Checking in the locker room - an invasion of privacy?

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  1. D_Biff Wellington

    D_Biff Wellington New Member

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    So I've read a lot regarding checking out the cocks of peers while in locker rooms. This is sorta odd, but someone correct me if I'm wrong.

    I'm a pretty fervent bisexual and, granted, I wouldn't mind peeking at the cocks of some of my friends in a more consensual mannerb but this whole idea of checking out dudes in the locker room after a practice or a weight lifting session seems to me to not only be a fantasy, but frankly a terrible invasion of privacy. When I'm in the locker room the only thing I concentrate on is showering, dressing, and getting the hell out of there so I can eat something (and maybe sneak a beer) with the boys and then go home and sleep.

    Does anyone else think this, or am I just overly introspective about the topic?
     
  2. ganja4me

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    It's not necessarily an invasion of privacy when you have it out there where anyone can see it. Some people just want to see what others look like in comparison to their own. It's a normal thing in my opinion, just curiosity we all experience it.
     
  3. No_Strings

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    I'm quite defensive and protective of my personal space and privacy, so I think of it as a form of invasion yes.

    If I catch someone looking, then it will annoy me but it's no big deal. If I see them doing it again, I'll try and catch their eyes to let them know of my disapproval, possibly even say something if they're being overt about it. If they continue, my next course of action could well depend on any security cameras present in the locker room, or lack thereof.

    I don't think of myself as an angry or violent person, but staring is not flattering and comparing is not necessary - get on with your own business please. :mad:
     
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    It's one thing if the person is going out of their way to try and look. It's another thing if you are walking around naked and anyone can see. I would be uncomfortable if I was just trying to get in and out and someone was trying to get a look.
     
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    If it's a casual glance or even a double-take, yes, you are overreacting. If someone is overtly staring, they are out of line.
     
  6. D_Andy_Whorewall

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    This website could be considered an invasion of privacy, yes ?
     
  7. DC_DEEP

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    I think there could possibly be just the slightest difference between changing your clothes and showering in a locker room, and posting photos on a website. Can you guess which one is an explicit invitation to look?
     
  8. Big Dreamer

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    Come on DC, tell us!! Don't leave another fucking riddle hanging in the air.

    Fine, I'll figure it out on my own.....

    *Eenie Meenie Miney Moe........*
     
  9. DC_DEEP

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    "One of these things, is not like the other one... one of these things, doesn't belong..."
     
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    I think that casual glances are just part of the deal. If you choose to drop your pants in front of other guys then you are asking for it. You can't complain if someone looks at you. In most instances it wouldn't be sexual anyway.

    I'm quite modest. I used to play rugby at school. I never chose to use public showers after a game - I pulled on my tracksuit, cycled home and jumped in the bath in the privacy of my own home.
     
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    No argument at all. I was just trying to suggest that perhaps being naked inthe shower is also an open invitation to look, same as here. Hmmmmm
     
  12. Male Bonding etc

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    I think being naked and showering with the guys is not so much an invitation to look as a healthy statement that it is NOT a big deal.

    Ogling is obnoxious whether one is clothed or not and regardless of where. It can still be treated in a light-hearted manner by the one being ogled, but oglers really should cool it.

    Of course you can look all you like online without it being technically ogling.
     
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    You can tell if someone is just curious and if someone is blatantly checking you out. A quick glance over is just out of curiousity but staring is wrong and that is most likely a sexual thing.
     
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    if you are willing to shower and get changed infront of a group of other men then you and them alike must be comfortable in doing it
     
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    Yep, don't take it off if you don't want anyone to look.
     
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    I'll be looking at yours a lot, needthesupport!
     
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    I get everything from casual glances to an obvious stare when I'm in the locker room naked (and I'm not huge compared to alot of you guys). Invasion of privacy contradicts getting naked in public. Guys look. Gay, str8 and bi... If you don't like it, change / shower at home.
     
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    I get plenty of stares, but have been at gyms for many years I couldn't care less who looks or who stares, no touching allowed though. I kinda worried when I was 16.

    Now I just mind my business and soon enough they get discouraged. I cannot go around WASTING MY TIME on what other people's eyes are doing.

    Last thing I expect is someone telling me where to look or not to look for that matter, thus I live by it.
     
  19. D_Biff Wellington

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    But I think there is a huge difference between quick glances (if a person is stark naked in front of you, you can't help it) and rather long, obvious protracted stares. When your eye accidentally comes into contact with another guy's dick if he's utterly stark naked in front of you and you're discussing, hell I don't know, sports or something, then that I can understand. However, I don't consider being gay, straight or bi an excuse for what is frankly oggling and let me explain why.

    At college, I landed a pretty sweet deal where I lived with my girlfriend because my roommate never showed (we pushed together the single beds to make a big one - it was sick). We had sex pretty often and I obviously saw her naked on multiple occasions per week, yet still when she was dressing in the mornings I granted her privacy as I deemed that to be the gentlemanly thing to do.

    I can understand why smaller kids, even younger teenagers, might look as that entire age is a non-stop educational process. However, I frankly can't excuse adults from checking out older teenagers or even men their age as that educational period has stopped. It's good manners not to stare at the genitals of other men - even if you're bisexual as I am - and manners are nothing else than a sign of respect, and everyone deserves a modicum of respect.

    I strongly feel as if there is an unwritten rule that a locker room is a place for showering, changing and dressing. When I enter a locker room, in the back of my mind there is a voice that tells me subconciously that this is a place where it is safe to be naked in front of other men without any sexual promiscuity. I don't know when voyeurism became part of that experience.

    Part of the reason why I even brought the subject up is because I wanted to separate fiction from reality. My intention was not to impress "prudish" values on everyone but rather to debunk what I've learned as fact. Is it really that common that people go into locker rooms to shower and to check out other guys because of their own inner insecurities? I don't think so but please tell me if I'm wrong now that I've clarified my own position on the matter.

    I have zero problem being naked in front of other men. I do have a problem with this oggling and comparing.
     
  20. Freddie53

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    Most people have peripheral vision, that is we can see a wide swatch of area. It is very possible to see another guy's package in detail and that guy never ever suspect a thing. We all do this on a regular basis in our daily living.

    What makes guys who are only complaining about the ogling is that ogling has crossed the line from just looking, to letting it become sexual. Our sexual desires are inborn. Somehow guys can tell if a guy is just checking them out or if they are in their minds having sexual thoughts.

    People have stepped around this the entire thread. I think the critical difference is when the looking becomes sexual. Most guys don't want to become sexual with anybody and everybody that happens to be at the locker room that day.
     
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