1. D_Petherick_Poundlouder

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    What is this thing called...charming?

    I dont get it. Maybe I have it...? :)
     
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  2. WideAndDeep

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    That's a pretty good example actually...

    It has to do with the ability to make people you interact with feel good/special/attractive, effortlessly. And it feels genuine. Generally speaking, people who are considered "charming" are also attractive, friendly, witty, and at least slightly extroverted. It is a subtle and difficult quality to define.

    Charming people make and hold eye contact, have a sparkle in their eye, smile at you, use body language that is open, and speak in a way that makes you feel they are confiding in you or letting you in on a joke. They disarm you and draw you in.

    Charm is probably the result of a combination of self-confidence, a sense of humor, and genuinely liking people. So I'd say that friendly, outgoing, mildly flirtatious people would generally be considered charming.
     
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    well then charming be I! lol
     
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    If nobody has ever told you that you are charming, then you probably aren't. :redface: For some reason that seems to be a compliment which women give to men rather than vice versa.:confused:

    As I suspected, to be charming is a derivative of the word charisma.
    The word charisma (Greek "kharisma," meaning "gift," "of/from/favored_by God/the_divine") refers to a trait found in persons whose personalities are characterized by a personal charm and magnetism (attractiveness), along with innate and powerfully sophisticated abilities of interpersonal communication and persuasion. One who is charismatic is said to be capable of using their personal being, rather than just speech or logic alone, to interface with other human beings in a personal and direct manner, and effectively communicate an argument or concept to them.
     
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    Terry thomas
     
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    um, that would be a 'no'
     
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    Charm is a funny thing, it's sort of like taste and style.... either you have it or you don't (Because it's one of the three things that you can't buy sell or send away for) If you really know how to flirt (with out any payoff) you are probably charming.
     
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    Haha.
    I was thinking about the same thing... Love.
     
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    Well I've been told I was charming a lot of times, but it doesn't mean I get what they are saying. Its not as obvious to me as the color blue or smell of a skunk
     
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    A quick review of your gallery and I would say that what you have is charming. You probably charm the jeans/pants off of any body who wants you.
     
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    charming = politicians... :nana:
     
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    Money mostly. Wear a suit more expensive than your car. Act like a flamboyant gay man.
    That should cover it.
     
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    Nah. Wealth does not equal charm--particularly not gratuitous displays of wealth. That's just flashy/tacky. And being flamboyant is not synonymous with charm either. The picture you just painted is of an annoying, obnoxious person; not a charming one.
     
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    This Hutt has been around for a while now and I would say the most charming thing in a person is having true interest in and love for the one they are with at that moment. People who give off impression of hidden fears, dislike, or boredom when with you are not charming. What you charm with is your interest and your interestingness. Fashion models are often not charming because you can tell they are only doing their pose as a job. They are not doing it because they like to do it, only the money it will bring.

    You are charming when you enjoy yourself.
     
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    James Bond wants his money back. :biggrin1:
     
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    It's a brand of toilet tissue, I believe.
     
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    OT: Calboner, you have lovely thumbs.
     
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    Why, thank you. I maintain them with fine toilet paper.
     
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