Cfnm / sph exist for real or is it just porn fantasy?

[love2compare]

In porn one can see men exposed and humilated for being nude and vulnerable compared to cmothed women - or just for having a "small dick" and laughed at by one or several females.

Is this just one of the male porn fantasies or does any female on here have real interest or experience in doing that for her real pleasure? Or for the fun of it as playing along and do it for a sexual male partner as part of their normal sex life?

 

[sweetlucky12]

I think "sph" is truly just a male fantasy. It doesn't really interest me at all and I don't like the idea of making fun of something a person can't control, but I know some sweet smaller guys here who love it so it is kind of fun in a teasing way to engage since it's their thing.

I've always been a fan of cfnm though!

 

[EllieP]

I have no interest in humiliating anyone - even people I don't care for. I am not into demeaning or inflicting pain. Just not my thing.

Had to look up CFNM. Interesting. Still not my thing unless it's my man. Then it's fun, but if doesn't stay CF for long.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I fantasize about degrading people who deserve it. Some of my fantasies are completely uncool, and are things I'm aware I should never seek to act out. So I don't. None of it has to do with penis size, or is in any way gender specific.

I want to hurt people who have hurt others, and I'd get off while I did it. But, that shit's fucked up, so I won't ever be having anything other than mental images to work with. I won't even seek out that kind of porn, even though it exists.

 

[love2compare]

I think "sph" is truly just a male fantasy. It doesn't really interest me at all and I don't like the idea of making fun of something a person can't control, but I know some sweet smaller guys here who love it so it is kind of fun in a teasing way to engage since it's their thing.

I've always been a fan of cfnm though!

Can you please elaborate more on your cfnm interests, any real things or only porn you've seen? Like what do you do and how does it make you feel?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Can you please elaborate more on your cfnm interests, any real things or only porn you've seen? Like what do you do and how does it make you feel?

Fishin' for Fodder?

 

[693987]

I know of women who enjoy sph. I also know women who enjoy cfnm. The latter I mostly know of in the context of "high protocol" dinner events, where all of the submissives are nude, though. Both cfnm and sph seem to be embraced more often by men than women, though.

 

[nailz]

Teasing and dirty talk including insults and humiliation has it's place but I could never enjoy seriously humiliating anyone, especially about something they have no control over.

 

[CarlaM]

My husband is into sph. I'm not altogether comfortable with it, but I have come to figure out some ways of teasing and joking that he enjoys but I do not think are over the line or too mean.

 

[love2compare]

Interesting stuff! I once participated in a doodle to find a potential date with 5 clothed women and 5 men.

Program: The 5 guys would have to align by body size in front of the women (who are clothed and drink champagne), get nude and masturbate one by one.

The men would not be allowed to speak at all unless asked by one of the ladies. They would rate the men in different disciplines such as dick size, erection hardness, jerk off technique, cum shot volume, ejaculation power, strip performance and overall body. Each guy would have to cum for the ladies twice that night.

Unfortunately, the event never took place as they couldn't find enough women to participate but i thought the plan sounded really very arousing! i loved the cfnm aspect (vulnerability, exposure) but also the competitive elements compared to other taller and more hung men.

 

[nailz]

Unfortunately, the event never took place as they couldn't find enough women to participate

I certainly wouldn't.
Only men are obsessed with the comparing/competing thing (especially on such insignificant things such as cum volume), and I have no interest in watching some random guy masturbating.

 

[693987]

I would be entertained and have fun at a high protocol dinner with the submissives nude and serving myself and other Dominant women. That being said, I have less than zero interest in watching a handful of men jacking themselves off, under the pretense of it being for my amusement/entertainment. That all sounds self-serving and catering predominantly to the men, which is not the point.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I would be entertained and have fun at a high protocol dinner with the submissives nude and serving myself and other Dominant women. That being said, I have less than zero interest in watching a handful of men jacking themselves off, under the pretense of it being for my amusement/entertainment. That all sounds self-serving and catering predominantly to the men, which is not the point.

Exactly. This jerk off contest plays into do-me submissives. Who are dull in any gender. Pillow princes and pillow princesses are the same vein.

 

[love2compare]

So pleade telle me, the men are the super nice looking models and hired or who would that be?

And that is all? No further activities?

I know of women who enjoy sph. I also know women who enjoy cfnm. The latter I mostly know of in the context of "high protocol" dinner events, where all of the submissives are nude, though. Both cfnm and sph seem to be embraced more often by men than women, though.

 

[693987]

So pleade telle me, the men are the super nice looking models and hired or who would that be?

And that is all? No further activities?

The events I personally know of, where a chef friend of mine was doing the cooking, the submissives who served all volunteered. It was submissive individuals who derive pleasure from serving and a bit of humiliation. Not "I'm going to jack off for my own pleasure because I'm an exhibitionist, and this is about me and my nudity and my dick". There may be other things that happen, but the parties were not for the submissive individuals orgasms.

 

[693987]

The last BDSM event I went to was for rope bondage. Some individuals were nude, some were not. One of the most memorable ties was a suspension from the ceiling where a man was nude and tied in such a way that his hands had a little freedom of movement. He offered tea service to others while tied up and suspended completely in the air. The enjoyment was had from the Dominant enjoying tying someone up, the submissive enjoying being tied up, and from serving.

BDSM doesn't HAVE to include orgasm. And topping from the bottom is not my personal cup of tea. Some are fine with it, of course. Some people enjoy "bratty" bottoms, too. I prefer to be served by someone who does so because they love to submit, they love the pain I enjoy inflicting, and so on. I make sure their needs are taken care of too, and it's a mutually beneficial relationship, but it isn't all about their orgasm, that's for damn sure.

 

[950483]

Cfnm, sph, and the vast majority of all porn is made by men for men.
I'm sure there are women who are interested in this stuff, but not as many women as men I would guess.

 

[nikkisussex]

Women do talk about this stuff but I think most would be unlikely to understand SPH as we are all so worried about our own bumps, flabby bits and saggy things. If we were to be humiliated for tiny boobs or ugly lady bits it would be too strange. Am I making sense?

Nix

 

[Scarletbegonia]

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Agree with you there. I don't think I mentioned sph in my original post. Just cfnm. I am definitely NOT into poking fun or humiliation. Just serving at an event for ladies.

Then why is it in the thread title?

 

[AlteredEgo]

Interesting stuff! I once participated in a doodle to find a potential date with 5 clothed women and 5 men.

Program: The 5 guys would have to align by body size in front of the women (who are clothed and drink champagne), get nude and masturbate one by one.

The men would not be allowed to speak at all unless asked by one of the ladies. They would rate the men in different disciplines such as dick size, erection hardness, jerk off technique, cum shot volume, ejaculation power, strip performance and overall body. Each guy would have to cum for the ladies twice that night.

Unfortunately, the event never took place as they couldn't find enough women to participate but i thought the plan sounded really very arousing! i loved the cfnm aspect (vulnerability, exposure) but also the competitive elements compared to other taller and more hung men.

I like CFNM, but that scenario sounds dull to me. I'd be much happier with one naked man to myself, and would be really excited by games of tease and denial. For me, it would be about control, and perhaps voyeurism, not humiliation.