[quote author=gigantikok link=board=meetgreet;num=1059234739;start=20#21 date=07/28/03 at 01:23:41]Not everyone in the world is as comfortable with their endowment as you are. You may not see an issue with being known as a well hung guy, but some of us try really hard to seperate that image from our everyday lives. I know for sure i dont want to become known as just a "big dick", if you catch my drift...[/quote]
Really good stuff here, guys. And before I begin, G., just know that I'm not trying to attack your position. I felt a need to comment because I find your opinion rather interesting here.
When I read this point, I got the obvious feeling that you hide your endowment from others for (1) professional reasons [as you've stated before] but also (2) to avoid the stigma of being a prototypical dickhead who thinks he can impress people with his dick alone instead of crafting other talents and activities to keep a level of social acceptance and involvement with your peers. You don't want to be known as "a big dick" and nothing more, and that's understandable, but why are you so certain that -- well, if your friend sees you with a morning hardon, or anyone else for that matter who hapens to glance down south, are going to peg you with that sentiment?
If you ask me, being known as a big dick requires you to act in ways that will make you appear as one.
Figuratively, "big dicks" are guys who go around carelessly treating people with little importance, are only searching for a means to use people. He's a dick, for instance, if he feigns interest in a girl, tries to talk to her and act like he cares, only to turn her away when she won't have sex with him right then and right there in his dorm room. Big dicks walk around only caring about themselves and refusing to consider how others feel when he slants them, makes rude jokes, or does anything to assert that he's better than they are.
And literally, big dicks will use their big dicks to get attention, affirmation, and reaction instead of developing a sense of humor, keen intelligence, wit, charm, or pursuing any number of hobbies to meet similar others. They (mistakenly) think that everyone's dying to suck on or service their knobs and that he has an entitlement to everyone of his suitors for that reason. He's an object of worship (women or men, depending on how he swings) and envy (primarily men).
But you seem way too humble for that stuff, man. Hell, haha, I can see you as being excessively patient and comfortable with women too ("Now, sweetheart, before we start messing around, I... I... [stammering] ...I'm pretty big, but HEY! I'll go REAL slow and you just tell me when... etc."). In all seriousness, though, I really think you're overly protective of your reputation when it sounds like you're hardly acting out in ways to make people think you're some base guy who's too preoccupied with his dick.
As for worries about others... here's a brief story. When I stayed in the dorms, I went to the shower to wash something out of my eyes after a long nap. I accidentally locked myself out; in the meantime, I'm sitting there in a t-shirt and boxers and one hell of an aching morning wood. Thankfully it didn't pop out the fly but when I knocked on my RA's door, I tried to stand to the side but he saw it; well, actually, he kinda glanced down and said some remark -- "Heh, wondering what you were dreamin' about." -- we laughed it off, I playfully punched him and said fuck you. He grabbed the hall key and let me in, no prob.
So long as you don't get too weird about it -- size or not -- your friends probably won't care either. I bet they'll be just concerned as you until you both realize that morning wood is just a way of life and that it never has been and never will be a big deal.
