cheating boyfriend/ drunken sex with friend

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  1. montana101

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    In the past week I relized my boyfriend was cheating on me. I was pretty aware of it for the past month but I guess I wanted to work things out. He lives in my house and says he still wants to be roommates but I think it would just be odd. I told him I can't watch him explore while I am in the other room. He doest pay rent and hasnt helped with bills in the 4 months he lived with me because he didnt have a job until March.
    The past two night he didnt come home and I've had two girls that are friends stay the night with me. Last night one of my really good girl friends came over and we got drunk and I let her kiss me. I remember i was naked and so was she. I remember putting on a condom and i remeber blood on my sheets and falling asleep on her. I dont think we had sex.
    I woke up and she was gone, the sheets were off my bed and I had my clothes on. She had cleaned everything and but in in the garbage. Now I just dont know what to do.
    I have a cheating boyfriend who whats to still be friend and live in my house and I have a really good friend that i may have lost.
    I wish i never met him so this all would have never happened
     
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    ****He doest pay rent and hasnt helped with bills in the 4 months he lived with me because he didnt have a job until March. ****

    Is it common that men can't appreciate it when a woman is trying to help him out financially?
     
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    Kick this cheater to the curb. Keeping him around is just gonna hurt you in the long run... I was also in this same situation with my ex but I grew some balls and left him. You need to just kick him out or give him a one month earning to find a job and pay bills. Be a grown up and enforce rules. If he isn't helping are you just gonna let him free load off you forever. Make yourself happy and do the right thing.
     
  4. Pitbull

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    montana101
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    70% Gay, 30% Straight

    Gender confusion aside.

    Kick him out immediately.
    He did not need to stay there for the past 2 nights so he has someplace he can stay.
    Change your locks.

    As far as the drunken episode with your friend.
    It has nothing to do with the parasitic loser.
     
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    I agree with this. You don't need someone like that in your life.

    Oh, call your friend, figure out what happened and patch things up if you can/ want. I'd be more concerned about this person and hitting the nearest hardware store.
     
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    I think I will give him 3 weeks so he can save money.
    He just called me to ask if there is any money in the joint account cause he is a few hundred dollars short from getting a car. Fuck No! He spent all of it while I was in France last week. I'm fucking 19 years old. I have a job a car and a house I can do so much better.
    I am suppose to see my friend tonight we are to have more people over tonight.
     
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    Don't give him the three weeks. It'll end up being longer. You sound like you've got your shit together. Don't let home belittle your accomplishments. Send him packing immediately. People like home always have someone else they can sponge off of. He'll do just fine. Send him the message that you won't be fucked with and throw him out today. Good luck.
     
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    JOINT ACCOUNT???? Close it or get your name off it ASAP! Of course he wants to keep being a parasite off you. And the only way to know what happened with the girl is to call her and ask. It's amazing you slept right through all that cleaning.

    That male is making it way too easy to do what is right, which is to kick him out if he is not on the lease.
     
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    Don't give ANYTHING. Get rid of him yesterday. Change the locks on the door and mailbox and don't e er let him back.

    Sklar
     
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    Do you know the problems he can cause in 3 weeks????? :confused:
    Give him three weeks and you will find out.
    And trust me - you don't want to find out.

    Locksmith - NOW!
    No mercy, no pity.
    He does not give a shit about you! :mad:
    You have been too kind.
    Time to stop.

    And at 19 you should be in a relationship where each of you have your own place.
     
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    Please read and reread the above until you can see clearly enough to see it yourself. I was already thinking this and then you posted that he called and asked for more money after spending all of it from your "joint account" (close that immediately!)

    Your heart is going to get your ass in a very bad situation :frown1:
     
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    :worried:Ugh, Joint Account? Those two words make me feel queasy. The guy obviously doesn't care about you at all or he wouldn't continue to use you....and he still wants your money?

    RUN, RUN FAST...
     
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    A word about the joint account.
    Let me guess who put all the money in the account (You).
    Let me guess who took all the money out of the account (Him)
    Let me guess how much money is left in the account. ($0.00)

    So even if there isn't any more money in the account, you must close it
    because:
    1.) The bank will charge you fees.
    2.) If a checking account - he will start writing bad checks and you will get entangled in a mess with people coming after you because your name on the account.

    Ask those nice bank people tomorrow as you are closing that empty account if there is anything further you have to do in case your now ex continues to write checks?
    They are very familiar with the situation, I'm sure.

    And when he writes those rubber checks.
    If you have to sign anything for the bank or the police
    your response is:
    "Where's the pen?"
     
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    Thanks everyone.
    I know what I have to do.

    PS The joint account was for home bills and other cost we had together. We both were to but an equal amount each month. I still have my own account and my own money too.
     
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    Are you kidding me? You're a sweet guy, but you have no sense of self-preservation!
     
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    just my opinion:

    having a joint account is never a good idea...

    unless you're married...

    and even then it's questionable...
     
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    Kick him out immediately.
    He did not need to stay there for the past 2 nights so he has someplace he can stay.
    Change your locks.

    As far as the drunken episode with your friend.
    It has nothing to do with the parasitic loser.


    This is AWESOME advice.
     
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    Tonight is night 3 without him here.
    I asked him to stop by tomorrow so we can talk.
    Meaning im getting the key to my door and he is getting his stuff
     
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    He could have copies. That is why we all tell you to actually change the lock.
     
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