You pin women down when you snuggle them?
I don't think we have the same definition in mind for that word...
Climbing the orgasm ladder
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You pin women down when you snuggle them?
I don't think we have the same definition in mind for that word...
No of course not. I'm so confused right now. I can watch and feel my girlfriend orgasm when I've do this and she has never once complained. It might shock you but I have talked to her about this multiple times. A guy being dominate in a sexual moment isn't exactly some strange fetish. I would never ever do this to someone I had just met, I've only done it to girls who I have dated for an extensive period of time. And she has said stop and I stopped, when she got a cramp, wasn't feeling it, or just wanted to move on.
Because I'm a triple B, a Baby Back Bitch.
Btw, I didn't not see this post.
I do appreciate what you said in this specific post, but I had to hold you to the fire for a bit anyway.
Because you said, you're gaining from it. Blunt is my style. Take it or leave it.
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I'm not coy, inexperienced, nor uncertain. If I "tap out" I am oversensitive, or have lost interest. I suppose loss of interest is curable. It's a side effect of some orgasms, causes a brief refractory period. Making out while hanging out naked is the only known cure. It's not that I'm wrong about being done, it's that I've rebooted, and am no longer done. I WAS done. But that was then.
For me, there is no ladder. I have one orgasm at a time. I do not return to the pre-orgasmic plateau as some women do. I go back to the beginning, unaroused. Sometimes, I'm no longer aroused, but still interested in providing pleasure. Sometimes, I'm no longer aroused but willing to pretend I'm still interested in giving pleasure. Sometimes, giving pleasure will reinvigorate my arousal. Sometimes, I want to sleep or eat. I almost always am down for a snuggle. Sometimes, I'm ready to get dressed and leave. Always when I say I'm done, I'm done. At least for the time being.
Men have tried to eat me out at that point. I hurt most of them, either physically, or emotionally. (Physically when hypersensitive, emotionally, by accident, when simply disinterested.) I have tried to see what happens if I let a man keep going. I become distracted when disinterested, and my lizard brain makes me do something violent (either lash out, or buck) and escape when oversensitive. The key to my libido is somewhere in my mouth. The fastest path to reboot is kissing. I love to smooch and be held. I can only say "stop" and push a man away for a few seconds before instinct takes over and he's in peril.
For me, there is no ladder. I have one orgasm at a time. I do not return to the pre-orgasmic plateau as some women do. I go back to the beginning, unaroused. Sometimes, I'm no longer aroused, but still interested in providing pleasure. Sometimes, I'm no longer aroused but willing to pretend I'm still interested in giving pleasure. Sometimes, giving pleasure will reinvigorate my arousal. Sometimes, I want to sleep or eat. I almost always am down for a snuggle. Sometimes, I'm ready to get dressed and leave. Always when I say I'm done, I'm done. At least for the time being.
Men have tried to eat me out at that point. I hurt most of them, either physically, or emotionally. (Physically when hypersensitive, emotionally, by accident, when simply disinterested.) I have tried to see what happens if I let a man keep going. I become distracted when disinterested, and my lizard brain makes me do something violent (either lash out, or buck) and escape when oversensitive. The key to my libido is somewhere in my mouth. The fastest path to reboot is kissing. I love to smooch and be held. I can only say "stop" and push a man away for a few seconds before instinct takes over and he's in peril.
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I'm not your buddy, guy!
I'm not your guy friend!
I'm not your friend, guy!!!
(Yes, I watch too much South Park)... (And holy shit that works on so many levels because of your username)
Lmao you're awesome. For that alone I forgive you for riding me so hard.
Except that I never apologized
I guess you're just that good.
You posed my question better and answered it at the same time, thank you so much. Because you're right, there needs to be that reset, the cuddle and make out time. A make out session, a nibble on the ear, and a bit of fingerplay is what I was talking about. Do you like it when your man holds you down?
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Depends on the man. Depends on what he hopes to accomplish. Did we wrestle? If he won, well, I'm pinned. In the middle of sex? Sure, unless I ask him to let go, or have just said no, to anything. If I say no to anything at all, pinning me is a mistake he will remember for a long time. My legs are very strong. No one wins when I panic.
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When I start to go beyond that point it's usually because the pain is outweighing the pleasure, like discomfort or starting to get cramps from cumming so hard. My husband has learned when I've had enough over the years, sometimes obviously things can get carried away and I'll often push myself as far as I can if it's feeling good but as I said, sometimes it can leave me with cramps especially in my stomach and thighs. I think dehydration has an effect too, if a long session I find that keeping well hydrated helps to keep the cramps at bay.
I'm glad I wasn't online when this was posted... because I had a very angry reaction to the "she's done" followed by the "pin her down" part.
I mostly agree with AE. I don't think I reboot, but it's more like "sleep mode". I'm good with being done but can easily get fired back up. Sometimes, it's a bigger orgasm, sometimes not.
I mostly agree with AE. I don't think I reboot, but it's more like "sleep mode". I'm good with being done but can easily get fired back up. Sometimes, it's a bigger orgasm, sometimes not.
I feel like I offended a lot of people my bad. If I ever ask another question I'll be far more careful with my wording and explanation.
Probably a good idea. “Pin her down” was very poor wording. Anything implying lack of consent is going to get you in really hot water around here. Then again, you are from Toronto.
Probably a good idea. “Pin her down” was very poor wording. Anything implying lack of consent is going to get you in really hot water around here. Then again, you are from Toronto.
I also believe that I might be posting on the wrong forum. The female community here has clearly been pushed to the edge. And I can't judge that because I don't know what they have gone through. But the rage and anger in response to my corrections is something that I never expected. Again, I get how I worded my initial comment in an incorrect way, but the follow up to my responses boggles my mind. Why not relax and have a discussion? Get to the root and figure out what is actually being discussed?
Oh, well, that doesn’t take much investigation to figure out. The women here need to be tough to survive. Extremely tough. I’d almost say, biker bar tough.
Imagine being treated like a sex toy from the moment you join the site, being bombarded with sexual requests, dick pics, and the like. Misogyny runs rampant, violence against women rears it’s ugly head far too often. Feminism is considered an ugly word. Check out the porn forum. It’s disgusting.
The women who stick around are on high alert for anti-consent, pro violence, misogyny. Your unfortunate use of the wording “pin her down” really spoke to forcibly moving forward with sex, even though she tapped out. Even if it’s not what you meant, it’s what you said. You dug yourself a deep hole - maybe you can dig yourself out, maybe not. Probably not out of that particular statement, but there are other conversations.
Regardless, either you can hang with us or you can’t. We are pretty good ladies, all things considered. Tolerant? Some of us more than others, maybe, but all of us a little bit “mad, bad and dangerous to know.”
