Circumcision - just had my pre assesment

[Sapien]

Thanks for your messages guys. I think i was panaking a bit when i opened this thread.

Yes the doctor said ive got phimosis im not sure they get paid extra here in the UK.

Alan_B/mrlargeone you have made me feel alot better about the whole thing. Thanks.

Ive just got to think that this is something that has to be done and get it over and done with. I kinda hopeing it will boost my confidence so i can loose it! Time will tell...

With work ive told them i just need time off for Hospital but its the questions from colleges that i dont think i can answer! How comes youve had 3 weeks off!

It is a good thing to discuss before you make such a decision but don't rely solely on dialogue from this website to make such a decision.

Those above that have also undergone this procedure as adults and recommend it have not been circumcised very long. I have been circumcised for over 40 years and it sucks. It wasn't so bad when I was younger but circumcision does have long term consequences. This may not yet be apparent to them yet. Also, since they made that decision they want to reinforce with themselves that they made the right decision (even though deep down they still question it) - it is a psychological defense mechanism. Their recommendation of proceeding with the surgery to you makes them feel more confident they made the right decision even though it may not be true.

Is your doctor circumcised? I know in the UK it is not as common as other parts of the world but it is still practiced there - especially in upper classes - it is possible that your Dr is cut and thus would recommend that as the best solution for you as well. Plus, he may be more interested in making some easy money then your welfare.

I suggest that you look at the NORM website and some other websites that describe differences between intact and circumcised sex. Christ, you are considering to have approximately 25 square inches of highly erogenous, nerve laden tissue removed from your dick. Believe me, that has to have consequences. I think the decision deserves some effort.

I would find a doctor that is not so cut happy, there are other techniques that can be used to resolve your issue - learn about them and try them before you resort to circumcision. Circumcision should be a very last resort.

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

Once it's done there's no going back, did the doctor say there were any other avenues that could be explored before going for a circumcision? You don't mention how often you wank or if you've tried stretching it. From a woman's point of view a foreskin adds a lot of interest to a cock.
If it were me before going ahead I'd make sure it was the only option and that I'd exhausted anything else that was a possibility, you can always have it done at a later date, you can't undo it.

 

[gymfresh]

Everyone sees it their own way, James89, but I use this rule of thumb: circumcision is appropriate under 2 scenarios.

1) It is cosmetic surgery on your penis that you've thoroughly checked out, and really want. No one should argue with a competent adult's well-reasoned decisions regarding his own body. But circumcision is a complex issue, so the research part shouldn't be taken lightly by you, even if your GP may seem unconcerned. It's your penis, not his.

This recent post on another forum summarizes some (not all) of the key issues with infant circumcision, and most of the physiologic points are relevant to adult circumcision. The key difference with adult circ is that there is more to work with and the resulting wound needs to be stitched.

2) You have one of the standard medical indications for circumcision with or without recurrent pain. These are

a) Scarification of the tissue around the mucocutaneous junction, leading to resistant phimosis
b) BXO (balanitis xerotica obliterans) with attendant phimosis which fails to respond to standard steroidal treatment


Pretty much any other condition can be, and routinely is, treated more conservatively than with a full circumcision. A tight foreskin in and of itself is not a true medical indication for a circumcision, and a number of men go through life with foreskins that don't retract -- even during intercourse. Quite a few of these find that their foreskins do indeed spontaneously start to retract after they begin having sex or wanking more often. Not long ago I read an account by a man who was completely phimosed at the time he married, and his foreskin only started retracting on its own after 5 years of marriage. Now it works flawlessly.

If the position of your foreskin when hard causes no pain and hygiene is not a problem, then the only question for you is whether on some level you want to be circumcised for social or cultural reasons. It is a reasonable option when elected knowledgeably.

 

[Sapien]

1) Not attractive (anyone who thinks an uncut penis looks better than cut just is in denial. The majority of people find cut to be better looking, especially American girls). The way the head is covered does not give it an appealing look.

Disagree - glans of circumcised dicks dry out. With aging this effect worsens - by the 60's (younger in some people) glans start turning greyish and more purple rather than the pink colour. Americans and american girls think this because it is ingrained into them - effect of our culture.

5) Major reason is SEX! Although the foreskin keeps the head sensitive, I found it actually getting in the way of good sex because of the friction. The foreskin rolls back and forth and that minimizes your feel of the girl's mouth or vagina. You can hold the foreskin back, I guess, but that isn't really all that great. But this is preference so you decide. I hated it. The way I think of it is, think of a long sleeve shirt as the foreskin. If you take the other hand and stroke that arm, you will notice the friction of the sleeve and how it rolls back and forth. Now roll that sleeve back and stroke it the same way, you will notice how you can feel the knuckles, the wrists, the forearm, everything! That's the difference between foreskin vs. no foreskin.

NOW, sensitivity is an issue!

Here are some of the negatives I do notice though. Read carefully!

a) There is definitely less sensitivity once your foreskin is gone since a lot of nerves are lost. However, you still have your glans and a little area of skin around it which is still sensitive. But, sex is different because there is no friction (sleeve analogy). My orgasms are not as powerful, but I still prefer it now than before. This is all preference, however. I personally like it lots more...I feel freer and the rolling/gliding of the foreskin was a nuisance to me. It kept the head sensitive for sure and lots of nerves sensitive when rolled back, but wasn't worth the bad sex experiences I had.

Just wait for another 15 or 20 years of being circumcised when you can't feel anything and you orgasms are not only less powerful but pretty much non-existent. Perhaps improved technique would have been an alternative to circumcision.

 

[Florida Boy]

I have read this post with interest. I was circumcised late in life. From reading your post, I cannot be sure what your problems are. Surely, something existed for your parents to take you to the hospital at such a young age. Could you not fully retract your foreskin?

You say that your attempted sexual experiences ended with nothing really happening. What does that mean? Pre- mature ejaculation? The loss of an erection? The loss of interest? It makes a difference.

I have not read the other responses. Maybe I am totally off base in my initial reaction or maybe I’m not. I will, however, read the other responses and your additional comments. I wish you luck in whatever you decide.

 

[gymfresh]

Just wait for another 15 or 20 years of being circumcised when you can't feel anything and you orgasms are not only less powerful but pretty much non-existent.

Sapien, you know I respect you and agree with almost all your posts. But I think you've engaged in hyperbole with this quote. I wholeheartedly agree that for some (many?) men the sensitivity of the penis diminishes after circumcision, in most cases only after a period of (preceived) heightened sensitivity and then possibly a rapid fall-off in early middle age, possibly sooner, possibly later. You may be unnecessarily striking fear in the OP by generalizing about what happens to a number of men. My personal guess is that the problems you describe are far worse for those circumcised as infants, since the foreskin plays a significant role in completing the development of the glans. Conversely, the infant penis recovers from the injury of circumcision with a more rapid and different remapping of the vascular system and some of the nerves. And proper bloodflow is the essence of a well-functioning penis.

The bigger issue than sensitivity is sensation. Sensitivity is the recognition of stimuli, while sensation is the processing. And it takes both ends -- functioning nerve endings and a functioning brain -- to make sensation reach its full potential. The simple fact is that a lot of intact guys have no idea of the full potential for pleasure of their foreskins, either because they have discomfort, or phimosis, or just plain disinterest.

I'm a car nut and was talking with a friend recently about the marvels of a particular high-performance luxury car (Aston Martin). He said he was perfectly happy with his Chevy Aveo. I said yeah, but don't you want to do 0-60 in 5 seconds and have total handling of a car that has a couple of hundred horses to spare? He said he uses his car to go to work, though sometimes he goes fast and his Aveo goes plenty fast enough for him. I just shook my head.

I often find the same thing with penises. Some guys I'm with just want to have sex for getting to the climax. And the ride's plenty good enough, cut or uncut. I've even met a lot of intact guys who had no idea why they had a foreskin but "put up with it". So, I showed them what it could do -- and for most, there was no turning back. They view and use their foreskins in a completely different way now, and marvel that they actually had an Aston in the garage all this time. Maximizing sensation from the versatile foreskin is not always intuitive.

I was circumcised at 26, best thing I did and am not regretting one bit. The foreskin was fine, but I did not feel fully comfortable in it--looks-wise, hygiene wise, convenience wise, sex satisification wise, etc.

1) Not attractive (anyone who thinks an uncut penis looks better than cut just is in denial. The majority of people find cut to be better looking, especially American girls). The way the head is covered does not give it an appealing look.

Ay, caramba. I think there are better ways to say you're personally happy than to impugn lots of other peoples' taste with a wide generalization.

I actually feel 180° differently. As much as I love cocks, I think circumcised penises look completely wrong. I do not want to see anyone's glans, especially not in a casual setting like the locker room or showers. Yuck. No scar, no color difference, no hair pulled up on the shaft. No thanks.

If I'm looking at porn, I mostly yawn at the ones without foreskins. They're incomplete, to me. However, I wouldn't ever denigrate anyone else fetishizing cut cock, or fetishizing tattoos. I have friends who think their bodies are incomplete without tattoos or piercings, and that's cool. Tats, piercings, glans-splittings and circumcisions can be interesting sometimes; they're just not for me. If I were to generalize my views in the same way you did, I'd have to say that intact cocks just look a thousand times better, and any given penis probably looks better with its foreskin than without. Most of my friends seem to prefer uncut, too. But to each his own. Free choice.

 

[Fredro]

Some foreskins do not retract during sex. I would only consider chopping off a body part if it was causing me pain. Does it cause pain?

 

[vindicator]

vindicator the issue is i cant pull the forskin back when erect. Doctor said it would cause discomfort during sex. I will try and upload a picture at some point.

Thats a good question he just said they would remove the foreskin i have no specifics.

I might be wrong but i get the feeling in the UK you get the standard treatment for free (nhs), if you want to be specific you have to go pay (private). Maybe someone will have the answer.

Its unfortunate that the doctor didnt really discuss the operation or options with you. I sounds like he just rubber stamped getting cut. Now, you must consider that the doctor has a bias like we all do about things either conciously or unconciously. He might be circumicised and he might think its better for whatever reason, he would be more likely to recommend getting cut because thats what he is. He might be jewish or muslim and might subconciously recommend it because thats the culture he's raised in. This is where the second opinion comes in.

Do you know what kind of doctor he was? A general practitioner or a specialist (urologist)? If he's not a specialist, you might want to do some research and find someone who specialises in issues like these that you can tell him what you want to have corrected with the least invasive method possible. If he recommends getting cut, ask him about other options first and if he says they wont work for you ask why. The problem with medical treatment today is that most times people just TRUST the doctors and dont ask questions or research the issues. You should be fully knowledge when going in to meet with him so you can ask questions. It never hurts to ask questions and ask the doctor to explain his diagnosis and reason for one course of treatment over other options.

I think what other people have mentioned is that circumcision is the usually the last option for your issue. Normally there are creams that are recommended along with stretching that over time can completely eliminate your issue with no cuts, no scars and no time off. From there, if it is your frenum that is causing the foreskin not to go back and stretching doesnt help you can either have a doctor lengthen or remove the frenum.

Of course if you WANT to be cut, you might want to skip that because you know what you want already. It really depends if you would prefer to keep your foreskin and just repair the issue or if you prefered to be circumcised any.

Do some googling on the procedure and the circumcision styles available so you can see the results and figure out what you prefer going in if there are no other options or you already know what you want done.

 

[dcw4]

dont do it unless YOU have too.
I had mine done last year, wasnt worth it,
i have 2 skin tags from the operation, the doctor said thats normal,
I said its not, it looks like warts!
he is a very highly respected urologist.
and afterwards the skin is a little tight, takes a while to, well you know,
really really think about it, if it isnt nessecary, i wouldnt do it.

 

[B_dxjnorto]

he is a very highly respected urologist.

Sorry that happened to you DCW. Remember the guy probably has a big house and an expensive car and lives large as most doctors do. Follow the money trail and you can see why this sort of thing is still so common in the U.S.

 

[mandoman]

Here is the simple breakdown of how it went and how it is. I was circumcised at 26, best thing I did and am not regretting one bit. I did not have any issues as in phimosis or anything. The foreskin was fine, but I did not feel fully comfortable in it--looks-wise, hygiene wise, convenience wise, sex satisification wise, etc. This should cover most of your concerns.

Circumcision is a BIG decision and something you must research and think about a great deal before you finalize your decision. I did it before I, for many years, did not like the foreskin for these reasons:

1) Not attractive (anyone who thinks an uncut penis looks better than cut just is in denial. The majority of people find cut to be better looking, especially American girls). The way the head is covered does not give it an appealing look.
2) Easy cleaning (the foreskin can get smelly if you don't really take care of it well. I take like 1-3 showers a day but still feel dirty, especially after peeing because residue pee does get trapped under the foreskin). During the hot, humid summer season, it gets very damp down there! You sweat a bit more. If you don't trim your pubic hairs, when you roll the foreskin back to piss your hairs sometimes gets trapped in the foreskin as it rolls back, so that hurts and sucks. Just some of the reasons.
3) Girls seem to prefer it and I like the feel of being cut more. I almost don't remember living 26 years uncut.
4) It is easier to PE if you stretch or use some devices. PUMPING is much better without a foreskin as with the foreskin, the donut effect is just the ugliest thing!
5) Major reason is SEX! Although the foreskin keeps the head sensitive, I found it actually getting in the way of good sex because of the friction. The foreskin rolls back and forth and that minimizes your feel of the girl's mouth or vagina. You can hold the foreskin back, I guess, but that isn't really all that great. But this is preference so you decide. I hated it. The way I think of it is, think of a long sleeve shirt as the foreskin. If you take the other hand and stroke that arm, you will notice the friction of the sleeve and how it rolls back and forth. Now roll that sleeve back and stroke it the same way, you will notice how you can feel the knuckles, the wrists, the forearm, everything! That's the difference between foreskin vs. no foreskin.

NOW, sensitivity is an issue!

Here are some of the negatives I do notice though. Read carefully!

a) There is definitely less sensitivity once your foreskin is gone since a lot of nerves are lost. However, you still have your glans and a little area of skin around it which is still sensitive. But, sex is different because there is no friction (sleeve analogy). My orgasms are not as powerful, but I still prefer it now than before. This is all preference, however. I personally like it lots more...I feel freer and the rolling/gliding of the foreskin was a nuisance to me. It kept the head sensitive for sure and lots of nerves sensitive when rolled back, but wasn't worth the bad sex experiences I had.

b) Masturbation was better when I HAD the foreskin though. Jelqing seemed to be easier with the foreskin too.

c) There is risk to the procedure, but in terms of surgery, this is the easiest of surgeries. All it is is cutting aways some skin and suturing it back together. Took less than 30 minutes. And it did not hurt. IMPORTANT: I wish I asked my urologist more questions before the procedure!!!! He was the type of doc that has done the procedure over "thousands" of times, director of the Urology department, etc...who seemed to just breezed through the initial diagnosis and I felt intimidated to ask any questions. DO NOT BE LIKE THAT! Ask as much as you want. It's your body!

My procedure went well and it looks pretty good! But, I wish I had inquired about it further. For instance I wanted to see if he could do it differently from the technique he used which is the "guided forcep" which is how they circumcise babies--the foreskin is pulled out and cut, then sutured to the shaft skin. That was how mine was done. The negative of this is that you do lose that sensitivity of the foreskin that has developed since you've been a baby!

I wish I asked about another technique "Sleeve Resection" where the foreskin is pulled foreward, then two circular incisions are made at the shaft and removed and sutured back so you will have ALL or MOST of that foreskin nerves still with you!!!!! Amazing! You lose only shaft skin which isn't really sensitive. This is a much hard procedure, but not really difficult if you think of it. I wish I inquired about this! Here is an article that discusses it!

How do you perform an adult circumcision? - By Daniel Engber - Slate Magazine

This is just an overview of the process. I have no regrets about it and much prefer it now because it looks better (I'm not nervous about walking around in the steam room at the gym), it feels much free-er and I don't have to roll my foreskin back to keep it from sweating (Oh, if you get turned on and get that "drool" affect, like when a girl teases you, well that drool gets trapped in the foreskin too and that's uncomfortable).

These are the things and concerns that come to mind. Feel free to ask me questions (PM) if you like and I will help as much as I can. I wish I saved those pre and post surgery pictures. I kind of figured I was starting anew so I deleted them from hard drive--not too bright.

Good luck!

This is body dysmorphic disorder. There really is no other explanation for desiring to cut of a normal body part, other than you have talked yourself into believing you'd be better off without it. Like Michael Jackson's nose.

 

[sexyirishboy]

now i myself am not a big fan of it .
in fact the guys that ive talked to that are cut wished they warnt.
now im not circumcised there was a time that i was thinking that maybe i might need it as my foreskin was too tight to be pulled back when hard.
so when i went to the Doctor he told me that i dont need to have Circumcision instead i could have my frenulum cut so i whent for that and im glad i did.
i find it better as my foreskin can now move when im hard the reason why i didnt go for Circumcision is because the Doctor said i would loose sensitivity as the most sensitive parts of the penis are the foreskin and the frenulum .
and for those parents who want thir kids done for Health reasons i say to you bullshit i mean religion is one thing but when your reason is health thats just been stupid is not that hard to wash a cock and if you say decreases like hiv i say to you expect that your kid will be sleeping around or will be a porn star or something
all im sayn is if you want to get it done when your adult thats fine but to a child i just dont think its right

 

[Sapien]

Sapien, you know I respect you and agree with almost all your posts. But I think you've engaged in hyperbole with this quote. I wholeheartedly agree that for some (many?) men the sensitivity of the penis diminishes after circumcision, in most cases only after a period of (preceived) heightened sensitivity and then possibly a rapid fall-off in early middle age, possibly sooner, possibly later. You may be unnecessarily striking fear in the OP by generalizing about what happens to a number of men. My personal guess is that the problems you describe are far worse for those circumcised as infants, since the foreskin plays a significant role in completing the development of the glans. Conversely, the infant penis recovers from the injury of circumcision with a more rapid and different remapping of the vascular system and some of the nerves. And proper bloodflow is the essence of a well-functioning penis.

The bigger issue than sensitivity is sensation. Sensitivity is the recognition of stimuli, while sensation is the processing. And it takes both ends -- functioning nerve endings and a functioning brain -- to make sensation reach its full potential. The simple fact is that a lot of intact guys have no idea of the full potential for pleasure of their foreskins, either because they have discomfort, or phimosis, or just plain disinterest.

I agree that there may be a difference in the potential affects of circumcision on those circumcised as adults versus as infants. Also, there is an obvious disparity of experience within each of the separate groups in regards to the affects of circumcision.

I agree with your statement that many intact guys do not know the full potential of their foreskins (hence adult circumcision strictly for cosmetic reasons). Also, I believe that a lot of circumcised guys really don't understand what they are missing and aging circumcised guys don't associate the decline in pleasure with their circumcision. The severity of these affects vary greatly from individual to individual.

I also, very much understand your explanation between sensitivity and sensation. However, the removal of foreskin removes the possibility of experiencing many sensations because the erogenous tissue is simply no longer present. I know that by restoring I have experienced new sensations that were not previously possible (though I will never be able to experience true intact sexual pleasure).

Since there really is no way of knowing for sure the full extent of how a circumcision will affect one in both short term and the long term it is best that the OP be fully aware of the potential consequences of such a decision. There is potential that those circumcised as adults will also experience a significant decline in sexual response in middle age. Most of the bloggers that have been cut as adults have only a few of years experience with being circumcised and thus do not know the long term affects. As you say, these affects may not be as severe on those circumcised as adults but maybe they will. Perhaps it will take longer but the same mechanisms are in place for causing the decline.

 

[canon]

Being a med student I have witnessed a few male circumcisions and I have followed the recovery of one of them. I would say that recovery is a month to 6 weeks providing there are no infections to deal with. From my perspective circumcision is a course of action for males with foreskin problems that can't be resolved in any other manner. It's a last course of action. When it is a cosmetic surgery is when I have a personal problem with it. I would say that less than 1% are medically necessary. To say, "Listen to your physician or surgeon" I would say to talk to more than one. If your GP agrees that you are a candidate and refers you to a surgeon and both agree I would say that you should listen.

 

[gooner18]

We should all be careful before judging a medical case without all the details. Sounds like pretty good advice to explore all the possibilities though...

You mentioned you were a virgin. Masturbation can be totally different in terms of the effects on the foreskin and the friction on your head. My foreskin got much looser quite quickly once I started having regular sex.

 

[xenon-naturist]

I was very happy with my foreskin and it worked well, until I developed a skin condition that affected my glans - although cirumcision was advised I said no and continued with topical treatment - after a couple of years the dermatologist said that it was not working and that I should be aware there was a risk of penis cancer -a small risk but as the consequence is a lot worst than having the foreskin ff, not one I wanted.

The urologist confirmed that he only did medical, not cosmetic, circumscision which gave me some confidence. The operation was fine, I had never had a general anaesthetic and was concerned, but it was OK and I got home the same evening which was a huge relief.

It was very sensitive for about a week after and I used to sleep with my dick wrapped in kitchen roll, as I got hard every night and there would be some bleeding. I wasn't working at the time which definitely made things easier. I don't see that you need 3 weeks off, 3 days would be enough if the op were done mid week. If you are concered about people asking (and I would have been) why say anything just have it done in your holiday - you wouldn't want to go on an activity holiday or anywhere in a pool but could easily have a lesiurely time.

I had spoken to a doctor at www.norm-uk.org a group that deals with foreskin restoration and avoidance of unnecessary cutting - however they do also realise that there are times when a cut is necessary, which was something that gave me confidence, when I was cut. I also returned for a vist post cut and was told that I had been lucky with the quality of the circumcision - so if at all possible make sure you get someone who knows what he is doing. Would also recommend a chat with norm to get a second opinion.

 

[Harrylondon01]

Hey mister, Just slow down a minute!

I had a penis like yours - could not retract when erect. I would take the guy's advice about the fleshlight and see how intercourse feels for you. I would also try stretching the foreskin when you masturbate (twice a day, if you can find the time). Pull the skin away from your body and try to insert a finger or two into the opening. Use lubrication and make it fun. In a few months the skin will stretch. Believe me - it works. Think African tribes and ear lobes etc.
Besides, there are many men in the world who father children and who have happy sex lives and who can not retract their foreskins easily when erect. All penises are different. I really would delay any surgery - this is your penis and you have to claim it for yourself and 'own it' (I know that sounds weird). Many medics, especially from the previous generation want to circumcise, when in fact, stretching is much less trauma. I stretched my foreskin over a few months - get some steroid cream from the doctor and apply it thinly. Your penis looks really okay to me, like mine, and I have great pentrative sex. The foreskin was tight, but it loosened up in time. Good luck.

 

[SirConcis]

If your foreskin cannot retract when hard, your sex experience is greatly reduced. You don't have any of the advantages of being uncut and none of the advantages of being cut.

And during sex, you constantly have a fear that some movement may cause pain/disconfort is skin is pull back too much.

I don't know how tight you skin is when hard and when soft. Can't judge whether stretching might or might not work.

Many will see the foreksin retract during erection at onset of puberty. And every erection will stretch the foreksin to adapt to the size of the glans, so as the penis grows during puberty, the foreksin adapts.

But when your foreksin is long enough to remain over head during erections, it never gets the "training" to widen to accomodate retraction from an ever growing glans. So you end up with a permanent foreksin.

The condition that resulted in your childhood phimosis to never clear up (aka: the long foreksin) will make it hard for any stretching exercises to generate permanent solutions.

You can get a partial circumcision that leaves you glans at least half covered when soft, but causes head to be fully exposed when hard. This will remove the tight portion of your foreksin, and give you a pain-free fully mobile short foreskin. But getting perfect cosmetic result in a partial circumcision is harder when you have a thick foreskin (typical of those with long foreskins).

If you like the "circumcised" look, then you go for a real circumcision and make sure that the doc removes enough skin to leave your head bare. Last thing you want is a circumcision that is loose and when you undress you find an ugly roll of skin over the rim of head.

You will find a great improvement in the pleasure you get with your penis either way. Partial circ is closer to being uncut. You still masturbate by sliding skin up/down. For full circ, your masturbation techniques will vary more and it takes a few months to relearn how to masturbate. But once you get the right technique, the please is as good if not better than a partial circ.

If you get a partial circumcision, you can always go back for a full circumcision later of you want. Circumcision is a very simple operation that can be done at a doctor's surgery (clinic) under local anesthetic. You can walk out of there and take the bus home.

We make it a big deal because it affects a part of the body that we cherish and think about a lot. But technically, that operation is very simple.

 

[Viking_UK]

I don't know if this is particularly relevant to you, but an ex of mine was non retractile. However, it didn't stop him having a full, active sex life.

Sometimes circumcision is the only option, especially if having sex is painful for you, but if it doesn't hurt, and especially if you can retract while soft, there are other options.

I'm presuming you've tried stretching in the past, but if not, it's worth giving that a go, with or without the steroid creams.

Try to get a second opinion and also look into the other options besides a full circumcision. One of them might suit you better.

Make up your own mind. By all means take advice from other people, but be sensible about it and do what's right for you. After all, it's your body and you're the one who will have to live with the results. Good luck with whatever you decide. I hope it works out well for you.

 

[maxuncut]

As someone who is uncut but whose frenulum broke during sex as a teen, I kind of see both sides of the issue.

There seems to be a spectrum of retractability. Some guys I've known, were always able to easily retract. I on the other hand tended more towards the tighter side.

The best thing that happened to me was that my frenulum broke. Once it healed, it solved my retraction problem AND it solved what I'll refer to as the stigma problem because within a short time, I could easily retract. In fact, I've had sex with many partners who didn't even realize (either initially or at all) that I wasn't cut.

I know that many here love foreskins. And I agree that there are benefits.

But IMO there is a social stigma involved in being uncut - especially as a youth in the US. That's just the way it is. A lot of that simply stems from being different than most other kids in school. (It is certainly less now than in the 70s-80s when I was in high school.)

It isn't enough of a stigma for me to have had my son circ'd though.

I suspect that a large part of the OP's issues might be caused by a fear of pulling out his uncut cock and getting an adverse reaction.

[Insert ironic story] That happened to me once at a party. The girl simply said she wasn't having sex with me because it was "gross", got dressed and walked out. Although I have no pics on here - I've been told I have an attractive dick. It worked out very well because she immediately told her friend - who was much hotter but whom I had no clue liked me - and an hour later was banging the hell out of her friend.]

Anyway, I'd encourage the OP to get a 2nd/3rd opinion. Explore the stretching regimine - and determine whether it is the foreskin/frenulum that is causing the problem.

Don't just go to a Dr. who does circs. As someone else alluded to - most get paid for doing them so they are going to have you do one rather than not.

Good luck.