Clitoral vs. vaginal orgasm...am I normal?

[Symphonic]

You are normal. It's fact, not opinion.

 

[Mike7]

You are perfectly normal.

Female penetration orgasm are different, more an emotional and mental climax I think. Not the same feeling as clitoral one from what I can see and gather. I agree with those who said stuff about the brain being the biggest sex organ. Be creative and don't be shy about not holding back and letting it all go to release all that sexual tension helps. That's why after not having sex for a while it's more orgasmic.

Also try being vocal if you don't make much noise, that's also a primal release. I think the vaginal orgasm is more of a combination of physical and mental release.

Another thing to try that works for us is penetration after she has a series of clitoral orgasms from oral. My wife loves being taken hard after she's exhausted from a nice long oral multi-O first. That just pushes her to a higher level and every hard deep stroke sends her through the roof. Also we don't do oral every time, maybe every other time to keep it exciting for her.

 

[tasteslikejellyjam]

This may have been covered before, so if it has forgive me. I would like the opinion of the wonderful ladies here (guys can give advice as well).
For some reason, I can RARELY orgasm from intercourse alone. In fact, I almost always require 15 or minutes of foreplay with a great deal centered on the clit.

After I am sufficiently turned on, I have to have direct stimulation. When I am close to orgasm, then I like (GREAT LIKE!) to be penetrated and brought to orgasm. I then will usually have more than one.
But, only on very rare occasions do I orgasm from 15 minutes of intercourse.

It seems that a lot of the women here can have orgasms from intercourse alone. It's not that I don't get friction from my husband, because he is INCREDIBLY thick. I have to turned on and lubed up for him to painlessly enter me.

I have had a few occasions where I did orgasm from intercourse alone, but it was times when I had not had sex for a long time, or like once with a guy on the first time when I had an affair. It was my first black lover and I was so turned on that I had an orgasm quickly. I never had one with him after that because basically all we did was have intercourse without a lot of foreplay. The sex was good, but no orgasm.
Am I normal? Thanks for advice.

DeeDee

I use to work in the porn industry...
no not as an actress either...
but I'm not going to explain again...
I also sold dildos to house wives for several years while in college...
90% of the women I have talked to over the years cannot have vaginal orgasms...
and I would say 30% hated penetration in general...
we sold more clit vibes then any other toy...
next would be the "rabbits" which had the dildo with clit vibe...
a lot of women enjoyed that one because it massaged the vaginal canal rather then pumped at it...
personally I have both...
I need clit stimulation to help with the vaginal orgasm...
I am also a visual person... which most women aren't...
I get excited seeing a guy get hard & what not but I found most women think its gross..
which I believe is more of a societal mind fuck...
I also think more men acknowledge that women usually prefer clit stimulation for orgasm...
I think women also put too much pressure on themselves to be the "perfect" women/lover...
like when squirting became the thing...
every women wanted to squirt for men...
that's actually a rare occurrence (well real squirters not pee-ers)
and if you are able to do it... its more like extreme wetness...
and to tell you the truth its hard to work at vaginal orgasms...
the only thing that can kind of help is ben wa balls...
anyways... PM me any time you have other questions...
I also know a lot about toys & can find you names/visual references... =)

PS
like everyone else has said...
sex is mainly based on mental stimulation...
social stigmata doesn't help (i.e. what is expected of us)...
try to relax & accept your sexual self more... =)

 

[3664shaken]

Everyone is different - I have only orgasmed from Vaginal stimulation, clitoral feels good but I have never been able to climax from that only. I need penetration, does that make me weird or not normal?

NO that makes me uniquely ME and how you react makes you uniquely YOU.

 

[D_Peirsonne Plowblade]

Practice Practice Its that simple. Ill show you.

This may have been covered before, so if it has forgive me. I would like the opinion of the wonderful ladies here (guys can give advice as well).
For some reason, I can RARELY orgasm from intercourse alone. In fact, I almost always require 15 or minutes of foreplay with a great deal centered on the clit.

After I am sufficiently turned on, I have to have direct stimulation. When I am close to orgasm, then I like (GREAT LIKE!) to be penetrated and brought to orgasm. I then will usually have more than one.
But, only on very rare occasions do I orgasm from 15 minutes of intercourse.

It seems that a lot of the women here can have orgasms from intercourse alone. It's not that I don't get friction from my husband, because he is INCREDIBLY thick. I have to turned on and lubed up for him to painlessly enter me.

I have had a few occasions where I did orgasm from intercourse alone, but it was times when I had not had sex for a long time, or like once with a guy on the first time when I had an affair. It was my first black lover and I was so turned on that I had an orgasm quickly. I never had one with him after that because basically all we did was have intercourse without a lot of foreplay. The sex was good, but no orgasm.
Am I normal? Thanks for advice.

DeeDee