Hey guys, need your thoughts here...
Do you consider chatting with others privately online (swapping pics and sexual turn-ons) cheating? If you have something that turns you on and you go outside of a relationship to chat with others, is it a breach of trust with that partner?
I have a feeling my partner is chatting with unknown people and it's really tearing me up inside.
"It's cheating if you feel like you have to hide it."
If you aren't comfortable with it, then that's okay. A lot of people aren't.
Different people have different rules about this. It just depends. I've talked to people who think cybersex is cheating, and other people don't at all. You just need to talk to your partner about it.
With us, we have different rules for different things, and my rules for him are more restrictive than his are for me. TheBF is actually much more open-minded about sexual stuff involving others than I am, and he doesn't mind that we have different rules for each other about things like that. His rules are so open, that I'd never take completely take advantage of them, since I'm more prudish than he is. For some reason, he likes the fact that I'm more jealous and possessive of him than he is of me, because it makes him feel desired, and I like the fact that he's so trusting of me, because I love the fact that he believes that I'm worthy of his trust and that he shows me that he knows that he's secure with me. It's unequal, and we both know that, and if that inequality bothered either of us, then we would abide by whatever new boundaries we both felt comfortable with, if either of us wanted to change them. The point is that we both know how each other feels about stuff like nudity and talking about sex online and interacting with strangers or people that we've become friends with, and we respect those boundaries.
