CHEATED (Have you? Do you still?)

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by muppello, Oct 25, 2009.

  1. muppello

    muppello New Member

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    I know this may not be a popular topic - but eh - it's worth a shot.

    Are you in a relationship but feel perfectly fine having a little fling on the side - every once in awhile? Do you not see the harm in a quick BJ or more when you boyfriend's looking the other way?

    Firstly, if you are not someone who feels they way I've described above - no need to respond. A majority of people take the opposite stance and that's perfectly fine with me. I'm looking for people with high sex drives and a different moral view point, that there's nothing wrong with a secret and planting your seed in someone other than your mate.

    Again, this thread is a positive space for people with this fetish/philosophy.

    I thought it would be fun to share and go around with a 20 Q's.

    1. What was the first time you cheated like? What were the circumstances? What happened? How did you feel afterwords?
    2. What would you consider your best fling? What happened? What made it the 'best'?
    3. Have you ever been caught? Close to caught? If so, what were the circumstances?
    4. Have you cheated in every relationship or only selectively? Why?
    5. Why do you cheat?
    6. How do you feel about your encounters on the side?
    7. Do you think these encounters affect your relationship negatively?
    8. Do you/ Have you ever told your partner about your secret? How did that go?
    9. How do generally go about seeking out a fling? What type of encounters do you look for?
    10. What steps do you take to ensure your partner doesn't find out?
    11. How often would you say you cheat?
    12. Are there certain acts of sex that you limit yourself to with an encounter?
    13. How is the sex on the side compared to the sex in your relationship?
    14. How would you feel if you found out that your partner was also having fun on the side?
    15. Are your encounters generally one-offs or long-lasting affairs?
    16. Describe the last encounter you experienced. How did it come about? How recent was it?
    17. Do you get tested for STI's? Does your partner?
    18. Have you ever cheated on your partner with someone of a different gender? If so, what were the circumstances? Would you do it again?
    19. What would you consider to be your favourite sex act in a casual encounter? Why?
    20. Provide anything else you would like to say, below:
     
  2. D_Roderick Beresford Stiffington IV

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    1. What was the first time you cheated like? What were the circumstances? What happened? How did you feel afterwords?

    Basically the reason I cheated on my ex was because I didn't like how our relationship was going and how he treated me. He was a very serious and conservative person, but despite that I cared about him. I wanted to break up with him but I had never broken up with someone before and took the pussy way out, instead of doing what I should have and break up with him, I just started seeing someone on the side. I didn't cheat because of sex, I wanted to be with someone who made me feel good about myself. I didn't feel bad about it until I got caught.

    2. What would you consider your best fling? What happened? What made it the 'best'?

    Well even though I was cheating, I didn't sleep around. I was seeing one person steadily on the side and we just had a nice chemistry.

    3. Have you ever been caught? Close to caught? If so, what were the circumstances?

    My bf at the time ended up answering my phone when the side guy called, there was some yelling, crying, etc.

    4. Have you cheated in every relationship or only selectively? Why?

    I only cheated in that one, and I don't think I'd ever do it again. I learned its just easier to be a man and break up if you're not happy in the current relationship, and since that was the reason I cheated I don't think I'd do it again.

    5. Why do you cheat?

    Explained already =p

    6. How do you feel about your encounters on the side?

    They made me feel happier about myself, but not for the bf I was seeing at the time. I always had a feeling of guilt about me.

    7. Do you think these encounters affect your relationship negatively?

    To be honest if I never got caught then no, I didn't stop caring about my bf any less. If there was such a thing as gay polygamy where I could date and love 2 people at the same time I'd be for that, but people this day and age get too jealous easily and would never go for that.

    8. Do you/ Have you ever told your partner about your secret? How did that go?

    They found out on their own, not good. Though we dated for another 6 months after and the reason we broke up had nothing to do with my cheating, so we survived through it.

    9. How do generally go about seeking out a fling? What type of encounters do you look for?

    I went online to look for people, I'm very picky about who I meet and end up talking to them online for weeks before I ever even meet them. I want to make sure were compatible in every way to avoid problems.

    10. What steps do you take to ensure your partner doesn't find out?

    Keeping my phone away from him, creating a web of lies so I have an excuse why I can't talk or hang out at certain times, etc.

    11. How often would you say you cheat?

    When I was doing it, about 3 times a week. I would see the guy on the side the days I didn't see my bf.

    12. Are there certain acts of sex that you limit yourself to with an encounter?

    At the time I wasn't into anal at all, so it was mostly just kissing/oral.

    13. How is the sex on the side compared to the sex in your relationship?

    They each had their own little traits and characteristics about them that made them fun to be with.

    14. How would you feel if you found out that your partner was also having fun on the side?

    Eh, that's complicated. I'm weird and have cuckholding fetishes so I'd be jealous and turned on by it at the same time.

    15. Are your encounters generally one-offs or long-lasting affairs?

    Long lasting.

    16. Describe the last encounter you experienced. How did it come about? How recent was it?

    It was awhile ago now, I hardly remember what the "last" one was. Maybe like a year ago.

    17. Do you get tested for STI's? Does your partner?

    I did more often than him.

    18. Have you ever cheated on your partner with someone of a different gender? If so, what were the circumstances? Would you do it again?

    Nope.

    19. What would you consider to be your favourite sex act in a casual encounter? Why?

    Oral sex in public, the guy on the side and I used to do that a lot...like in parks, movie theaters, bathrooms, changing rooms etc.

    20. Provide anything else you would like to say, below:

    I've already done too much typing =p
     
  3. muppello

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    1. What was the first time you cheated like? What were the circumstances? What happened? How did you feel afterwords?

    The first time that anything happened was about five years ago. My BF and I had been apart for about five weeks because of business and I was horny as hell and aching to wrap my jaws around a cock. It was purely sexual. All I wanted was to suck a dick. I didn't want friendship or foreplay, just a hard cock throbbing on my tongue. So I got online and found out about a video store downtown with gloryholes. I'd never been to one before but have read about them and seen scenes with gloryholes in porn. I was nervous as hell about bumping into someone I knew, but taking a huge breath, I went inside. I bought my tokens and made my way into a booth. I ended up sucking off three cocks that night and didn't feel any guilt at all. I only live once and wanted to indulge in some animal sluttiness.

    2. What would you consider your best fling? What happened? What made it the 'best'?

    My BF is really tame in bed. We cuddle and everything but he's not up to some of the more exciting experiences that get me oozing pre-cum just thinking about. So, the other night, he had to go over to dinner with his parents and I was feeling particularly horny so I said I wanted to stay home. More than particularly horny, I was fucking horny and when I'm fucking horny I get really peverted and my fetish side was starting to show. I really get off on watersports. Not like wetting my jeans or stuff like that but drinking piss from someone stiff prick. So I put an ad on craigslist asking if anybody wanted to drive by in their car (I would never ever invite a 'fling' into my home that I share with my BF). I outlined what I wanted to do. Within an hour I got about twelve responses. After screening the potential guys (via e-mail only as I never get out my cell number) I settled on this guy with a great cock photo who said he had just finished at the office and who was on his way home from work. I was practically cumming from the anticipation. We set a time and I told him where to park (halfway down the block, it's dark and suburbia so quiet). A car fitting his description showed up and I got in the passenger seat. He was fucking hot and still wearing his suit.// The ad I had posted said: I can't host so I'm looking for someone whose up to drive by and let me get in the passenger seat. You unzip your semi-hard cock and pop it through the fly in your pants. I lean over and wrap my lips around your dick and you let go all the piss you've been holding back. I gulp down your hot piss, and you get hard. Then I deepthroat your cock till you blow your load. I get out you drive off. // That's what the ad said, and that's exactly what happened.

    3. Have you ever been caught? Close to caught? If so, what were the circumstances?

    I have never been caught. I take extra effort to ensure that I - and the person who I'm messing around with - are the only people who know what's going on. I keep it very anonymous and discrete.

    4. Have you cheated in every relationship or only selectively? Why?

    I've basically always cheated. It's natural. I'm someone whose very in touch with my sexual side, and having my little adventures here and there that only I know about are almost a fetish unto themselves.

    5. Why do you cheat?

    Cuz I'm fucking horny and my BF is unavailable or not into what I have in mind. It's animalistic, purely - and it doesn't happen all the time, or even that frequently. A secondary factor is the fact that I am very turned on by big dicks, which my BF doesn't have. When we have sex, it's still great - but sometimes I just want a big, hard cock getting rammed up my ass and stretching my hole

    6. How do you feel about your encounters on the side?

    I feel they're awesome and allow me to live out a side of myself that I'd rather keep seperate. I feel liberated and raw.

    7. Do you think these encounters affect your relationship negatively?

    In no way, shape, or form. Words are barely uttered so there's no detracting my emotional commitment. It really is all about the sex.

    8. Do you/ Have you ever told your partner about your secret? How did that go?

    I've always made it clear to my BF (though I've never spelled it out) that we are men and opportunities arise. I also explained that I didn't want the jealousy that goes hand in hand with an open relationship. I said if either of us did anything - that it better be with nobody we know normally and wouldn't see again - and that I wouldn't want to hear about it. It's not the same as permission though.

    9. How do generally go about seeking out a fling? What type of encounters do you look for?

    Every encounter is different and since I usually have very specific requirements in mind, I usually place an ad.

    10. What steps do you take to ensure your partner doesn't find out?

    No face pics. Discretion and anonymity with the hook-up. No cellphone usage. Seperate e-mail account.

    11. How often would you say you cheat?

    Maybe twice a year.

    12. Are there certain acts of sex that you limit yourself to with an encounter?

    If I'm hooking up, it's not for the foreplay. I'm probably already rock hard when you show up so let's just get me on my knees so I can worship that cock of yours. Kissing is not something I'm usually up for and a lot of times I'm not in it for any reciprocation either.

    13. How is the sex on the side compared to the sex in your relationship?

    Both can be hit & miss. Sometimes I have incredible sex with my partner and sometimes I have an incredible hook-up, sometimes both suck. Oh well.

    14. How would you feel if you found out that your partner was also having fun on the side?

    So long as it wasn't substituting something I could provide or was repeated visits with the same person I'd be okay. Oh, and as long as he practices safe anal sex.

    15. Are your encounters generally one-offs or long-lasting affairs?

    One-offs only!
    16. Describe the last encounter you experienced. How did it come about? How recent was it?

    About three months ago - it was the car story from above!

    17. Do you get tested for STI's? Does your partner?

    We each get tested several times a year, just to be safe!

    18. Have you ever cheated on your partner with someone of a different gender? If so, what were the circumstances? Would you do it again?
    Nope! I have no interest in the ladies!

    19. What would you consider to be your favourite sex act in a casual encounter? Why?

    I'm very orally fixated and love pleasing a guy with a nice dick. The pleasure I get from seeing his toe curls and his shaft spasm as he shoots a load is what it's all about. Recently I've discovered my Anal G Spot though and sex can now be an almost mind-numbing sensation!

    20. Provide anything else you would like to say, below:
    This questionairre- that I wrote has WAY too many questions! If anyone else is thinking of answering - maybe only answer SOME of them - cuz 20 is WAYYYYY too much!
     
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