Its true. ToolMan and I are going our separate ways. I know this will probably come as a shock. It has to many people in my life. It would take far too long to explain all the history or the reasons involved, but I havent been as happy as I've led everyone to believe, including myself. For a long time, I tried to keep a positive attitude no matter what, and my posts on LPSG reflected that. In speaking of our relationship, I always told people the good things, but left the bad things unsaid. It made for a very pretty picture. I know I wanted to believe in it. I think, on some level, I hoped that telling the fairy tale enough times would make it true, but some things have happened recently that have forced me to be honest with myself and with my husband. LPSG members werent the only group of people to only hear the fairy tale version of our relationship. Weve always spoken well of each other to everyone in our lives. As a result, they believed that we were the perfect couplewe had everything going for us. In truth though, we have been in conflict for years, and have made countless compromises, giving up a little more of ourselves each time. None of our efforts brought us any lasting peace, and after a long battle, we are declaring a cease fire. We are just not right for each other anymore. No one has done anything bad or wrong. No one has been physically or verbally abusive. No one has been sleeping around outside the marriage. The root of the problem is fundamental incompatibility, and it cannot be fixed. To the members of LPSG, I apologize if I have disappointed you, and I want you to know that there was never any intentional deception involved. I know some of you may want to help us. Various individuals in our social circle have already suggested threesomes, swinging, marriage counseling, prayer, and just about anything else they can think of. So, at this time, I want to make it very clear that the problems between TM and me are complex, and that were far past the point of having the means or the strength to work it out. We have agreed that it is time for both of us to move on, and we understand the finality of this decision. We have loved each other for a long time, still do, and probably always will. As this process unfolds, we are doing our best to treat each other with as much kindness and respect as we can. We are committed to remaining friendsneither of us is vindictive or looking for a fight. We just want to go our separate ways, with a minimum of hassle. This will be my last post as Chrysalis. I am taking on a new identity; that of HollyBlue. I will explain the reasons shortly in my first post under that name. Thank you to everyone for your support and understanding. If you want to hope or pray anything for us, please just wish us peace and happiness as we begin our new lives, as well as a smooth transition from here to there.