotions that go with it.

 

[MidwestGal]

thanks Jeff, that is exactly how I feel. I want more and always have.

 

[Wrat]

When I was younger I drank an elixer that eliminated my inhibitions and made it easier to have sex when I really didn't want to, but I am older now and I really want companionship as well. Not necessarily love. Not really sure what that is, but companionship. Friendship. A connection greater than the physical one.
Always been that way too.

 

[WildHoney]

Resident fem slut chiming in ...... I am married and for me sex and making love or even sometimes emotion are two entirely seperate things .

We have candle lit loving, passionate, spooning sex when feel the need to be connected to him...and then I have great throw me against the wall fucking when I feel naughty and wanton ( more often than not this is my kinda sex :tongue: ) all within my marriage.

To me they are entirely different things. I like both, but prefer my sex wild and primal.

When I need raw hot sex, we have a great night at home, watch porn, fuck like teenagers, or we sometimes go to swingers clubs and have wild hot sex with strangers!!

I like all forms of sex and think they all kinda have their place in my life. Casual sex included. I have some memories of hot casual sex that will last me till I am 90.......

So I guess I am thumbs up for casual sex, I do however have a deeply satisfying emotional commitment from a man at home, so I get my fix for that anytime I need it.

:smile:

Honey

 

[Lordpendragon]

The worst type of casual sex is when it becomes so in a long term relationship.

I am with WH on this - I don't want any of my sex to be casual.

Recreational sex is a better term IMO.

 

[51107]

Thatgal, I would advise that you not feel badly about not being able to go through with a casual sex encounter. From my own experience, I've found that the longer I talk with someone, the more likely I am to become attached to them---even without the sex.

The question really becomes: Why do you want this casual fling? I'd encourage you to answer that question within yourself before feeling badly that you may have missed out on some great sex.

Hope it helps,

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

I'm with Wild and Lord.

My relationship comes first -- in companionship, in friendship, in respect, and in sex. And because we tend to that, we're comfortable to explore other recreational activities.

I hear you, thatgal, that you're needing companionship and not necessarily sex. Just remember that they are different needs, and don't feel guilty for getting one but not the other.

 

[Rubenesque]

In my wild youth I had a couple of one night stands and gotta say - RUBBISH!!

It wasn't that the guys weren't good, or hung enough, or anything like that. It was because, in my opinion, casual sex/one night stands are just mechanical sex - basically, an aided wank.

I like sex to be as much about the emotions and mental connection as the physical act.

If all I want is an orgasm - I'll get my rampant rabbit out - far more reliable than most men and I don't have to massage it's ego! lol

 

[davidjh7]

In my wild youth I had a couple of one night stands and gotta say - RUBBISH!!

It wasn't that the guys weren't good, or hung enough, or anything like that. It was because, in my opinion, casual sex/one night stands are just mechanical sex - basically, an aided wank.

I like sex to be as much about the emotions and mental connection as the physical act.

If all I want is an orgasm - I'll get my rampant rabbit out - far more reliable than most men and I don't have to massage it's ego! lol

I had a short discussion with my father about sex when I was a young teenager. I told him, and I was a virgin at the time, that sex without emotional involvement, was just glorified masturbation. He agreed with me, and later in life, I verified it for myself. To quote Robert Heinlein (THe book: Time Enough for Love, subsection, the notebooks of Lazarus Long):
"Sex should be fun---otherwise, stick to mechanical toys---it's more sanitary":biggrin1:

 

[evilbreeder]

sounds like you are a little curios about it but more that you don't want to engage this person for sex. There is some sort of safety behind IM or email, you don't have the intimate conversations, more words on a screen. Sounds like you are questioning your morals rather than the sex. Could you have a one night stand or casual sex with this person, or will you want more. If you have doubts I wouldn't go for it, you know yourself better than anyone else here.

For me, I can and have seperated sex and intimacy, my girlfriends when i have them get intimacy, my booty calls just get wild animal sex.