Choking while being fucked.

[RawDog]

It's nice to see that I can vocalise what I want effectively on occasion :tongue:. It's not something I tend to be very good at most of the time. RawDog gave me a head start on this one though and made it a little easier.

I don't consider myself a writer by any means, but I do notice that it takes a few qualities to be able to write smut. One is the command of the language (obvious), the other is an ability to clarify thoughts and actions that seem to defy explanation (see my next quote from you), and lastly the bravery to expose your thoughts to ridiculae or praise. You have those three aspects.

I think for me it is more about the mental aspects than about the physical sensations (I suspect that is what you meant too :smile. What excites me about it so much is the suggestion of power and control, the thought that they can do whatever they want with me (this is in fact true, because if they're getting me that horny I'll do anything for more).

This is what I'm talking about. Yours is the most coherent explanation for me. I'm sure for some of the people on the receiving end of this, it is about breath control/asphyxiation, but on the giving end it's about trust, power and control. And you're right, it is a cycle that feeds itself once it gets going. Making you horny gets me horny which in turn gets you hornier.

 

[D_Chesty_Pecjiggle]

Let me clarify that I do not mean asphyxiation, choking, ligature strangulation or putting hard pressure on my trachea. Nothing violent. I have no desire to pass out or be truely oxygen deprived. It's more of a sensation.

I Agree. I have huge hands, I can reach up and put my hand around someone's neck without choking them. But I suspect subgirl and submissivegirl both love that big hand around their neck not even that tightly.

Also at 6'8 and with very long arms, it's great to be doing a hard doggy style and reach up (if I know my lover likes it) and put my hand around her neck when I know she's close and just watch her cream build up on my cock.

 

[SweetLovesVick]

For me it is extremely sexy for a man to reach up and touch my neck during sex. I like my husband to touch my neck and also hold his hand at the center of my back when we are out in public. Something about this always turned me on. But holding my neck w/both his hands and applying pressure/squeezing freaks me out. He never did it again after that first time. I like him Dominate in bed but no actual or pretend choking.
RawDog I hate to read your posts in the morning they always get me worked up and the whole day I am on edge thinking about sex. My husband has no idea some of your posts have been the cause of his latest power quickies while are kids nap! You posts sure do put a smile on my face. Your wife is one lucky lady!

 

[RawDog]

RawDog I hate to read your posts in the morning they always get me worked up and the whole day I am on edge thinking about sex. My husband has no idea some of your posts have been the cause of his latest power quickies while are kids nap! You posts sure do put a smile on my face. Your wife is one lucky lady!

Gosh, I'm speechless.

Thanks for the compliment (again)! This is the first forum I've been to where the women are very frank and honest about what they want, and how they want it. Asking probing questions and getting thought provoking answers feeds my curiosity and in turn, gets some creative juices flowing.

 

[joeweekend]

Geez, I'm capable of being seriously kinky. But this . . . ummm, no. No interest.

 

[B_subgirrl]

I don't consider myself a writer by any means, but I do notice that it takes a few qualities to be able to write smut. One is the command of the language (obvious), the other is an ability to clarify thoughts and actions that seem to defy explanation (see my next quote from you), and lastly the bravery to expose your thoughts to ridiculae or praise. You have those three aspects.

Thank you. I feel truly flattered :smile::redface:

This is what I'm talking about. Yours is the most coherent explanation for me. I'm sure for some of the people on the receiving end of this, it is about breath control/asphyxiation, but on the giving end it's about trust, power and control. And you're right, it is a cycle that feeds itself once it gets going. Making you horny gets me horny which in turn gets you hornier.

Oh, I forgot about the trust aspect! This certainly wouldn't be happening with someone I'd only just met. If I'm doing this sort of thing with someone, I'm LITERALLY putting my life in their hands, so while I'm feeling deliciously vulnerable, I'm also giving my partner the biggest compliment ever.

The caged feeling we were talking about on the doggie thread fits into a similar category for me. Although I don't think there is much of a trust exchange going on there, that has similar elements of power and control. The trapped/'forced' feeling applies there too.

I Agree. I have huge hands, I can reach up and put my hand around someone's neck without choking them. But I suspect subgirl and submissivegirl both love that big hand around their neck not even that tightly.

Also at 6'8 and with very long arms, it's great to be doing a hard doggy style and reach up (if I know my lover likes it) and put my hand around her neck when I know she's close and just watch her cream build up on my cock.

Big hands really do add to the specialness of this for me.

RawDog I hate to read your posts in the morning they always get me worked up and the whole day I am on edge thinking about sex. My husband has no idea some of your posts have been the cause of his latest power quickies while are kids nap! You posts sure do put a smile on my face. Your wife is one lucky lady!

He makes me feel the same! RawDog, your tastes are too similar to mine and you describe things too well. I'm horny enough as it is!

 

[EllieP]

I've never been choked but I've certainly smothered him on more than one occasion! Death by boob would have been an interesting entry on a coroner's report! I didn't realize what I was doing and he wasn't complaining.

 

[thehighheelsgirl]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE being choked during sex, and I always have my most intense orgasms when choked. As a submissive, it's def a power thing for my Master, but I'd ONLY ever do it with a guy I TRUST. I like kinky sex, and I've let my Master do things to me I'd never have dreamed of when I was younger, but that doesn't mean I'd let just any guy do this stuff to me.

 

[R_35_Skyline]

quick questions for the ladies......

how much pressure is too much? should a man put enough pressure to where you can still breathe a bit or to where you can't breathe at all. also, when and how long should the process of choking last?

 

[HazelGod]

how much pressure is too much?

Anything more than 1 bar, you're gonna need to go to a bigger injector.

 

[B_VinylBoy]

More power to anyone who gets into such things, but as an asthmatic the idea of not being able to breath (even during sex) just freaks me out.

 

[B_subgirrl]

quick questions for the ladies......

how much pressure is too much? should a man put enough pressure to where you can still breathe a bit or to where you can't breathe at all. also, when and how long should the process of choking last?

The answer to these questions will be different for everyone. I suggest if you want to try this that you know someone EXTREMELY well and watch their body language.

 

[B_Jules7]

so after reading this thread.... during a particularly energetic sexual encounter with my GF yesterday, I put my hand on her neck to see how she would react. It was incredible - she loved it! I didn't squeeze too hard, I just put a firm grip and pushed her chin back a little and squeezed a bit. She went WILD! I could immediately feel her get wetter. I stopped and asked her if it was ok, and she said yes carry on, but not too hard. She also enjoys being pinned down by the wrists and sometime being blind-folded and tied up. very erotic! Will make this a regular thing I think

 

[xX_Sarah_Xx]

Ok, before anyone flames me, this question is more for the hopefully one of these days sub-forum entitled, "Ask the Women":

What's the deal with women who like being choked (or at the very least have hands wrapped lightly around their throat) while being fucked? This isn't meant to be dismissive in any form or fashion. On the contrary, I actually love doing it. There's something so vulnerable, so dangerous, so soft and so controlling about having so much power to do harm and not. It's an almost instant boner for me.

Can anyone explain to me from the female's perspective the attraction?

As subgirrl and submissive already mentioned, it's more the mental aspect of it that turns me on.
To me, if a guy actually tried choking me and I would get the feeling I can't breath, I would be put off (and probably really angry too). But just the gesture of having his hand lightly wrapped around my throat is a major turn-on.
I would have to trust him completely to allow that, but it can be both lovingly sweet, with gazing in each others eyes, and slightly dangerous at the same time. Him being in complete control, making me feel vulnerable.
As in totally 100% getting fucked, and not being able to do a thing about it? I mean... I'd start to feel sorry for myself! :biggrin1:

 

[RawDog]

Once again, great responses, everyone. One work of warning: Be very careful if you've never played around with even putting your hand on someone's throat. One of my instructors told me that it takes the same amount of force to crush a soda can as it does to crush the larynx (if done properly).

Oh, and Jules7... You're welcome.

 

[Bbucko]

Breath Play is a pretty common kink among those who are into BDSM.

I personally only like "pretend" breath play -- where he puts his hand over my neck but instead of squeezing my neck or pressing into my windpipe, he presses upward into my jaw bone, which cannot cause strangulation.

I am too aware of the medical risks of erotic asphyxia to play around with being choked for real, to any degree. Any time I feel the slightest pressure on my windpipe my feelings quickly change from arousal to fear, and I call a halt to the "choking."

He has pointed out that he would never really strangle me, but I don't seem to be able to think logically when I feel my airway constricted. It just sends me into panic.

The pretend play, though, does turn me on...it feels very submissive to have his hand on my neck, even if he is not really squeezing my neck.

This all goes back to "the real" for me. I am not a psychopath, but I really enjoy adding some limited and controlled Breath Work into a session. Occasionally it's discussed ahead of time, but generally it's an added "bonus" to play that's already involved things as (if not much more) extreme as that.

As with everything else, it's a question of degree both of amplitude in the grip and in its duration. I find that thumbs (relatively) lightly applied to the base of the throat for a few seconds summons attention immediately; if encouraged, I'll explore both duration and intensity, if I hear or sense alarm, I stop immediately and attempt to negotiate. But if the sub is unwilling (for whatever reason), I move on quickly and easily to another item on the menu.

I've only had one overtly hostile response, but in all honesty that guy should not be playing sub games as he had no stomach for it at all (despite what he said prior to the encounter). On the other hand, I've met many guys for whom it's the push that kicks him into overdrive and overcomes a plateau.

 

[D_Miranda_Wrights]

I read the title under Women's Issues as "cooking while being fucked" and was like, this is the most sexist thread imaginable

I'm fairly dominant during sex, but this is not something I'd ever consider. It's definitely a trust matter, and I understand the psychological and physiological reasons that this could enhance sex. But it's just a barrier for me I can't pass...

 

[thehighheelsgirl]

quick questions for the ladies......

how much pressure is too much? should a man put enough pressure to where you can still breathe a bit or to where you can't breathe at all. also, when and how long should the process of choking last?

Master will choke me so I can't breathe, and then he'll let me take a breath and then choke me some more and OMG do I LOVE it! I like it so I am just on the verge of passing out when I orgasm.

 

[B_Nick8]

And what's the deal with airline food? </Seinfeld>

I just love you.

 

[EllieP]

I read the title under Women's Issues as "cooking while being fucked" and was like, this is the most sexist thread imaginable

Sexist? Indeed not, unless you think only she can cook. Kitchen nookie is awesome!