Chocking on cum

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Cthulhu: Ladies and gentlemen, hello to you all, I would really appreciate your help.

One of my greatest fetishes in sex is oral cumshots, both watching it in porn and experiencing it in real life.

Since my g/f was a complete virgin when we met (he he, not anymore), together we have experimented together on everything about sex, from frontal to anal, to blowjobs and, of course, to oral cumshots.

It is at this point, oral cumshots, that we stumbled uppon a problem we still cannot solve. Even when the slightest amound of cum lands in her mouth (and I am talking about me being outside and masturbating all over her face and open mouth, not an inside mouth cumshot), she chokes uncontrollably, sometimes so badly that I wonder whether she needs a Heimlich Maneuver.

Now, some men would be turned on by a woman chocking on their cum, but I am not such a kind of a guy, I respect and love my g/f way to much to want to see her chocking like that.

My question is this: Is there any technique, anything she or I or both could do, in order for her not to chocke, both on outside or inside mouth cumshots? I am a medium to heavy cummer, but the problem occures even with a single shot and I don't thing it has anything to do with quantity - not currently, anyway. Ladies and guys, is there anything you tried and worked?

 

[13788]

petermartin1974: Speaking as someone medical, I reckon she could have a really sensitive gag reflex. Does she gag a fair bit when she brushes her molar teeth, or brushes her tongue (some peopel do it, it's for better breath)?
Maybe when you shoot that one drop in, it goes right to the back.
Maybe it'd look sexy for ya if she just pouted and kissed at your dick while you came? That way you get yer facial, she stays alive, and she still looks sexy while living out your fantasy. :9

 

[Lex]

My BF has huge loads. I recently tried to take it all orally (as opposed to having it plastered on my chest) and couldn't. I felt mysef getting "full" so to speak, so I pulled it out of my mouth and let the rest fly all over me. I don't know how to cure a gag reflex--it may just be that she has to get used to the texture, taste and thought of it all.

 

[VRMan]

To be honest, it sounds like a psychological thing to me. The only condition I can imagine under which I would gag even by a single drip of a liquid is when I am so disgusted by the liquid that my body wants it out of its system as soon as possible.

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Yeah I would gag too...I know I have an easy gag reflex but I do love when someone swallows...

 

[surferboy]

Originally posted by VRMan@Jun 26 2005, 04:44 AM
To be honest, it sounds like a psychological thing to me. The only condition I can imagine under which I would gag even by a single drip of a liquid is when I am so disgusted by the liquid that my body wants it out of its system as soon as possible.

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I fully agree with you. I think it's in her head, and has nothing to do with a gag reflex. Maybe she doesn't like the taste or thought of cum in her mouth. I always give this piece of advice here - talk to her! Like, most of the problems involving a lover can be fixed if you talk. I don't get why people are like, so embarrassed about talking to their partner (or anyone, for that matter) about sex.

 

[13788]

Cthulhu: The fact is that my g/f isn't exactly crazy about cum, but she is working on getting used to it. Maybe for the time being we are at the chocking/gagging stage and in the future this will get better (fingers crossed&#33.

 

[absinthium]

I'd say get her used to the taste of your semen outside of shooting it onto her... Ejaculate in your hand (or hers) and have her taste it. Maybe she's so afraid it will taste bad she doesn't even want to try it.
Is it possible she's been sexually abused? If so, you might not want to push the issue. A reaction that strongly when it's not even in her mouth seems psychological, indeed, and might have a long backstory.
Try talking with her about it. Bring it up casually, and be gentle.

 

[britlover]

Cum tends to taste differently from one guy to another, and even differently with the same guy (depending on what he's eaten a few hours beforehand).

My boyfriend has very sweet tasting semen, so having him blow in my mouth has never been a problem. Funny, coz I absolutely hated it when my exes all tried to do such a thing (blow in my mouth).

I think the trick is to keep the sucking motion going at the point of ejaculation. My boyfriend is rather non-verbal when he climaxes, so I tend to work with how his testicles are (the closer up they are, the sooner he's going to blow&#33.

Good luck, matey!

 

[Child_of_the_sun]

Well if its a gag reflex its my experience that to lose it its just a matter of practice, practice, practice, if she really wants to fullfill you fantasy have her just practice when shes doing whatever... alone at home.

If its the discust I think she just needs to condition herself to look at cum in a more sexy and "yummy" way, its the same with phobias, if you think and act discusted enough about something it developes into a physical reaction. It should also work if reversed, try to get her to think about cum as a sexy thing, as a part of you....
This is more difficult to explain then I thought.... well tell me if you dont understand and erm... I'll just shut up :thumbsup:

 

[surferboy]

Originally posted by Child_of_the_sun@Jun 29 2005, 08:53 AM
Well if its a gag reflex its my experience that to lose it its just a matter of practice, practice, practice, if she really wants to fullfill you fantasy have her just practice when shes doing whatever... alone at home.

If its the discust I think she just needs to condition herself to look at cum in a more sexy and "yummy" way, its the same with phobias, if you think and act discusted enough about something it developes into a physical reaction. It should also work if reversed, try to get her to think about cum as a sexy thing, as a part of you....
This is more difficult to explain then I thought.... well tell me if you dont understand and erm... I'll just shut up :thumbsup:

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I never had my gag reflex

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

I guess I am one of the weird people that don't like cum to touch me really...I don't even like my own cum to hit me...

 

[Child_of_the_sun]

Originally posted by surferboy+Jun 30 2005, 12:07 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(surferboy &#064; Jun 30 2005, 12:07 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-Child_of_the_sun@Jun 29 2005, 08:53 AM
Well if its a gag reflex its my experience that to lose it its just a matter of practice, practice, practice, if she really wants to fullfill you fantasy have her just practice when shes doing whatever... alone at home.

If its the discust I think she just needs to condition herself to look at cum in a more sexy and "yummy" way, its the same with phobias, if you think and act discusted enough about something it developes into a physical reaction. It should also work if reversed, try to get her to think about cum as a sexy thing, as a part of you....
This is more difficult to explain then I thought.... well tell me if you dont understand and erm... I&#39;ll just shut up    :thumbsup:

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I never had my gag reflex

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good lad I worked hard to get rid of mine :9

 

[Child_of_the_sun]

Originally posted by Pene_Negro_Grande@Jun 30 2005, 04:09 AM
I guess I am one of the weird people that don&#39;t like cum to touch me really...I don&#39;t even like my own cum to hit me...

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I am one of those who cant get enough of it

 

[madame_zora]

Hey there C_O_T_S, good to see you.

I know we were working on losing our gag reflexes around the same time, I&#39;m still not there yet, but progress has been made.

The thing is, you can&#39;t make someone want to do anything, that will come when and if she is ready herself to look at it that way. Until then, enjoy what she does do so she doesn&#39;t feel pressured to perform. If she starts thinging of it as a chore, she won&#39;t be very eager to do it at all.