In nearly all species (except may black widow spiders), the male is predatory in nature. The female is the nestor. It seems a bit contradictory to try and suppress the predatory nature of males. When I figured that out, it was less of an issue for me.
I had a partner once. We never once lied to each other though he sometimes had to drag things out of me. After a period of time in our relationship I realized I could not be all things for him. There were things he wanted that I wasn't ready or willing to do. Rather than throw the relationship away (which was good to the last day), I opted to suggest we open the relationship up. It worked for us. It eliminated unreasonable restrictions (YOU MUST BE FAITHFUL TO ME TILL YOU DIE EVEN IF I CAN'T PROVIDE YOU WHAT YOU NEED) and took the pressure off both of us.
We always shared our experiences when they occurred and never hid the truth from each other. Our relationship did not end over that aspect, rather because I was so used to being on my own and he was used to being in, and had a deep need for a relationship with someone that I felt the need to go back to a less restrictive status. He eventually came to that conclusion on his own and we mutually agreed to go separate ways. We are still friends today. He met his current partner in the last months of our time together and they're still together some 25 years later......and....sigh....I'm still single 25 years later. I suppose some things will never change. ;-)
Where did we get this idea that sex could only ever be with one person??
