Causing pain from going too deep

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  1. Fencepost

    Fencepost Active Member

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    Ladies, I have a very serious question, and I need help. I met a wonderful, sweet, smart, beautiful girl. We hit it off well and we had sex. She is a very small woman- 5'1" and 101#- and she has a small vagina. I am big, but not a massive giant. I am 8" long and 5.75" in circumference. She loved it like crazy and she came at least four times. But the next day she complained of pain deep inside. She started her period soon after, so we assumed it was related to this. But she still ached several days later and went to the doctor. He said that I injured her uterus and its supporting ligaments by my going too deeply. During our sex her lubrication was not a problem- she was wet as a faucet. But I did drive in very hard and very deep repeatedly. During the act she was digging her fingernails into my back, moaning and crying, and there were NO complaints! She lives in another city and we are writing and calling regularly. I'm going to see again soon, and she is very eager to try again. She says everything is O.K., but I am worried. It would break my heart to injure her again. I have determined that I won't go all the way in again, but I also know that when we are both going bonkers from pleasure, caution sometimes goes out the window. Here is my question: Is there a real risk of serious injury? Can she adapt? How does this happen? Will her uterus recede a bit to allow room for my penis? I really, REALLY like this girl! She is incredibly sweet and loving, with a cute personality. But if I hurt her when we make love, then this relationship will have to stay at the friends level, and nothing more serious. This would be a tragedy. Please help. Thanks!
     
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    push till it comes up her throat ;)

    no but srsly, just ask how shes feeling as you go along
     
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    I have almost the same problem with my wife when I am on top. I am 8" by 5.5" so I am about your size.
    One time in our younger days, I was eager to ram it in and I hit something inside her, and she said "auuo". I got soft in no time and we had to wait until next day to continue.
    Now a days, I am careful not to go in to deep. I can of course ram in but not all the way, has to leave about 2" outside. When I want to put it all in, I am very careful to stretch her out and then enjoy having it all in, but no ramming.
    The problem seems to be that the penis hits the part of uterus thats goes inside the vagina.
    When my wife is on top, it doesn`t happen, proberly because the angle is different or perhaps because she is warmed up.
     
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    I've had this happen before too :(

    Woman on top is a good way to avoid it since she's more in control of depth.

    If you're on top, be careful of positions that really open her up combined with hard thrusting. One thing that might still be ok is to thrust in all the way slowly and then rock your hips instead of going in and out...there's a spot there that she may find quite pleasurable.
     
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    A wise man once said:

    "if the river runs red take the chocolate highway"
     
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    I am about the same in length only bigger around 7 inches and my girl friend complanes that I'm going to deep and she has some pain and bleeding for a day or so. I'm very gentile with her and go slow untill she gets used to my size I think some girls never get very large even tho she is not a small person its always a challenge to get in at first.
     
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    just try and take it steady and maybe do different positions or just do anal as there wont be any real problem there, hopefully
     
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    I've had the same problem with my wife, who is a petite 5'4". She says it feels like I'm poking her ovaries. I regularly have her take the top position or doggie style so she can control the penetration. I know it can be difficult but if she leans forward, try not to ram her into the ceiling or the sheets.
     
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    Wheres the fun in that? :biggrin1:
     
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    It can be painful. But it is a nice kind of painful :tongue:
     
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    At the time, maybe. Afterwards she describes it as severe period pain and is not too pleasant to be around.:frown1:
     
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    I agree, not much fun. Maybe I should add some spacers to the base of my dick? Hummmm....
     
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    i ve seen women fuck horses before in porn films lol .no man is big compared to that .these same women proberly would complain with a 4 inch cock
     
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    yeah but several of those women have died cos they fucked the horses and got interal bleeding or something to that effect
     
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    With being on the large side and thrusting deep it is possible to knock one or her ovaries so I have read, which is likened to you getting a knock to your balls. I think that this is what I think Lok855 was refering to when he said "One time in our younger days, I was eager to ram it in and I hit something inside her, and she said "auuo". I got soft in no time and we had to wait until next day to continue."

    And guys we sure know how that feels,
     
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    An 8" or longer cock can be a problem if the woman has, and not even knowing it, a shortish vaginal canal, dipped uterus. If her vagina is narrow, a very thick cock, over 5" girth, could present problems. If she hurts later, then some muscles could have been stretched. Just go in slowly, don't thrust very hard, and if she starts to hurt, withdraw. Usually, her cunt will stretch enough to accomodate you, and she'll love it. In the meantime, if she's inclined, have her blow you a lot.
     
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    Fencepost, I had the same problem with my wife. I would almost bet you have an upward curve in your cock like I do. That means that your cock is prone to raise up towards her belly button therefore hitting the top side of her uterus and forcing it deeper into her pussy (like bending a finger backwards). I use to beat my wife's uterus to death so to speak until I learned that I could go past it.

    You have to go in slowly and feel with the head of you cock, when you feel her uterus raise your pelvis away from her pelvis, you will feel the top of your cock against her pelvis (picture a seesaw) that will tip the head of your cock towards her asshole, and around her uterus. You will then hit the spot called the "a" spot and give her what is called a deep orgasm.

    hope this helps
     
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    Folks, I appreciate the comments! We will try different positions and I will do my best to not lose control. It should be REALLY fun with her on top! She is slim and has, I'm guessing, a 32D bust. WHOO-HOO!!
     
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    She can also angle her hips and find a way that doesn't hurt as much. I angle mine "up" (if I'm laying down) instead of arching my back and it helps. I lose all sense of pain in the heat of the moment too so I just have to pay extra attention to what's going on down there and make sure I get a day here or there to recover!
     
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    Stop stabbing her cervix. Is it really that hard? Stimulate her more, change angle or just give up, whichever you want.
     
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