Catching your man watching porn?

[SSS79]

Hey nice ladies out there...

If u ever caught/discovered ur man (is) watching porn.... whether it actually happened before or just suppose it happens one day...what was/would ur reaction be more like:

1- Cheater! He is OUT! (it's almost like discovering he is cheating on me with another girl!)
2- Shocked...Why is he doing this?! is it bc i am not FULLY satisfying him / his needs / his desires?
3- Almost Neutral! It was expected anyways... all men watch porn... and it has nothing to do with our relationship!
4- Ohhh! He is an ADDICT! Poor Man!!! He Really needs help!
5- Good for Him! It will actually help him be more satisfied...less stressed... he can actually learn new tricks from porn that will benefit me in the end!!
6- WOW! Let me see what u r watching! I LOVE WATCHING PORN TOO!! Sharing is BETTER! Let's watch together and enjoy it!
7- Other Response...please mention!

and a bonus question: would it differ if u caught him masturbating while watching porn...or just watching?!

Thank you all in advance for sharing ur views on this! see you!

(I am new here...i searched a bit and couldn't find this topic discussed before...if it was...i apologize...and feel free if u wanna share ur views here again or not!)

 

[SSS79]

I would chose topic 6th: "WOW! Let me see what u r watching! I LOVE WATCHING PORN TOO!! Sharing is BETTER! Let's watch together and enjoy it! "
...as i do it myself and it seems for me natural!

However, a lot of girls would go with option 2 i believe: 2- Shocked...Why is he doing this?! is it bc i am not FULLY satisfying him / his needs / his desires?

You need simply to explain that for a lot of people it is something natural and nothing to do with cheating and/or insatisfaction (like to grab couple of beers doesnt mean that you are alcoholic, isn't it?)

if u think i should explain that to "a lot of people" ... doesn't that mean that "a lot of people" think it's not natural?!!!
and thanks for ur view anyways! but i bet not many girls would choose #6!!! let's wait and see!!

 

[286798]

My answer would probably not be 1, 2, or 4, but my answer would depend on our relationship.

With my last bf, it was #6... one time he opened his iPad and had porn on the screen... he immediately closed it and said "I don't know where that came from". I had previously told him that I enjoy watching it occasionally and we had shared what genres we each liked, so he shouldn't have felt like he needed to hide it. I asked him to show me what he was watching but he refused.

With my wasband, it was 3 or 5... or maybe 7- "good, I won't have to deal with his P.E. tonight".

 

[rtg]

It would probably be 6.

But if I had a partner and we saw each other often I'd wonder why he wouldn't just come to me for relief lol. I'd probably get a bit insecure and think that maybe he prefers what the women in porn look like. But that's just my insecurity and I'd hope that I wouldn't take it out on him. I'd rather just not know about it tbh. But watching it together would be fine.

 

[SSS79]

My answer would probably not be 1, 2, or 4, but my answer would depend on our relationship.

With my last bf, it was #6... one time he opened his iPad and had porn on the screen... he immediately closed it and said "I don't know where that came from". I had previously told him that I enjoy watching it occasionally and we had shared what genres we each liked, so he shouldn't have felt like he needed to hide it. I asked him to show me what he was watching but he refused.

With my wasband, it was 3 or 5... or maybe 7- "good, I won't have to deal with his P.E. tonight".

with ur last bf...did u ever actually watch any porn together?
and out of curiosity and more deep thoughts....why do u think he hid it and refused to show u? maybe he was watching something...EXTREME that he might felt u might get shocked?!! maybe he was ashamed of himself watching it??
I know...i would probably have done the same! but i am just wondering...why?!!

regarding #7: Actually ...sometimes, especially when it has been several days without sex with my wife...i would try to cum on porn few hours earlier to avoid PE and to last longer ... but unfortunately in one or two occasions...i lasted TOO long!!! it was frustrating and a bit confusing to my wife!! what's wrong with u tonight...last time u only lasted 4-5 minutes...and now...it has been almost an hour...and i'm getting tired!!!! hahaha.... so.... watch out! #7 can get very tricky!!

and thanks for sharing ur views!

 

[SSS79]

It would probably be 6.

But if I had a partner and we saw each other often I'd wonder why he wouldn't just come to me for relief lol. I'd probably get a bit insecure and think that maybe he prefers what the women in porn look like.

Well...isn't this very close to #2 "Shocked...Why is he doing this?! is it bc i am not FULLY satisfying him / his needs / his desires?" OR more like...feeling jealous from girls in porn?

But watching it together would be fine.

Would u really watch porn with ur man?? have u ever done it before?!

although i am thinking it might be really fun and exciting...but for me...i think it would be very hard for me to do it with my wife!! i mean... it would be very awkward / embarrassing... and as u mentioned.. i might feel guilty for letting her know that i enjoy watching porn that she might start feeling insecure...

and Thanks for sharing ur thoughts on this

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Not that it's a big deal, but this seems like it'd be better placed in Ask A Woman... anyway...

I've caught him.. my response would be option 6 on your list. He's caught me too. His reaction... again, option 6.

 

[MickeyLee]

depends on the porn he is watching
if it was something truly degrading to the woman i would be shocked
shocked because that would not be the boy i know

 

[Itsmeandyou]

Sound like we have some reasonable people with Option 6 !

 

[SSS79]

Not that it's a big deal, but this seems like it'd be better placed in Ask A Woman... anyway...

I've caught him.. my response would be option 6 on your list. He's caught me too. His reaction... again, option 6.

can i move the thread to another Forum?? i don't know how...

if u may allow me to ask u: when u watch together...who choose what to watch?!!
and i'm just curious...(if u feel it's appropriate to tell here it would be good...if not...i'll understand): what do u usually do while watching together...like just watch and enjoy....talk and discuss what u r watching...does it always end up with real sex or not necessarily?

and thanks for sharing!

 

[SSS79]

depends on the porn he is watching
if it was something truly degrading to the woman i would be shocked
shocked because that would not be the boy i know

what kind of porn do u consider "truly degrading to the woman"?

 

[Itsmeandyou]

Perhaps the porn will give a few pointers "How the fuck did he (or she) do that ?

 

[SSS79]

Sound like we have some reasonable people with Option 6 !

yes! a bit unexpected...that so far...#6 is the winning choice!

 

[Itsmeandyou]

Think if it this way.....some of those things that are being watched might be something that this couple is already doing. Some things that either of that might be fantasizing of doing.

 

[Itsmeandyou]

Some might be BEGGING the other to be doing.

 

[SSS79]

Some might be BEGGING the other to be doing.

and that MIGHT cause some trouble!!

 

[Itsmeandyou]

MIGHT be really good...... might bring their relationship to a breaking point. "Fuck You asshole, you aren't doing that to me."

 

[deleted817718]

My wife would watch it with me, depending on what it is. She gets fussy about what porn I watch.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

can i move the thread to another Forum?? i don't know how...!

I think you can ask the Moderators to move it... but like I said, no biggie. Just helping out a new member with navigation. Women's issues is more for discussions about things that mainly/only pertain to women. Ask A Woman is for questions directed specifically at females.

One partner catching the other watching porn isn't a female specific issue.

I hope that helps you out a bit.

As far as what we watch together, there's a good variety. Gotta keep it spicy. 2 ladies together, 2 ladies and a fella, straight sex, anal.. yeah. We like to watch some stuffs.

 

[693987]

I wouldn't care. The only thing I might note is if it's something very out of the ordinary from stuff we do or have talked about. Neither of us are that big on porn, other than sometimes watching blooper type stuff or fails because they're funny.