Much of my family is highly religious, almost unfailingly in a manner consistent with the teachings of Jesus, kindness, compassion, and acceptance of others' life experiences. I was expected to attend church but never cared for it. By the time I was six or seven, I decided that I didn't believe in God. still, I had to go and behave well, which I did. Up to that point my feelings toward religion were primarily of skeptical disinterest.
As it became clear to me that I am gay and with the rise of the religious right as a political movement, my feelings have shifted to anger. Stories such as that of the church in Atlanta or the current story about Oral Roberts University feed that anger and disdain toward organized religion. Still, my family and some of their friends have shown me that there are many people who practice religion and true christianity (love, acceptance, kindess, comapssion, charity, altruism) simultaneously.
However, to me it's all about supernatural belief systems that have no legitimate claim on my life.
Lexingtony, if you have a need for a church, some viable options for you would include unitarianism, the United Church of Christ, and the Metropolitan Community Church.
Unitarians include people who tend to be kind of pleasantly "out there," political activists for liberal causes, and people from other faiths who have come to a very open-minded group fellowship. The Unitarian Church was, I believe, the first relgion in the US to perform gay marriages. It has lots of gay clergy, which seems to be a non-issue. In the wake of the Boy Scouts winning their court case that they have the right to exclude gays, the Unitarian Church started a similar but inclusive group for youth. As I undersatnd it, the origins of the Unitarian Chuch go back to the Deists and it is not Christian. I've always enjoyed attending.
My take is that the Untied Church of Christ is more mainstream, but very accepting. However, I don't really know.
The Metropolitan Community Church was founded by a gay clergyman for the gay community. It is definitely Christian although individual churches seem to vary greatly in their tone and membership. Some are basically like Baptist churches, just full of gay people. Others are very formal with robes, processions, smells and bells. As an agnostic, it has no appeal to me but serves an important purpose for gay people who are attached to Christian denominations that oppress and shun them.
Dave