caught my friend's son spying on me

[jerkdude75]

Right. You're not going to look at OP's pics. That's precisely why you're on LPSG to not look at dick pics. Oh the "straights." Some of them are too funny.

If they have the same equipment there is no reason he needs to spy on someone elses. There is the internet and books for that if he really just wants to look.

Everyone here always associates not wanting others to see you naked with being ashamed. I think it is absurd to think that is always the case. I can see how it could easily be just associating being nude with sex. I don't want some big hairy guy staring at me in the nude in person. But on the other hand if it was some super model I would most likely not cover up and stand there in my nude glory. I'm going to stop and make a very important point here too. He said staring. It isn't just some casual nude situation, so you don't have to treat it like one. Covering up your body is one way of saying "Hey, I'm not interested in you, so stop staring at my junk like you want it."

I skimmed this thread only a bit, but I like giozam's advice. Be clear and stern and set your boundaries, let him know it isn't okay with you. If that fails employ the dragon kick.

Also I find it strange that you take showers often at their house.

I agree with SP with gusto on the fact that having your pictures on a site pretty much dedicated to your junk doesn't some how invalidate wanting privacy. Looking at a picture and being there in person is way different. You don't see who is looking at the picture, or what they are doing. You can't hear them talk. And of course the fact that seeing something in person is completely different than seeing something in a picture. Now I haven't looked at the OPs gallery, and don't plan on doing so, but if he doesn't have pictures of his face, that just adds another layer of it being different, since it is much more anonymous. Not to mention that he knows the person very well, at least more than anyone who looks at his pictures most likely.

Again, dragon kick as a last resort.

 

[Voglener]

You can still hang around there but just make sure you don't create opportunities for him to spy on you in the house. Shower somewhere else if their bathroom doors won't lock. If you have to shower there and he can walk in on you, just ask in a nonchalant way if anyone will need anything in the bathroom before you go in. That will put everybody on notice that you're in there and want privacy. You then won't have to say anything to the father or to him because it will no longer be an issue. But, if he comes in on you after that kindly warning then you should definitely speak to him. A firm and frank warning can set him back on track and keep him from continuing down a path that may lead to more serious sexual offenses.

True, he's an adult but he's also your friends' child, living under his roof. Respect that. Once he's out on his own he may admit to you that he's seen your junk on the net or something and you both may be in a place to do something about that interest. Until then, just be sure you don't create situations for the kid to spy on you.

Remember: "where there's no "wood", the fire goes out!"

 

[JacobFox]

It seems to me that you want some sort of permission from us to do...something with this kid.

You shouldn't. OK?

That was sort of the impression I got and I 100% agree.

 

[Scroggyou]

I would have smacked him accross the face with my dick

 

[Lex]

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Keyhole? Really?? Is this some 1800's vintage building that has skeleton keys that you can look through the keyhole?

BDD--this was my first thought as well. I lived in older houses with keyholes. Not that easy to spy through and, more to the point, how do you catch him looking unless you are looking back through the keyhole? Were you showering at the time or standing near the door? How did you know he was looking?

... Surely you can outsmart a 19 year old. It's not that hard to do.*

It does not sound to me like the OP wants to outsmart him.

If the door doesn't lock, next time he comes in tell him you're using the room and unless he's bleeding he'll just have to wait until you're done.

I usually presume when a bathroom door is closed and water is running that someone is using said room. I further presume (unless it is my hubby in the shower), that I will need to wait to get whatever I have left in said room. I am positive that even most 19 year olds get these ideas. Bathroom etiquette is learned fairly young (by age 7)

It is just curiosity. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable talking to his father, and just wants some questions answered. ...

And maybe, this didn't happen at all.

Just sayin'

 

[True_Blue]

He's 19 not a child so don't talk to his father but what the fuck is wrong with you people, posting naked photos on the net does not mean he wants to show everyone in his real life his junk. Tell the creepy little Norman Bates wannabe that if you catch him spying on you again there'll be a reckoning.

Totallty agree. I know damn well that if I ever went into the bathroom while one of my mom's or stepdad's friends were showering all hell would indeed break loose! To hell with that curiosity crap, he is a grown ass man and I'm sure he knows that kind of behavior is completely unacceptable.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

Totallty agree. I know damn well that if I ever went into the bathroom while one of my mom's or stepdad's friends were showering all hell would indeed break loose! To hell with that curiosity crap, he is a grown ass man and I'm sure he knows that kind of behavior is completely unacceptable.

Can you give us some examples of why adult friends would be showering at your house? It might help us understand this situation. Several people have questioned why he would be showering there (unless he is an overnight guest because he lives a distance away).

 

[True_Blue]

Can you give us some examples of why adult friends would be showering at your house?

For example, last march my stepdad's good friend was with us for about a week because his wife put him out. Unfortunately, he got the room upstairs next to mine.

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

Totallty agree. I know damn well that if I ever went into the bathroom while one of my mom's or stepdad's friends were showering all hell would indeed break loose! To hell with that curiosity crap, he is a grown ass man and I'm sure he knows that kind of behavior is completely unacceptable.

I sort of agree, I don't think he needs to be an arsehole about it though. This young man will obviously know that he's doing something wrong, unless he's developmentally challenged or something, so it wouldn't take much to politely indicate that it's not acceptable if it genuinely isn't.

 

[D_Yowton Y Yingyang]

Lock the door and stuff kleenex in the keyhole

 

[Lex]

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Forgive me, but assuming the above, a normal persons reaction would be to ask wtf they thought they were doing. Funny how that never happens in these stories...

It's called porn, babe. MUWHAA!

 

[hung]

Interesting topic.

I think I would shower somewhere else.

If I was of great distance away I would plan my visits for a shorter period of time so that I would never shower there.

 

[Pendlum]

Right. You're not going to look at OP's pics. That's precisely why you're on LPSG to not look at dick pics. Oh the "straights." Some of them are too funny.

I could see how someone would criticize me for saying "and I don't plan on looking" as me reaffirming my straightness, though that isn't how I intended it to come off. And that would be fine, it does seem like that. But don't tell me what I'm here for. I'm here to read posts that interest me, post in some in said posts, maybe once in a blue moon ask a question, and finally to show of MY cock. I happen to think I have a nice one, and this is a way for me to be vain about it, to enjoy getting complimented about it. So what if I am not interested in other guys dicks? The world isn't going to crumble. So boo hoo I'm selfish.

 

[D_Dick_Dock_Doe]

I could see how someone would criticize me for saying "and I don't plan on looking" as me reaffirming my straightness, though that isn't how I intended it to come off. And that would be fine, it does seem like that. But don't tell me what I'm here for. I'm here to read posts that interest me, post in some in said posts, maybe once in a blue moon ask a question, and finally to show of MY cock. I happen to think I have a nice one, and this is a way for me to be vain about it, to enjoy getting complimented about it. So what if I am not interested in other guys dicks? The world isn't going to crumble. So boo hoo I'm selfish.

Dude - right on. I like your response.

 

[Stephenmass]

Block the keyhole, lock the door. Problem solved.

 

[D_Sir Fitzwilly Wankheimer III]

Sorry but what the fuck is normal ? Are you presuming to decide what this young man should and should not find arousing and how he should go about exploring this arousal ?

I don't think voyeurisim is normal behavior.

 

[D_Dick_Dock_Doe]

I don't think voyeurisim is normal behavior.

It may not be normal to you, but it is quite "vanilla" when compared to other proclivities or fetishes. Looking at people's photos online and watching a web cam both have voyeuristic characteristics. While it may not be your cup of tea, I would be careful not to be so quick to judge. After all, you may be into stuff that I may not necessarily get into, but I wouldn't be so quick to judge your behavior as abnormal.

 

[D_Sir Fitzwilly Wankheimer III]

It may not be normal to you, but it is quite "vanilla" when compared to other proclivities or fetishes. Looking at people's photos online and watching a web cam both have voyeuristic characteristics. While it may not be your cup of tea, I would be careful not to be so quick to judge. After all, you may be into stuff that I may not necessarily get into, but I wouldn't be so quick to judge your behavior as abnormal.

Maybe I should have said inappropriate behavior. I don't care what you are into as long as there's no harm to anyone unwilling to participate. the bottom line is that's he's invading someone else's privacy and rightfully so it bothers giozam. I guess I'm a prude.

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

I don't think voyeurisim is normal behavior.

I didn't ask what you thougt was abnormal, I asked you what the fuck is normal. It's an important distinction, unless you can clearly define what is normal how can you make generalisations about what is abnormal.

So you think voyeurism is abnormal in comparison to what ?

 

[D_Dick_Dock_Doe]

Maybe I should have said inappropriate behavior. I don't care what you are into as long as there's no harm to anyone unwilling to participate. the bottom line is that's he's invading someone else's privacy and rightfully so it bothers giozam. I guess I'm a prude.

I think that's a much better way to put it, Big_E. In this case, yes, the son's voyeurism is inappropriate. As far as whether this behavior is inappropriate all the time, I would have to argue against that, since there are many people who like to "watch," and do so consensually. I wouldn't say that is abnormal behavior, even if I'm not necessarily into it.