Exactly why we weren’t bothered about my girlfriend cheating. It wasn’t hurting anyone, so why wouldn’t we be okOur species doesn't instinctually form exclusive lifetime pair bonds or even long term ones. If it did there would be no need for the taboo of death penalty for adultery, fornication or homosexual activity in world religions.
There are adaptive advantages for both sexes to "cheat." Most important is not to have all your eggs in one basket genetically.
There are adaptive advantages for pair bonds which last long enough to raise children to adulthood. Cheating doesn't always interfere with that.
Our biology isn't wrong or immoral. Our religions are. It's one more way religion poisons everything.
It never ceases to amaze me when members of a porn site moralize about cheating... especially when a pro-slavery religious figure like Jesus turned it into a thought crime.![]()
Exactly why we weren’t bothered about my girlfriend cheating. It wasn’t hurting anyone, so why wouldn’t we be ok
To start with no. And when I did and we talked about it we agreed that she would continue and I wouldn’t do anything about it. She called it cheating and I still saw it as cheatingYes, but did you know about her infidelity? If you know and approve of her actions it isn't really cheating is it?
Lots of talk about cheaters being terrible and betraying trust, and for the most part that is true and not something people find sexy. But, in a less than serious relationship I had with a now ex girlfriend, she cheated on me regularly and got caught early on in the relationship. We had a talk about it one night after she had been caught out and we came to an agreement that I would turn a blind eye to her activities and give her space and time to see other men and we just act like normal and never mention it. We were together 4 more years after that
It wasn’t hurting anyone, so why wouldn’t we be ok
It never ceases to amaze me when members of a porn site moralize about cheating... especially when a pro-slavery religious figure like Jesus turned it into a thought crime.![]()
It can definitely be painful and hurt a lot, especially if you really love the person that is cheating on you. I’m sorry to hear you were hurt like this.I have been hurt by cheating before though, to share a different perspective.
I can't get pregnant. When he cheated, she got pregnant. I wasn't just "jealous", it broke me because it was so much more than sex. Another human being exists because of his lie. I still forgave him, but it didn't "hurt no one". I'm still devastated about the fact that she has his baby and I can't. Ever.
That and there's the potential for cheaters to spread STI's to their unknowing partner. So, it can and does hurt people sometimes.
So cheating...but with noble purpose I guess...lol