ClaireTalon said:
In your opinion, who could keep the secret of a little fun roll on the side to himself? A wife, or a husband? Might be interesting in this context.
Sweetheart, a husband, of course! The average man lies so much he no longer realises he does it. No one can reasonably deny that the majority of men they know cheat on their spouses, and while this isn't exclusive to men, the numbers are certainly MUCH higher.
Claire, you and I are in the extreme minority of sexually liberated women, and I wish it were not so. I look forward to a time where people can relate to each other without feeling the NEED to lie, but this would require our SOCIETY to grow up in this aspect. Americans arrogantly refuse to acknowledge the fact that we are still in our infancy in social development.
It is also well known that men tend to have more frequent sexual thoughts than women by a long shot and also more sex drive in general. We know what it's like for them, don't we? How would you like to be betrothed to some sniveling airhead who questioned your every move while she starved you out for sex? Of course, if you cheat, she'll NEVER take responsibility for withholding sex from you in the first place, she'll just play the role of the long suffering wife with a rogue of a husband. He'll lose half his pension, rights to see his kids, the house and any form of stability in life he has worked for if he is honest about needing to have his sexual needs met. An unequal situation, for sure. Women can never be equal until WE start acting equal, and we could begin by not acting like 12 year olds who never grow up, needing constant reassurances we don't look fat, shying away from sex, not earning our fair share, and generally allowing ourselves to become vegetative, stupid and unappealing to our mate. Bet you weren't asking for all of that!
So my answer is that men lie more, but women have more than a passing share in creating an environment where this is almost necessary. I KNOW that at least a small part of the attraction to being gay for many men is the aspect of not having a woman trying to control their every move and using sex as the catalyst.