Wassup everyone? I'm new to this board although I have visited off and on. Over time I've enjoyed your insight and witty repartee as well as your experiences which you've generously shared. In short, you all seem like a great group of people. I wanted to let everyone know that I'm starting up our own book club. Oprah may have hers but there's no reason why we cannot start our own. While shopping in downtown Brooklyn my eyes were drawn to the window of a Barnes & Noble featuring a book with the naked torso of a black man and a ruler and the words "Hung" in bold non-serif letters. Intrigued I decided to go online to check it out. Let me tell you I am so glad someone has had the courage to write about the thing that every black man in this society has to live up to and feel insecure about. Dick. On the website Poulson-Bryant talks about that movie "Crash" and what their "Crash moment" was when they realize intolerance runs deep. Let me relay my own to all of you dear lpsgers. Just recently, I was filming a movie and was searching for a restroom to put on my long underwear (under the costume) and there was a line already forming to a unisex bathroom. A middle-aged white guy with glasses asked why don't I just use the overcrowded impromptu dressing room? I responed that I'd just bought new long underwear and had to layer them in order to keep warm. "Why don't you change in there. It's not like you have you don't have anything they haven't seen before." He included, "Besides after I heard what you black guys have I would'nt feel ashamed." WTF?! The way I responded didn't reflect they way I felt inside. A man twice my age was saying this to me in public! He didn't know me. Yet he made this blanket generalization. I wanted to tell him straight-faced how racist he was being in front of everyone. He might as well had added the n-word to what he said. This is what I'm talking about people. For years I've been burdened with the idea that people of my color, background, and physical stature are supposed to be endowed like farm animals. Nevermind our achievements or contributions to this annoyingly vapid, sexually obsessed/repressed society. Althroughout puberty I was shackled with the idea of maleness being represented in the the amount of flesh that hung between my legs. I've obsessed about it endlessly and I'm sure many of you have too. Especially black men and men of color. Finally, I had to realize that like many of you I was trying to live up to a incredible stupid ideal. Sure, there are those of us that wish we had more (or less) but from a young age you are forced to contend with the images that society continues put forth and continue to perpetuate. At times I get tired of being viewed as the "big black stud" because it dehumanizes me and I know I'm not alone. Enough is enough America. Even if times have changed and the American public has become so diverse why do we still cling to these fallacies which are rooted in such a unsettling past of American history? Surely, I'm more than the sum of my parts. Check out www.ruhung.com to learn more about this book and please let me know your thoughts on this topic.