I understand cheating. It can happen for a number of things. Rage, loneliness... the list goes on. Cheating is easy to forgive and its true. Lying on the other hand makes you doubt what people are say and feel. and most people i believe confuse these two together. my partner, when we first met loved to web cam and trade pictures. he told me he would stop because he knew how much it bothered me. Porn is one thing but actually talking and exposing yourself to strangers I like being in a circle jerk at the gym. in my opinion and I know I'm not the only one what feels this way. Long story short he has lied to me a couples times and maybe I'm stupid for staying with him but that's not the topic here. i on the other hand cheated on my partner once. After i found out that he still was having cyber sex and what not, i felt like i was not good enough for him. I wasn't enough for him. Like i couldn't please him. So i cheated on him with a man i met at the gym. As soon as it happened i felt terrible and told him when he got home. never cheated on him again. the question here is... whats worse? cheating or lying? granted that the person learns from their mistakes. i was never angry at him for lying to me, but i was so disappointed.